There are difficult scriptures in the family, even Xu Jinglei, who was once a popular "Four Little Flower Dan".
Xu Jinglei said in the show, "I grew up in the quarrel of my parents, so the instinctive reaction when I mention 'marriage and family' is 'too noisy'. ”
She once said to her parents: "Don't argue, I don't want to get married now, because when I think of marriage and family, I think of the state of the two of you arguing."
The shadow of childhood had always hung over her, so she was afraid to get married.
Because she accidentally hit Xu Jinglei into the show business circle, by chance, she met Wang Shuo, the core figure of the "Beijing Circle", and since then she has opened her own "open and hanging" acting life.
After experiencing several relationships, Xu Jinglei finally met Huang Lixing to accompany her to this day, but Xu Jinglei, who is nearly half a hundred years old, is reluctant to get married because of her original family problems.
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Ms. Xu was born into an ordinary working-class family in Sanlitun, Beijing, and although her family was modest, her parents never neglected to educate Ms. Xu.
From the time she can remember, she was asked by her father to read Tang poems and Song poems and practice calligraphy diligently.
In the eyes of his father, a good handwriting will definitely be "hungry" in the future.
In order to improve family life, Xu Jinglei's father quit his job in the factory and opened a neon factory by himself.
At the beginning of the business, Xu Jinglei's father encountered a problem, who wrote the words on the neon lights ordered by the customer?
He thought to himself: "Originally, the profit of producing neon lights was not large, and it would not be cost-effective to hire another master to write an inscription on the light box." ”
At this time, he saw his daughter Xu Jinglei, who was writing calligraphy on the side, and suddenly an idea came to his mind, asking her to write an inscription for the lightbox.
Xu Jinglei, who has a little achievement in calligraphy, has done her father's task well, which is satisfactory.
During that time, many of the neon signs hanging on the streets and alleys of Beijing were written by Xu Jinglei, which made her feel very accomplished.
In a fortuitous experience, Xu Jinglei suddenly became interested in painting and begged her father to let her learn art, and the father of "Jackie Chan" quickly agreed to her request.
As a result, Xu Jinglei spent her spare time practicing calligraphy and art as a student.
At the age of seventeen, Xu Jinglei, who loves art, decided to "be admitted to the Arts and Crafts Academy of the Central Academy of Drama" as the goal.
But unfortunately, in the year of the art examination, Xu Jinglei, who had only one year of art skills, fell off the list.
Frustrated, Xu Jinglei walked out of the examination room lonely, but was suddenly stopped by a teacher: "This classmate, you have gone to the wrong classroom, this is the art examination room, the performance examination room is next door." ”
Xu Jinglei wanted to explain, but thought about it: "Come and go, then go to the performance examination room to try?" Anyway, the teacher can recognize me as a candidate for the acting department, and it doesn't matter if I try. ”
In this way, Xu Jinglei stepped into the examination classroom of the Acting Department of the Beijing Film Academy with trepidation.
Although she had no acting experience or singing talent, Xu Jinglei successfully passed the exam and became a new student of Nortel's acting major with her tall figure and good face.
Xu Jinglei, who entered the campus, did not have the pleasure she imagined, but appeared to be lacking in interest.
She didn't like acting and missed the opportunity to enter the fine arts major, which she always regretted.
She seemed out of place among a group of superbly acting classmates, and she was very restrained and difficult to let go of her performance in the classroom, and gradually did not want to go to class.
After repeatedly skipping class, she finally released her nature, and she no longer had to be a "good child" in the eyes of her parents as before.
This year, she fell in love with rock 'n' roll.
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Influenced by rock music, Xu Jinglei began to become untrimmed, leather pants, rivets, yellow hair is her standard of the year, so that passing students have to sigh "good sa".
In 1994, Xu Jinglei and Wang Shuo met in a dinner party, when Wang Shuo had a wife, but he was extremely affectionate, and at a glance he fell in love with Xu Jinglei, who was flamboyant and beautiful in the crowd.
Compared with Xu Jinglei, Wang Shuo can be described as an important figure in the entertainment industry.
He is both a famous writer and a famous screenwriter, and he is a core figure in the "Beijing Circle".
As early as the 1980s, the novels he created were bought and filmed by investors to be presented to the public, of which Director Jiang Wen's debut work, "Sunny Days", is one of the novels written by Wang Shuo.
The TV series he planned, "Longing", has become the holder of the record of high ratings of Chinese TV dramas.
Another familiar thing is that the classic sitcom "The Story of the Newsroom" is an insurmountable "myth".
The film scripts "Do Not Disturb" and "Party A and Party B" written for director Feng Xiaogang made Feng Xiaogang usher in the peak of his career.
