Everyone craves sincere praise, and once that desire is satisfied, people naturally develop a crush on the person who praises them. In an atmosphere of mutual appreciation, communication becomes natural and simple.
In interpersonal communication, praise can be described as a very powerful skill. Praise each other at the right time and sincerely, and the other party will be more useful, thus narrowing the distance between the two sides and making communication simple and smooth.
If you want to give the other party appropriate praise, the most important thing is to know more about the other party's information and grasp the other party's preferences and strengths, so that you can praise in a targeted manner and make the atmosphere of communication more harmonious. It can be said that praise is a form of communication that has almost no cost investment but can get a very high return. In interpersonal communication, if this method can be used well, it will be able to achieve unexpected results.
Praise is not blind, it requires mastering certain principles and techniques. The most important point is sincerity, only from the heart, sincere praise can touch the other party and achieve the desired effect. In addition, the appropriate timing of praise is also very important, only to find the right time, just the right amount of praise to praise each other, will make the other party feel comfortable.
Sir Chester Field once made a very clever statement about praise: "Words of praise do not always have a good effect, and may also have a bad effect because of the wrong occasion or timing." Instead of that, it's better not to say anything. ”
This is the case, and while praise is effective for communication, it's hard to do the best. A person who knows nothing about the communication object and does not understand the other party's preferences wants to give the communication object the right praise, which can be described as "difficult to go to the sky". If you have to praise without knowing it, there will be a situation of "donkey lips are not right for the horse's mouth" in the middle of the day, and encountering cold scenes is only a small matter, and may also cause the other party to be puzzled or even angry.
Those who have achieved a lot are often more adept at using praise to win people's hearts and minds, win support, and achieve their goals. Charles Schwab, the steel king of the United States, once said: "Criticism is the most confident means of killing people, so I never criticize others, but always give praise, I don't like to criticize people." I sincerely praise everything I like, and I never skimp on it. ”
In real life, we have seen very similar examples more than once: someone is inspired by a word of appreciation, and thus continues to work hard, and finally gets impressive results and becomes a winner in life.
In the second season of Oriental Satellite TV's "Smiling Proud of the Jianghu" program, there is a contestant named Lu Aiyan, who is famous for his own creation of "paper people", and is loved by the judges and the audience. It turned out that he inadvertently became an "Internet celebrity" a few years ago, and Song Dandan, who was a judge of the "Smiling Proud of the Jianghu" program, also praised him for leaving a message. Lu Aiyan was therefore encouraged to go further and further down the road of art, and finally combined his painting skills to create a hilarious work of art. When mentioning this past, Song Dandan did not react immediately, but recalled the message he had written under the reminder of Lu Aiyan. Maybe because the time gap is too long, or because there are too many people who have praised, Song Dandan did not think of lu aiyan that she had praised for a while, but her words of encouragement became the driving force for lu aiyan to continue to work hard, making an indelible contribution to his success.
The power of praise is so magical, sometimes a simple praise can bring great spiritual power to people, and it will also make the other party have a better impression of you. With a good foundation, communication between the two sides will naturally come naturally, and the goal can be achieved easily.