Karen Mok's singing of "Love in Hiroshima" has such a lyric: "Across the moral border, we walk through the forbidden area of love, enjoy the illusion of happiness, and misunderstand the meaning of happiness." ”
Indeed, as mentioned in the song, many people regard extramarital feelings as a normal emotion because of an illusion of happiness, so they want to replace old love with new love, but the final result is mostly unhappy.
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The more greedy the person, the more he will not get anything.
Chen Huan and her husband have been married for 7 years, have a smart and lovely son, the husband is a typical wife strict management, at home is obedient to her, all the things in the family are Chen Huan's master.
Although life is very comfortable, Chen Huan always feels that her marriage is missing something, although her husband is very considerate to her, but his personality is very wooden, usually do not know romance at all.
Later, Chen Huan met a man at a cocktail party. Compared with Chen Huan's husband, the gap between this man and Chen Huan is really too big, he is not only handsome, gentle and romantic, but also that mouth is also particularly good at saying things that make women happy.
After Chen Huan contacted him several times, she fell in love, and she fell deeper and deeper in this extramarital affair, and even had the idea of divorce.
Therefore, she ignored her husband's hard work and did not even want the custody of her son, preferring to leave the house and divorce her husband.
In her opinion, the man outside and her were the real love now, but what she didn't expect was that when she went to find each other, the man changed.
Not only did he not divorce his wife and marry her as he had agreed before, but he also hid from her, and later simply blocked her contact information.
When Chen Huan found his unit, he realized that there was no such person in the unit at all, and all his information was deceiving her.
02
When you don't get it, you always have delusions, but when you get it, the passion will also disappear.
Wei Chen and his wife have been married for 10 years, and the bland marriage has long worn away the original passion, and there is always a regret in Wei Chen's heart, that is, because his parents did not agree, he could not come together with his first love.
Sometimes, fate is so wonderful, at a classmate party, Wei Chen and his first love girlfriend met again. Although the first love girlfriend looks a lot fatter than before, it is still so attractive to Wei Chen. The two sat together and talked happily, and that night they went to the hotel after the old feelings were revived.
Since then, Wei Chen has carried his wife behind his back and started an extramarital affair with his first love girlfriend.
However, not long after getting along, problems arose between them, and Wei Chen found that his first love was a particularly capable woman, and often tested him with some childish behavior.
For example: let him get up in the middle of the night to buy her a car, if he doesn't go, he doesn't love her; she wants to buy a brand bag, Wei Chen didn't buy it for her, he just doesn't spoil her; he didn't come in time for his birthday, that is, his love for her is not true, and so on.
In the end, Wei Chen really couldn't stand it, so he proposed to break up with his first love girlfriend.
03
After all, without a long run-in, it is difficult to trust each other.
Huang Qian and his wife are each other's first love, the wife married him when he was 23 years old, and has been sharing happiness and hardship with him for more than ten years, so, although his wife later became untrimmed and sloppy, Huang Qian did not think of abandoning her, until he later met Xiao Ran.
They met at a friend's birthday party, Xiao Ran's appearance made Huang Qian's eyes light up, and her smile and hand-raising all made Huang Qian feel fascinated.
Later, after the exchange, Huang Qian even identified Xiao Ran as a soul mate who was in line with his spirit, because Xiao Ran was very supportive of him in his career and also took out his savings to do business for him.
Six months later, they divorced their ex and re-established their families. After remarrying, in order to make the business bigger, Huang Qian and his friends went to work hard in other places.
After living in two places, Huang Qian began to think wildly, she was afraid that Xiao Ran was at home alone and had a heart for other men, because before this, many men often sent flowers and gifts to Xiao Ran.
Therefore, as long as she is idle every day, Huang Qian will call Xiao Ran to check the post and ask her where she is, what she is doing, what she is with, and so on.
Xiao Ran couldn't stand Huang Qian a little, so she complained that she was married and still didn't trust her like this, and if she continued like this, she would suffocate. However, Huang Qian still did not trust her, and every morning, middle and evening, he checked the post closely as usual, sometimes making thirty or forty calls to Xiao Ran a day.
In the end, Xiao Ran still filed for divorce with Huang Qian, saying that she did not want to have no freedom in her marriage.
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I read a passage in the book like this:
"Originally living in a bland marriage, after tasting the sweetness of extramarital love, I decided to break the iron rice bowl and rebuild the golden rice bowl. For the so-called true love, after going through all kinds of hardships to get a divorce certificate, the two were happy to marry and start a new life, but it was doomed that everything after this would return to flat. ”
It is true that often many extramarital affairs may not be able to be happy even if they finally break through the obstacles and come together. Therefore, I hope that those men and women who are immersed in extramarital affairs will not take chances, nor will they overestimate extramarital affairs.
After all, marriage is still the original good, in reality, those who have changed from underground lovers to legitimate couples may not be more comfortable than before, because love will never survive time.