Wen 〡璐璐日 translation
Like this passage: "If one day you survive all the hurts and have inner strength, you don't have to say to the people who have hurt you that your hurt has made me." 」 Because you are good now is entirely because you are strong enough that you were not defeated by the people who hurt you! ”
In "The Sea of Stars", the ill-fated Jane Ai, when she first entered the foreign trade company, she met Liang Bing, a woman with a set of heart machines behind her face, and just made some achievements in the company to gain a foothold, and then met the jealous and vicious Wenxin.
In the face of two colleagues and classmates who are deliberately trying to harm themselves, Jane Ai is kind and more hard. Directly piercing Liang Bing's hypocrisy and disguise; directly smashing Wen Xin's naked threats and persecutions, this is the attraction of this character and this drama.
Jane Ai's kindness and gratitude to Liang Bing and Wen Xin, who have hurt herself, implies the wisdom that people should learn to behave in the world when facing themselves and those who hurt themselves!
▌ After carrying all the hurts, don't force yourself to forgive the people who hurt you! Because behind forgiveness, it means reconciliation between people and themselves!
Getting along well with each other is happiness, and getting along badly will eventually turn into harm. Damage can be large or small, light or heavy, some injuries can be forgiven, and some injuries cannot be forgiven.
Forgiveness between people means reconciliation, and most people understand that reconciliation is reconciliation between people and others, but in fact, reconciliation between people and themselves is the most critical!
Only when people deeply understand the deep meaning of forgiveness and reconciliation can they truly harvest a beautiful life of "good has good to repay evil and evil" and "good people have good rewards".
Wen Xin's jealousy and malice towards Jane Ai continued from childhood to adulthood. She is a fierce woman who is more jealous than good-intentioned, competitive, willing to control others, and will stop at nothing to achieve her goals.
The sense of superiority in family and school makes it indispensable and domineering to behave in the world. As long as it is the person she likes, she can do anything; if it is someone she does not like, she will try to find an opportunity to hurt you.
Jane Ai happens to be the person Wen Xin doesn't like, this dislike stems from jealousy, and it also stems from the fact that the man she loves doesn't love her, loves Jane Eyre. This made her have to target Jane Eyre everywhere, even if she was an old classmate, even if she knew each other, she was ruthless.
In front of Jane Eyre, she mentions that Jane Eyre's mother was killed by her father in derailment, and then her father committed suicide, and she wanted to stimulate and hurt Jane Eyre to achieve the purpose of anger and relief.
A woman can easily and casually stab a knife into the heart of someone she knows, and you can imagine how vicious such a woman's heart should be.
Wen Xin's cruelty to Jane Ai is not limited to this, in order to promote and raise her salary, she will stop at nothing to threaten Jane Ai and make her hand over a big order, otherwise she will expose her boss and make her discredited.
She knew that there were some things that could not be said, and it was extremely hurtful to say them, but she preferred to say them to hurt; she knew that there were some things that could not be done, and if she did them, she would lose the root of the people, but she wanted to do them.
What Wen Xin said and did would bring to Jian Ai, Wen Xin obviously knew, her hurtful behavior could not be understood, let alone allowed people to condone and forgive. Therefore, Jane Ai gave her a strong response in the most powerful and tough way.
Jane Ai said a thank you to Wen Xin after fighting back, this thank you after carrying the hurt, not in forgiving the hurter, but Jane Ai knows how to reconcile with herself.
This is also the cognition and awareness that people should have when facing themselves and those who have deeply hurt themselves. It is not that you forgive the person who hurt you, but that you have learned and understood the reconciliation between the person behind the forgiveness and yourself!
▌ After carrying all the hurts, don't force yourself to forgive the people who hurt you! Because you can never and cling to personal ideas and hurt your theory!
Liang Bing is a woman who faces one set and one set behind her back. Emotionally you can kill a man for love, and at work you can damage and hurt someone who has helped you for your own profit.
Right and wrong are not distinguished, good or bad are unknown, and extreme self is Liang Bing's personal concept.
She was rescued by Jane Eyre after she committed suicide, and Jane Eyre helped her to do a lot of work well, she knew that Jane Eyre wanted to be a merchandiser, and she knew that Jane Eyre had this ability. However, she obstructed it and prevented Jane Eyre from becoming a merchandiser to grab her job.
You cannot relate to this theory of ungrateful people who have great problems with their character and cling to extreme personal ideas and deeply hurt you.
The only way to deal with this kind of person is to deal with it bluntly and hard, let him know that you are not a clay man to let her pinch, you are not a fool to let her play.
You must be tough enough to let her know that you are not a bully, because how you treat others in this world determines how others treat you.
Wen Xin is even more so, she is obsessed with her sense of superiority, clinging to her own jealousy, and she must hurt and punish those who let her lose her sense of superiority and make her jealous.
You can never theorize with people who have been deeply hurt by clinging to your personal ideas, and you can only carry it hard and strong, until you are not defeated by her, and carry all the hurts.
In fact, understanding others to treat others well is not as simple as imagined, because understanding and treating others well, first of all, needs to carry all the wounds yourself, and needs to practice the courage and strength not to be defeated.
Then, don't force yourself to forgive the person who hurt you, because you can never hurt your theoretical understanding with clinging to personal ideas, so there is no need to forgive others, just learn to reconcile with yourself.
In the end, only those who have endured all the wounds, who do not force themselves to forgive, and who only learn to reconcile with themselves can truly understand and be kind.
How can a person who has been injured himself too late to heal understand and treat others well; a person who falls in the mire and does not know how to get up will not try to empathize with understanding and treating others well...
So don't overestimate your ability to understand and treat others well, and don't underestimate the degree and ability of others to hurt yourself. It is not advisable to force oneself to forgive the people and things that hurt oneself.
For the self, for the hurt, for forgiveness and reconciliation, for understanding and kindness, people should have a deeper level of cognition and understanding.
Only by understanding these things can we truly be kind to those who should be treated well, and can we meet a good world where good people have good rewards.
This is the wisdom that people should learn to behave in the world when they face themselves and those who hurt themselves!