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We have a good way to judge whether a person is a gentleman or a villain, that is, to see whether he likes to suffer losses in life.
It is usually said that those who rush to suffer losses in life, those who are willing to suffer losses, those who take pleasure in suffering losses, or those who do not care about losses are gentlemen.
On the other hand, in life, those who like to take advantage, take pleasure in taking advantage of a little cheap, or are angry because they have suffered a small loss, are usually villains.
2
If you have been bad to a person for a long time, and now suddenly there is a good time for him, he will think that "you are a very good person".
If you have been good to a person for a long time, and now suddenly there is a bad time for the person, the person will think that "I didn't expect you to be such a person".
So, the right strategy for you to be human is: keep your distance from people. Good for TA occasionally.
3
There's a word called "destiny," which translates to the sum of all the stupid choices you made in the first half of your life.
4
People are divided into two classes.
First Class: Smart and generous.
Second Class: Thick, but not smart.
There are two kinds of people left: smart is not kind, not smart and not kind.
So which of the two remaining people is the third class and which is the fourth class?
The answer is: as long as people are not kind, whether they are smart or not, they are scum and cannot be rated.
5
The most test of your emotional intelligence is when others correct you.
When you hear others correct you, don't rush to refute, defend yourself, and get mad, but you should first think about whether what others say is reasonable.
If someone else corrects it for a reason, it's like giving you a free lesson, and you should thank the other person.
Why thank someone?
Because, you have to give someone positive feedback and encourage them to continue to be your free mirror.
If you do this, your progress will be fast.
6
People to communicate, language skills, really important.
For example: your husband broke a cup.
What you want to say in your heart is: you should be careful next time.
But what your knife mouth says is: Anything that gets to your hands will be messed up!
What your husband understands is that your words are demeaning me, indicating that you look down on me in your heart.
Therefore, the "next time be careful" that I want to express in my heart passes through the mouth of the knife and becomes "I look down on you".
You think about it, how different the two meanings are.
Many couples are conflicted, and that's how it comes about.
What one thinks in one's mind is version A, the mouth says it becomes version B, and others sound version C.
So we say that a person's language expression ability is really important.
How to crack this?
In fact, we still have to read more, think more, and cultivate ourselves more.
The more people read, the more they cultivate, and the accuracy of expressing themselves will improve.
7
To judge whether a person is smart, you can look at these three points:
The first point: when he states something, can he always simplify the complexity.
The second point: when he analyzes the problem, can he always get to the point.
The third point: when he encounters a problem that needs to be solved, can he always come up with a good idea.
8
Why is "rational and neutral and objective" not popular?
Because there is no emotional value in the middle of the customer.
The rationalists cannot meet the emotional needs of the left and the right.
For the most part, the left and right seek not truth, but emotion.
9
There is a critical watershed between the winners and losers in this world:
Successful people are insensitive to small things and are very attentive to big things.
Losers are insensitive to big things and are very attentive to small things.
From using money, choosing a mate, choosing a career, starting a business, interpersonal communication... This is true in all respects, and if you take a closer look, you will find that this is indeed the case.
10
Not knowing how to reject others, being embarrassed to reject others, not daring to reject others, this kind of goodness is called "evil goodness."
The so-called "evil good" is good on the surface, but evil in substance.
You have indulged the world's undivided thoughts, what he should not have received, and you have satisfied him.
In the long run, you actually hurt him.
Incidentally, you have also harmed yourself.
11
Many people in this world do wrong things because when they use their brains, they move feelings.
12
The debates of low-dimensional populations are usually not constructive and generally cannot reach consensus.
The root cause is that what they seek and defend is not the truth, but themselves.
13
A friend asked:
I have a crush on a member of the opposite sex, but my overall conditions are not very good, and I have been afraid to chase.
Or rather, I pursued a member of the opposite sex for a long time but was consistently rejected by him.
What to do in these cases?
The answer is: then it's time to work hard and make yourself in all aspects, wealth, career, education, income, dress, talk, temperament... To become good, simply put, is to make yourself worthy of ta.
But the interesting thing is that when you deserve it, you will find that you suddenly have a lot of better options around you.
So at this time, you may not be able to see TA anymore.
In other words, at this time, it doesn't matter if the TA doesn't accept you.
So we say: Making yourself a high-value person is the key to solving all your problems.
The same goes for men and women.
14
People who take "pleasing people" as the principle of being human, the result is that they not only treat themselves badly, but also spoil bad people.
15
Some people's children were hit and killed by a car on the road, and their families complained that their lives were not good.
In fact, it is they who do not take good care of the children.
The so-called bad fate is actually a scapegoat that people are unwilling to admit their mistakes and come up with.
16
Being a person who knows how to receive what is good can avoid a lot of pain, such as:
Stock speculation will close when it is good, and the bag will be safe, which can avoid losses.
Interacting with people, encountering discord, estranging at the right time, and receiving good things when they see them can avoid hatred.
Do business to make money, see the good to receive, rather do less than a single, do not deceive customers, the business can be long-lasting.
In the event of economic disputes with relatives and friends, you will receive it when you see it, you don't have to worry about a corner, you can avoid looking back, leave a line, and see each other in the future.
17
Man, in fact, is the result of his own actions.
What actions you have in life, what kind of person you are.
You have good actions, you are good people.
You have bad actions, you are bad people.
In other words, what you think in your heart doesn't matter, it doesn't matter how you do it.
If you have a good heart, but your words and deeds are reckless and hurt people, then you are a bad person.
On the other hand, if you are wild inside, but you know how to be restrained, strict with yourself, cautious in your words and deeds, and never hurt people, then you are a good person.
18
There are good people, bad people, enlightened people, barbarians, understanding people, and well-dressed beasts in the world.
Usually in life, all kinds belong to all kinds, and generally do not interact with each other.
But online, it's all crowded together.
That's why, there are so many quarrels online.
This also shows that arguing with strange netizens is completely unwise, because the other party may be a mentally ill person, which is really not strange at all.
Yes, mentally ill people have fewer friends, and they like to go online the most.