If there is any feeling in the world that is eternal, it is undoubtedly the affection between parents and children. Friendship, love will often gradually become flat with the decrease in contact between the two, there are not many that can withstand the test of time, only family affection will accompany it for life.
However, although the family will gradually deepen with the precipitation of time, no one in the world will accompany us through the whole life.
From the birth of the child, parents should give him the most meticulous care and care, and there is no room for negligence. But as the child grows up, the relationship between mother and child should also change from being closely linked to learning to let go.
The process of growing up is actually the process of adapting to separation. No matter how much the mother is reluctant to the child, the mother and child are always destined to experience four fateful separations.
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<h1>First separation: Try to give your child a withdrawal</h1>
My cousin once said that when she first gave the child milk, the child was held in the room by his father and cried to find his mother, and she covered her mouth and cried through the door. At that time, all the family members said that she was cruel and would not give her children a milk withdrawal when it was a big deal, but she always insisted that all children would have to go through this step sooner or later.
The child's abstinence from breastfeeding is not only to stop eating breast milk, but also to a certain extent to quit dependence on the mother. Foreign countries usually recommend breastfeeding the baby until the age of two, and the best time to wean the child should be from the age of one to gradually adapt to the child, and achieve complete withdrawal before the age of two.
In the face of the dissolution of this intimate relationship, the mother should be happy, because it means that the child has dissolved the breastfeeding relationship, and the gradual transition of eating habits to adults is the only way to grow.
<h1>Second separation: Sending the child to kindergarten</h1>
Many people describe sending children to kindergarten as "psychological weaning," a very apt metaphor.
Mother and son have been living together day and night for three or four years, and they have already adapted to this mode of life, and suddenly they want to withdraw their children from their mother's side, whether it is the baby or the mother, they have to go through an adaptation process.
Sending the baby to kindergarten in the early stage is the outbreak of separation anxiety, as long as the child gradually adapts to kindergarten life, it means that the child begins to enter the social collective, gradually away from the mother's control, and has its own social activities.
Suddenly without the mother's day and night companionship, it is very normal for the baby to resist, but as long as he prepares in advance before entering the kindergarten, the child will quickly adapt to this routine of collective life.
<h1>Third separation: Sending the child to college</h1>
Earlier, at a wedding banquet, I met an aunt who had not been seen for many years, inquired about the recent situation of her children, and learned that my cousin had been admitted to college that year. My aunt described to me the current situation of her daughter, and her eyes shed two lines of tears as she spoke.
She was embarrassed to tell me that her daughter did miss home when she arrived at college, but she was still quite adaptable, but she suddenly felt empty in her heart, and sometimes she thought about the distant children to the point where it was difficult to sleep.
From the moment the child goes out to school or goes out to officially participate in work, from the moment she walks out of the house with her luggage, the mother does not have to carefully prepare three meals a day for the child, nor does she have to wash and clean for the child, but this kind of physical ease makes the heart more empty.
Don't worry, the child at this time is the real sense of separation from the family environment, although without the protection of the mother, but the family is still his most secure harbor.
<h1>Fourth separation: Children form small families</h1>
The sense of loss felt by parents when their children get married is indescribable, and those who have daughters in the family are usually stronger than those who have sons.
Behind the newlyweds happily preparing for a new life are the tearing eyes of the parents, although the hearts are full of reluctance, the parents must also sincerely send blessings to their daughters.
Children have formed their own small families, which means that life has entered a new stage, until the child also begins to unlock the role of parents one day, in order to experience the difficulty of raising children.
<h1>The four destined "separations" have all been experienced before they grow up</h1>
These four separations, for parents and children, each is an important life experience in life, each is a test, only parents learn to let go, the child's life will be more smooth.
Smart parents will cultivate their children's abilities in advance to add support to their children's growth process, and stupid parents try to spoil their children and become obstacles on their way forward.
Before the arrival of each life node of the child, we must teach the child the basic life skills at the right time in advance, so that even if it leaves the mother's arms, the child can stand alone.
Time flies, and you will inadvertently find that the child grows up unexpectedly.
The passage of time is irreversible, the process of children's growth is also the process of parental aging, after all experience, parents also really begin to grow old, whether you are parents or children, cherish every minute and every second of getting along with your family now.
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