Wen 丨 West Wing has feelings
Time is not long, may you be in my words, see you not too late!
China has a long history of wine culture, is one of the earliest countries in the world to make wine. I think that for most people, the smell of wine evokes many of their memories.
Wine is a kind of culture for China, and there have been many traces of wine in China for five thousand years.
Li Bai's famous poem "Will Enter the Wine" is even more popular among the people: "Life must be full of joy, do not make the golden bottle empty to the moon." I am born to be useful, and I will come back when all the money is gone. ”
Everyone's reason for drinking is different, Li Bai drank to "live up to the proud moments of life", Su Shi drank to "ask the wine to qingtian", and Cao Cao drank to "sing to the wine"...
So, what are contemporary people drinking for? I don't know if you've ever experienced a situation like this:
Someone close to you calls you after a drink and says a lot of things, but you still don't know what the other person is trying to say.
In fact, when a person calls you after drinking, there are three subtexts.
The first: I miss you
Alcohol will always amplify the effect of thoughts, and when the wine is finished, people will want to see the person they have been missing more.
Surveys have shown that the more mature people are, the more they will suppress their emotions. Therefore, whether it is love, friendship or family affection, people are not very willing to express it when they are sober.
In addition, too many concerns can also hinder the transmission of thoughts, and people will worry that the sudden connection is nothing more than an offense to the other party, and that the other party will have no interest in themselves.
Therefore, even if the thoughts come, most people will suppress emotions and are unwilling to express them.
And when a person drinks, he often stops worrying about these things, and alcohol gives him the strength to stop thinking too much about the serious consequences that may be caused by contacting the other party.
Therefore, at this time, he will conform to his inner thoughts, call the person he misses, and listen to the voice of the other party.
Perhaps, he didn't have anything special to say to you, just wanted to listen to you quietly.
You will find that after the other party calls you, it is difficult to clear your thoughts, but he will not allow you to hang up the phone anyway.
This is true for both men and women, so if a person doesn't often contact you on a daily basis, but calls you after drinking, the subtext he probably wants to express is – hey, I miss you so much.
Second: You are someone I trust
After a person is drunk, he tends to be more emotional, and he may recall many sad and sad experiences and feel a lot of emotions in his heart.
At this time, the person, his heart is very fragile, he needs someone who can bring him emotional comfort and take care of his body.
Therefore, his drunken connection is to hope that someone can understand what he wants to express and bring him back to a quiet state of mind.
You will find that the other person is very concerned about your opinions on some things, and constantly exchanges ideas with you.
He may have encountered some difficulties and needs some advice from you; or he may be troubled by a certain memory and need you to guide himself.
All in all, the subtext of this type of person contacting you after drinking is that you are someone I rely on a lot, and I know that no matter what kind of trouble I have, you can play a role in me.
Whether your relationship with him is a lover, a friend, or a relative, you must know that you are someone he trusts so much, and can even be said to be his spiritual pillar.
In this regard, you must learn to be patient and give him love, do not let him feel snubbed.
Third: Do you feel that I am very affectionate with you?
There is also a category of people who will deliberately choose to contact you after drinking, trying to make you feel that his love for you is unwavering.
This type of person will use your compassion for him to close the distance between the two of you and cheat you out of your feelings or possessions.
The common characteristic of this type of person is that he will seriously confide in you after drinking how deeply he feels for you, will not be able to take care of himself without your life, and expect you to come to his side in the middle of the night...
In short, he will describe himself as particularly pitiful, as if without you, his world will collapse; as if without you, no one in the world cares about him.
If you encounter such a situation, don't rush forward, because the other party is likely to be just using you, not really loving you.
In addition, even if he does not take advantage of your ideas, his behavior is too childish, you need to seriously think about whether he is really suitable for you, do not be too easily moved.
In short, wine has a special meaning for many people.
Some people drink to alleviate the feeling of emptiness and loneliness for a while; some people drink to double their happiness; and some people drink to use the power of alcohol to confide half a point of liking to their lovers.
If a person contacts you after drinking, then you must be patient to understand the hidden subtext behind him, do not perfunctory, and do not be easily moved.