(Note: The chicken baby mentioned in this article is an online word, which means to force children to read hard in the 996 style.) ）
Seeing a bunch of people after the double subtraction is very excited, saying why not let make-up classes ah, my child can not be admitted to a prestigious university, can not rely on make-up classes + BUFF to win at the starting line, how to go to the peak of life in the future.
I looked at it, I couldn't hold back, almost got it.
Today I will say something that offends people, but it is not empty, you can recall it, it makes sense. That is, we Chinese have a habit of always feeling: "As long as we work hard as we incarnate as Desperate Sanlang, I can succeed." ”
What is Newton's third law giving proof of cosmic truth? As I said very clearly, success and simple effort have nothing to do with it, and you can't work harder than foxconn workers no matter how hard you do, right?
You have to learn to use your brain!
Unwilling to "use your brain", "deserve" to roll inside. (Of course, my words are also angry words)
Many parents, just engage in a bunch of cram schools for children to die, children are miserable, from a young age to start 996, slowly for a long time, after growing up to lie flat, do not want to get married. Because what they get from their parents is that after they get married, they have to spend a huge amount of money to go to the chicken baby, and then start rolling, and repeat it from generation to generation.
If you get the education from childhood is that there is only one way to succeed in life, that is, to make up for the class and do the problem, and then roll into the title of the queen gold list, and then start to have a baby, and repeat the inner volume after giving birth to the baby, and because of the principle of the arms race, the inner volume will only become more and more serious.
Would you like to give up having a baby? If there is only pain in life, only one way, then what is there to live for?
Let's talk about a hypothetical analogy scenario:
A worker in an assembly line factory, in his narrow cognition, the successful route of life is to roll into the "first place in assembly line production", then upgrade to the management of the pipeline, and then boil the seniority to become a leader.
It was a tough road, but he thought, it's okay, I can suffer, slowly roll and boil.
Then when he gets old, he tells his children that if you want to become the next generation of successful people, you have to work hard, and you must also roll into the "first place in assembly line production", and then upgrade to the management of the pipeline, and then boil the seniority to become a leader.
But the problem, not only are you working hard, other workers are also working hard in the "blessing mode", the last generation down, this is like a deathmatch, and finally the speed of the inner volume is out of control, making people live very tired, except depression, there is nothing.
Finally, a generation finally broke out, since life is an inner volume, it is better to be a lying waste, and even feel that it is not interesting to live, is it very reasonable?
What do you think is the crux of this dilemma?
The key is what I said in the first paragraph, these people, whether they are make-up chicken babies or assembly line workers, their own understanding of society is very low, so their understanding of the "social upward method" is this method, and this upward space method is known to everyone.
For example, good test scores.
For example, assembly line production is faster.
Then these ordinary people who lack awareness of the whole society begin to pile up resources madly on these well-known roads, such as your child making up one class, I will make up five courses. You work 996 hard, and he turns on 007 mode.
Isn't that just an inner roll?
Isn't it very clear?
As long as you know that the upward development route is popular, then there will certainly be more competitors, and you can only work harder to stand out, which is just a natural law.
Today, in the post-"chicken baby" era, another era of "baby chicken" has arrived.
Actor Chen Chong said: "When (the child) was just born, you felt that your child could be president, the whole world was spacious in front of you, and then the bigger she grew, the smaller her world became..."
I admire that Chen Chong can clearly recognize the changes in children and is willing to admit that his children will be an ordinary person. But many parents, because of the encouragement of Jackie Chan, do not stop asking their children to struggle and work hard, constantly pressuring their children, "beating chicken blood", which gave birth to an internet word: chicken baby.
When parents are working hard to ask their children to do this thing well, meet that standard, and use some specific and digital indicators as a standard to measure the results of their children's development, so that their children can become their ideal excellent children. With the growth of children, the rapid improvement of knowledge reserves, rapidly mature children are also at any time "chicken parents", so that parents are aware of their own problems, and then take it as a warning, becoming an excellent benchmark in children's ideals.
