Author: Number One Emotion
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Instead of arguing endlessly, it is better to choose "instigated".
The "instigation" here is not an acknowledgement, but a choice not to embarrass others, and it is also a manifestation of inner open-mindedness.
I have seen such a sentence on the Internet before: "Not giving face is the biggest rudeness, Chinese the most exquisite thing is face, hurt what, don't hurt face." ”
The so-called face, in fact, is to give others a step, even if it is reasonable, do not spare people, and the appropriate choice of "instigation" is precisely the best of both worlds.
Dealing with people in the world is not an easy thing in itself, rather than bringing harm to others, it is better to use self-deprecating ways to "admit it".
Along the way of life, giving face to others is a kind of practice, and "instigating" is a kind of top wisdom in dealing with the world.
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Gambling king Ho Hung Sun once told a story:
Once when he came home, he happened to encounter a maid rummaging through his drawer, and there was a pistol in the drawer, and the maid picked it up. At the moment of crisis, He Hongshen said: "That gun is so beautiful, every man wants to touch it." ”
Subsequently, the two people chatted about the story of robbery, which not only left steps for each other, but also resolved their own crisis.
On the surface, He Hongshen's choice is to "admit it", but in fact, it invisibly expresses an open-minded attitude and his own tolerance.
If he chooses to quarrel, he will not only push himself into a dangerous situation, but also affect the life of the other party, and even face death.
It can be seen from this that the appropriate "instigation" is not fear, but can both save oneself and complete others.
Instead of being preoccupied, it is better to remain open-minded and tolerant.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" Data-track="9" > instigated, not to embarrass others, but also not to embarrass yourself</h1>
In the Eight Treatises of the Analects, it is written: "If things are accomplished, they will not be advised, and they will not be blamed for the past." ”
In layman's terms, don't mention what you've done, don't advise you about what you've done, and don't pursue what you've done.
In fact, the highest state of being a person in the world is not to let others feel that you are doing human feelings, and properly "instigating" is precisely the best choice, which is a kind of top wisdom in dealing with the world.
In doing so, we have not embarrassed others, but also left enough retreat for ourselves.
Su Qian once wrote in "20 years old with the right person, 30 years old to do the right thing":
Sometimes, when doing things, even if it is straight, don't be arrogant. Since you have already suffered a loss, let's simply make this loss more valuable. Give someone else a step up the foot and you'll see the world doubly appreciative of you!
As the saying goes, "a loss is a blessing", on the surface you have chosen to "instigate", but in fact, you have improved your own level and cultivation.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="21" > one thought becomes a Buddha, one thought becomes a demon</h1>
Any choice a person makes is often between one thought, and it is possible to "become a Buddha with one thought" or "to become a demon with one thought."
In fact, there is no distinction between becoming a Buddha and becoming a demon, and "instigation" is also no difference between winning and losing, but it is just a choice of individuals.
Becoming a Buddha seems to win, but the outside world will also think that you have lost; becoming a demon seems to be losing, but the outside world thinks that you have won.
Many times, people tend to change with the passage of time, just like when we were young, we did not understand the world, and we can say that we are not deeply involved in the world, but at a certain age, we still long to "become a demon", and some can't say it.
Generally speaking, whether one becomes a Buddha or a demon, it is only the difference between one's thoughts and one's thoughts, and there is no good or bad; and whether it is recognition or strength, it is also the difference between one's thoughts, and there is no win or lose.
With the increase of experience and mental maturity, when you gradually see the changes in life, you may understand that "confession" is not a loss, but a win.
No matter what stage you are in, don't be too entangled, some feelings need time to understand, and demanding will only make you "go into the fire".
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There is a question on Zhihu: how to interpret the word "instigation"?
One of them is a highly praised answer: When you don't want to tear your face or upset the original balance, people with high emotional intelligence are good at humorously saying that they are "instigated".
In fact, instigating is not a kind of withdrawal, but sometimes it is a trick for people to deal with the world, so that you can master the top wisdom of the world in the process of life.
Life is short, why bother with something that affects you! Sometimes, "instigated" is precisely the choice of a person alone.
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