Carnegie said: "The saddest person in the world is that he has no advantages enough to show off, but he disguises his pitiful inferiority complex with disgusting arrogance and boasting." ”
Those who covet vanity and sensationalism are like clowns jumping beams, and after the noise dissipates, they become nothing;
Tao Guang cultivates obscure and humble people, who are really wise, who can not only save themselves, but also be accepted by others.
Colleague Xiao Yan especially likes to show off, everything must be competing for you high and low.
Every time she buys something, she "inadvertently" reveals how expensive it is.
Over time, everyone knew the price of almost everything in her hand, from hand cream to car house.
Once, Xiao Yan saw that her colleague had put on new lipstick, so she said: "I just bought a certain big brand, although it is a bit expensive, but it is very easy to use." ”
After saying that, don't forget to spit a few words: "This brand of cream is discounted for thousands of dollars, and it is almost unaffordable, hey!" ”
At work, Xiao Yan is the same.
Some time ago, Xiao Yan grinded with customers for a long time, and saw that the list was about to be signed, but she began to lose her breath.
One night, just after the negotiation with the client, she high-profiled the difficulty of signing the order in the circle of friends, and exposed a lot of cooperation details between words.
When the client saw it, he was furious and thought she was very unprofessional.
To some extent, disclosing the intention to cooperate in advance is equivalent to leaking trade secrets.
In the end, the customer temporarily changed his mind and could not cooperate.
The boss personally came to the rescue, but it still did not help, and the company lost nearly a million revenues.
After this incident, Xiao Yan's monthly performance appraisal counted down twice in a row, and she finally mentioned her resignation in a gray and slippery manner.
A moment of flaunting, sharp and sharp, easy to attract disasters;
Great wisdom is foolish, and prudence in words and deeds is the long-term solution.
No matter when, there is time to do more things, nothing less to show off, so as not to annoy people.
Otherwise, it is likely to become "suspected" but do not know it.
As the writer YiShu said: "A person who is truly rich in his heart never shows off everything he has, he does not tell others what books he has read, what cars he has driven, where he has been, how many clothes he has bought, because he has no sense of inferiority." ”
Maintain a peaceful heart, not crazy, not impatient, in order to reach the high place of life.
Philanthropist Tian Jiabing devoted his life to education, did not hesitate to sell his house to run a school, and was known as the "father of China's hundred schools".
However, because of his introverted nature, his dynamics are rarely reported in the press.
In life, Tian Jiabing never pays attention to pomp and circumstance, a pair of shoes worn for 10 years, socks are patched up and supplemented;
The collar of a garment is rotten, and the children want to replace him with a new one, and he accuses the children of being too wasteful;
The electronic watch he wears, because the style is too old to show people, can only be packed in the pocket...
Even on his 80th birthday, Tian Jiabing also followed Jane, did not set up a large table of wine, and did not engage in extravagant ceremonies.
When a friend recommended him to be a member of the CPPCC National Committee, he also politely refused.
When asked by a reporter why he was "so low-key", he said:
"I've always liked to do real things, and if my reputation is too loud, it will be flashy and feel like a burden."
Everything in the world begins with a low.
Only by not being afraid of its lows can we defeat the multitude and become kings.
Tian Jiabing is like this, and so is actor Hu Ge.
Once, Hu Ge attended an event in Shanghai.
In the media group interview, when he saw the reporter squatting on the spot, he took the initiative to crouch down to cooperate with the interview.
The moment Hu Ge squatted down, there was an exclamation at the scene.
Later, the staff reminded Hu Ge many times that it was okay, and he stood up embarrassed.
A small action reflects the upbringing that is deep in the bones.
Netizens have commented:
"Old Hu doesn't put up a star shelf and puts himself so low, it's too heartwarming."
Ripe valleys often bend over, and wise people often humble.
The fuller the ear of rice, the lower the head hangs;
The more hollow the weeds, the higher they raise their heads.
People who really have a pattern in life know how to lean down and deal with the world.
As the old saying goes, "The earth is low into the sea, and the man is low as king." ”
Whether we are rich or ordinary people, whether we are in the corner of the well or in a high position, we should be low-key and do things in a high profile.
Only in this way can we be at ease in the ups and downs of the world.
After the Tang Dynasty poet Zhang Xiaobiao passed the examination for the jinshi, he was satisfied.
On his way back to Yangzhou from Chang'an, he wrote a poem with a large stroke of a pen, describing himself as if he had been gilded, which impressed the world.
After reading it, the friend Li Shen responded: "The fake gold side is plated with real gold, if it is real gold, it is not plated." ”
After Zhang Xiaobiao read Li Sheng's poems, he was a little ashamed of himself and deliberately went to the door to thank him.
Since then, Zhang Xiaobiao has been humble in the official arena and won countless praises.
Fools show off, have a little achievement, and stagnate;
The wise man is low-key, not showing the mountains and dew, but the clouds are straight up.
The I Ching has a cloud: "Humble gentleman, humble to self-shepherd." ”
A person, the more shallow and more ostentatious, the more intelligent the more low-key.
Not long ago, a friend shared with me the story of working in a five-star restaurant.
When eating in the restaurant, some guests did not wait for the waiter to inquire, and then said in a rough and atmospheric voice, "I am a member", afraid that others would not know that they had money.
Some guests are eager to print luxury logos all over their bodies and make themselves like an "upstart".
However, among these various guests, the most impressive to the friend is a humble old man.
It was a busy weekend and the restaurant service staff were busy.
The old man sat alone at the table, amiable from beginning to end while waiting for the food to be served.
After eating, he also smiled and thanked him, and talked to the waiter next to him.
Later, a friend learned that the old man was actually the owner of a large company and had a solid family.
Mader once said: "A low-key person carries a feather if he lifts a thousand junks, and carries everything with him." ”
In life, people with small patterns often have no one in sight and are keen to whitewash themselves.
And people who are truly cultivated, always think about others when they raise their hands and feet, and never deliberately perform.
Low-key, a noble attitude to life, is the warmth after maturity, but also the indifference after success.
Host Meng Fei said: "All the sense of superiority does not come from appearance, stature, knowledge, family, wealth, status, achievement and power, it only comes from lack of insight and lack of compassion." ”
Low is the beginning of high, and high is the transmutation of low.
Walking in the world, the qi is jealous, the heart is jealous, and only then is it afraid of dew.
Low-key is a person's greatest talent.
For the rest of our lives, may we all endure the wind and rain without being proud, read through the vicissitudes without publicity, and live in a low-key and wise manner.
Author | Lin Xiyan, public number: Xiyan said growth.
Image | Visual China