If one day, you do the same, what to do? Ever thought about it?

The old man lying on the bed in the picture is my grandmother, 89 years old, who had a sudden cerebral infarction at the end of last year, more than 3 months before and after hospitalization, and hemiplegia in bed after discharge. To prolong life, a gastrointestinal catheter is inserted into the body. Consciousness is most of the time unconscious.

My grandmother has six children, four boys and two women, and my mother is the eldest. When she was hospitalized, she hired a nurse, and after she was discharged, the nurse aunt also returned home with her. Why do so many children still have caregivers? Because I really can't stay up, when my grandmother was in the hospital in the early days, I didn't sleep at all during the day and night, my mother and my aunt had high blood pressure, hanging water, uncles took leave for a week and then began to work, at night cousins and cousins came to work, and the next day they went to work and couldn't stand it... In this way, the nurse aunt followed all the way to home. More than 200 pieces a day, an average of more than 1,000 per household a month. Then each family draws one person on duty on a daily basis, accompanying the nurse to take care of grandma.

During the National Day holiday, the nurse aunt took a few days off to return to her hometown. The picture shows my mother and my cousin and daughter-in-law taking care of my grandmother together, my mother counted to 70, she was originally an old man, and she was around her almost every day. Just because my home is closer. I also feel sorry for my mother, but what to do? She was taking care of her mom.

Everyone will go all the way, they will go the same way, but the way they leave in the end is different. What if one day you are old and you are like this? I've thought about it too, ever since grandma was bedridden. After asking my husband, he said that he couldn't accept it, there was no quality in life, not even dignity, and let me or my son find a way to send him away early. I certainly knew he was joking, because no one had the right to end another person's life. Of course, he also has a serious component, because he can't accept that he has such pain and helplessness in his old age, and he feels that he is causing trouble for his children's families, and his life is not of quality.

But in the final analysis, in fact, at the end of life, when you are powerless, what can you do? Your family generally will not give up on you, let alone end your life, and your brain is not awake, and you have no ability to act, how to break?

When Grandma was not sick, she was also a super capable, strong, respectable and lovely old man, who had been living alone for more than ten years after Grandpa was gone, and did not cause trouble for her children. But in the end, she fell ill and did not choose to do so, was it not her helplessness? If she was fully awake, how could she accept such a self? But life is like this, and in the end you can't control it.

We are also the trouble of our parents from childhood, parents will feel the trouble of becoming children when they are old, in fact, when we say that trouble, we have seen it outside, and the cycle of life is like this. Replace trouble with love, start with love and end with love.