My daughter is more conscious in her studies, and she usually works hard. But recently, whenever we continue to ask our children to do something that we think is right, the child's resistance has suddenly become stronger and stronger, and the reasoning has been explained in a set of ways. When we asked the child not to look at the mobile phone or iPad and concentrate on his studies, the child asked: "Why can you watch TV and watch the mobile phone!" We replied, "Because we are adults and have worked for a day, we need to take a break." "Then I've been studying for a day, I'm going to rest, I'm going to look at my phone." The child answered immediately. "As long as you get a perfect score every time, how do you rest, how, can you do it?" Every time when the atmosphere is intense at the end, the child will return to her house, reluctantly pick up the book, and mutter: "You may not be able to get a perfect score every time." ”
Many parents believe that "chicken baby" is their duty. Parenting is not "chicken baby" is not responsible parents, not to mention those excellent parents are in the chicken baby. The "chicken baby" of parents is to cultivate their children into a self-reliant and useful person to society. From its own point of view, I definitely don't want my children to grow up and achieve nothing, sit at home and be "nibbling on the old" people. Parents' own resources are different, the way of "chicken baby" is different, and the essence is actually the same.
However, in the process of chicken babies, many of the parents' own habits, such as not being active, being temperamental, lacking perseverance, doing things perfunctorily, being lenient and strict with others, are looked at by the children in their eyes and remembered, forcing parents to become better themselves, in order to "exchange chickens" with their children to achieve "chicken babies".
Parents can desperately "chicken baby" to learn a lot of things, hoping that children will become people who love learning, people who do not procrastinate homework, people with excellent test scores, people who successfully pass the middle school entrance examination, people who can win awards in various competitions, and people who give parents a face. But often the child has a word: you will not be able to do this, and you can make the parents speechless. Perhaps some impatient parents through the parental majesty, a sentence "because I am a parent" to go back, such an answer in addition to hurting the parent-child relationship, there is no other use.
Parents always rack their brains to find ways to encourage the baby to progress, but they don't know that the solution is actually in their own hands. The excellence of parents and the physical practice of parents are the most effective encouragement for children.
Visiting the struggle of "Iron Man" Musk, it is obvious that you can feel the influence of his mother Meyer on Musk. Meyer became a bankrupt single mother at the age of 31, with 3 children, living a hard life. But Meyer didn't get depressed, and the indomitability inherited from her family inspired her to enjoy her life to the best of her ability. When she woke up to the fact that many things are done bravely and are not afraid of the darkness, the light will always appear. She herself started a new life at the age of 31, and through her own efforts, she is now a world-renowned mother, best-selling author, nutrition expert, older model, and still tirelessly pursuing a doctorate at the age of 42, which gives children the best way to teach by example. The struggle of "Iron Man" Musk also flashes the influence of his mother Meyer on him. "Iron Man" Musk has the courage to practice, think of doing, even when Musk himself is in great pain, insomnia all night, physically and mentally exhausted, or trying to get closer to his own ideas, a little bit to promote the cause forward.
It must be admitted that parents have a deep influence on their children. Today, as our country becomes more and more powerful and the cities and villages become more and more developed, these two axes will narrow the channels for ordinary people to rise and the possibility of crossing classes. But there is also a point that must be admitted, the more ordinary families, the more can not give up the child's "chicken baby" company, "by the baby chicken" era is coming, indicating that parents must also constantly improve themselves, and strive to move forward, in order to strive to lift their children to a higher vision.
In the era of "baby chickens", how can parents guide their children to make progress together?
1, the best way is for parents to do their own things first, such as parents want to learn a language, do everything possible, all the strength to learn this language, when parents have fluent foreign languages in front of their children to tell stories to their children, when translating the foreign language movies they are watching. This method is a hundred times more effective than urging children to learn a foreign language ten thousand times.
2. When encountering difficulties, parents should not give up easily. Without time to study, parents should take the initiative to give up some of their dispensable social activities, give up brushing mobile phones, brush short videos of time, all used to learn. This naturally has a subtle impact on children. Musk's mother, Meyer, is in this way positively influencing her children.
3. Do not overly participate in the child's learning, and correctly guide and stimulate the child's internal drive. Children can't do problems and write. Parents should not pass on their anxiety to their children, but learn to pass on the correct learning methods and mentality to their children. Encourage children, work hard to accompany children, pay attention to the learning process, and wait for flowers to bloom.
Conclusion: The era of "being a baby chicken" has arrived, which is the general trend of the development of the times. This requires parents to continuously improve themselves, children are not the whole of our parents' lives, but parents' efforts to treat life without losing can motivate children to harvest a better life.
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