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On July 30, 2019, the news of Ahn Jae-hyun and Koo Hye-sun's divorce exploded on the Internet.
Subsequently, the two men staged a divorce farce and threw dirty water on each other. The loving couple of the past turned against each other, and only their mouths were full of viciousness.
When the divorce news was exposed, many people were blaming Ahn Jae-hyun.
Admittedly, Ahn Jae-hyun should be scolded. Gu Huishan once said: "Sister I am 34 years old, I will not be moved again, the last time I will be moved, only you." ”
Ahn Jae-hyun fell in love with Koo Hye-sun at first sight and kissed her the first time he saw her. After knowing each other for a month, I made my relationship public. Later, when he participated in the variety show, Ahn Jae-hyun said that he wanted to marry Gu Hye-sun soon.
The two got married as they wished, becoming a fairy tale love that the whole world envied.
At that time, they were no less popular in Korea than Song Huiqiao and Song Joong Ki. Everyone thought they would always be happy, but they didn't expect that three years later, all the love of that year would be a slap in the face.
Divorce is not unusual in this era.
But when it comes to divorce, it's really rare to tear it up like this.
Koo Hye Sun said that the reason for Ahn Jae Hyun's divorce was that he was tired of her and felt that she was not sexy enough.
In order to escape the marriage, Ahn Jae-hyun also lied about moving out of the house because of his work. Married for 3 years, all the housework is in charge of Hui Shan.
Even so, Ahn Jae-hyun keeps running outside, either celebrating birthdays with others or having a close relationship with other women.
As soon as these things were exposed, they were naturally attacked by countless netizens. Ahn Jae-hyun responded very little, and the impression was that he was suffering from depression, and what Hee-sun said was not entirely true.
In short, in their divorce farce, from beginning to end, it is Gu Huishan who stands in the victim's perspective, vents his emotions, and gains a lot of sympathy. Therefore, the later Gu Huishan did not immerse herself in the shadow of divorce, but instead started her life again.
Everything seems less difficult.
Ahn Jae-hyun, recently he posted a dynamic on Instagram, which really scared fans. He changed his hair from blonde to black, his eyes cold and sharp, and the caption read: "Please forget me." ”
Thinking of the previous statement that he had depression, such a dynamic inevitably makes people think of wrong. Shirley had also made many such developments before she died, and she did not expect that this was a hint of destruction.
Big V said he would pay attention to Ahn Jae-hyun, who may have suicidal tendencies.
Whether this is the case or not, An Zaixian after the divorce has indeed changed his temperament, depression is on the one hand, and there are accusations and insults from netizens, and it is not a straw that crushes the camel.
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Many people think that the fault of Ahn Jae-hyun and Koo Hye-sun's divorce is all on Ahn Jae-hyun, but it is not. Observe the attitude of the two of them towards the divorce and the various complaints of Gu Huishan.
It can be guessed that the mode of getting along between Ahn Jae-hyun and Koo Hye-sun is problematic.
Koo Hye Sun is the one who constantly vents her emotions and dissatisfaction, and Ahn Jae Hyun rarely confronts her head-on, but only uses other ways to escape, such as moving out to live, such as partying with friends.
I'm sure you've seen marriages like this where women are chattering and men are deaf on the side.
There is a very classic scene in the movie "Revolutionary Road", an old couple is talking about leading the family, the wife is dancing with her eyebrows, but the husband quietly closes the hearing aid in exchange for a peaceful world.
On the surface, Gu Hye-sun has suffered a lot of grievances, An Jae-hyun is a man, good at forbearance, and not saying it does not mean that there is no pain in his heart.
In marriage, women will have many causes of depression, such as postpartum mood swings, such as mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships, such as husbands not taking care of the family enough. Therefore, in the past two years, we have always been denouncing for women the bad things of marriage and men.
But we forget that men are also suffering from something, just from an early age education to make them strong and stoic, so they pretend to be generous, pretend to be tolerant, pretend not to care.
So, in marriage, there will be a man with a good temper, and no matter how you beat and scold, he will not react.
Such a man seems to be letting you go, but if you think about it, the most poisonous partner is this one.
He doesn't listen, he doesn't respond, he doesn't accuse, he doesn't accuse, he doesn't even speak. In the end, it will force you to be full of viciousness, and it is better for you to live than to die.
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Xu Bochang and Liu Shufen in the movie "No Questions Asked" also explained this truth. Xu Bochang and Liu Shufen have been in love since they were young, and Liu Shufen went out to work early in order to provide for Xu Bochang to go to college.
Unexpectedly, after Xu Bochang graduated from college, he forgot Liu Shufen's kindness and no longer fulfilled his original promise. Later, the two people were still married, do you think That Uncle Xu often changed his mind?
No, he just tortured Liu Shufen in a different way.
In their home, you will always see that It is always Liu Shufen who is beating and cursing Xu Bochang. Xu Bochang's leaders and students couldn't take it anymore and accused Liu Shufen of not being.
In fact, a partner like Xu Bochang is the most poisonous, and he is silent about all the fights of Liu Shufen. He never shared a bowl with Liu Shufen, and even if his quilt was broken, he would never use his wife's cup.
Such a man has a good temper and is a bully, but such a man, every time he is silent, is like a knife stabbing at each other.
In the end, Liu Shufen committed suicide by jumping into a well. Maybe everyone will think that Liu Shufen is missing her foot or for other reasons, but she will not think that it is her partner who really forced her to die.
Of course, such men are also suffering in their hearts, just like Ahn Jae-hyun, it is not too much to suffer from depression, because they have collected all their negative energy, and if they do not attack others, they must attack themselves.
Many women always think that they have to find a good-tempered man who can tolerate you and spoil you. But don't forget, a man with a good temper may also be the one who turns a deaf ear and is silent.
When you have no one to quarrel with, the marriage will come to an end. After 7 months of divorce, Ahn Jae-hyun's temperament has changed drastically, and he has an inseparable relationship with his usual way of dealing with people.
The negative energy brought by the divorce itself is enough, but the noise of the outside world will undoubtedly hurt him again. All emotions that cannot be digested need to be cathartic, otherwise they will be suppressed sooner or later.
Zhang Xiaoxian said: "Love is a double dance, I don't mind if both people don't dance well." But I mind if I was the only one jumping and the other was just standing by and watching. ”
The most toxic partner in the world is one that makes you feel lonely even if two people live together. Marriage is not a one-man show and requires the cooperation of two people. Marriage is not a child's play, don't be the most toxic partner.
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