Under Wang Shuo's strategy, Xu Jinglei quickly "surrendered" and the two completely ignored the existence of Wang Shuo's wife and mixed together all day.
In the face of gossip from the outside world, Wang Shuo frankly said:
"Xu Jinglei is a rock fruit, I liked rock when I was a child, rock fruit was born in Beijing is the most positive, play sloppy and handsome, is not at all trim young people, I especially like this kind of person." 」
With her back to the tree to cool off, Xu Jinglei, who is only a sophomore in college, got such a good resource as the heroine of the film "You at the Same Table" because of Wang Shuo's relationship, and officially started her acting career.
However, this film did not stir up much splash in the film and television circles, but the song of the same name was widely circulated.
Someone broke the news that Xu Jinglei came to Wang Shuo's wife Shen Xujia and said provocatively when she was in love with Wang Shuo: "I can now freely come and go in and out of your house, so you should give him to me!" ”
Shen Xujia glanced at Xu Jinglei and said lightly, "You don't understand, you can't replace me." ”
Hearing this, Xu Jinglei smiled and turned to leave, and then on all major occasions, she and Wang Shuo held hands and entered, as if to tell the world: Wang Shuo is mine.
Shen Xujia, who was looking forward to Wang Shuo's prodigal son's return, finally became discouraged in the center of the long waiting days, and after she signed a divorce agreement with Wang Shuo, she took her daughter out of Beijing to live overseas.
When Xu Jinglei was twenty-two years old, she suddenly said to Wang Shuo: "I want to make a movie." ”
Wang Shuo, who was responsive, immediately contacted his friend Zhao Baogang, the director of "Star-Making", and asked: "Dude, have you ever had any movies to start shooting recently?" I have someone here who I would like to introduce to you. ”
In this way, Zhao Baogang arranged for Xu Jinglei the heroine of the movie "A Matter of Wind and Snow" "Miaoling Police Flower Lu Yueyue", so that Xu Jinglei could emerge in the film and television circle.
However, on the set of this movie, Xu Jinglei, who often skips class and "does not learn no techniques", almost committed Zhao Baogang's directorial heart disease because of her disorganized performance.
Fortunately, Xu Jinglei had Zhao Baogang personally directed, so the film was successfully completed.
The days gradually passed, for some reason Xu Jinglei and Wang Shuo broke up in a low profile, but still maintained a good relationship.
In 1998, Xu Jinglei won the role of "College Student Wenhui" in the TV series "Carry Love to the End" directed by Zhang Yibai.
This drama created a precedent for mainland idol dramas, allowing lead actors Li Yapeng, Wang Xuebing, Xu Jinglei and others to spread all over the country overnight.
At this time, Xu Jinglei was also called "National First Love" because of her pure and sweet face.
Just when Xu Jinglei's career was on the right track and the development was smooth, Wang Shuo was in decline for some reasons, and Xu Jinglei, who cared about her old feelings, immediately gave Gifts to Wang Shuo to buy real estate, saying: "Writers should have their own house to write." ”
Later, Wang Shuo said self-deprecatingly in the interview: "I was born with soft rice, and I was born with soft rice. ”
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After breaking up with Wang Shuo, Xu Jinglei's relationship between men and women can be described as jaw-dropping, and the scandals of dating different men are frequently reported, which makes people overwhelmed.
Xu Jinglei said to Wang Shuo after becoming famous: "I want to be a director. ”
So Wang Shuo spared no effort to lobby for her in the "Beijing Circle", and finally, in 2003, Xu Jinglei's first film work "My Father and Me" was successfully released.
In this movie, the powerful actors who made cameo appearances include Jiang Wen and Ye Daying and others.
Xu Jinglei won many awards such as "Golden Rooster Award for Best Director's Debut" and "Best Screenwriter at the Chinese Film and Media Awards" and "Best New Director" in the directing industry this time.
Because xu Jinglei and musical talent Zhang Yadong met in this movie, the two talked happily.
Some media have taken photos of Zhang Yadong and Xu Jinglei in pairs, but at the same time, actress Gao Yuanyuan has just announced the news of being in love with Zhang Yadong for five years on the Internet, and there is an uproar on the Internet.
In the end, Gao Yuanyuan and Zhang Yadong broke up, and Xu Jinglei's scandal with Zhang Yadong was also resolved.
Perhaps because there is nowhere to tell in the heart, the blog has become Xu Jinglei's "sojourn place", where Xu Jinglei and Han Han met, and many intimate interactions made people think of it, and Han Han once flew to Beijing to meet Xu Jinglei.
But soon after, the news came that Xu Jinglei and Zhou Xun's ex-boyfriend Huang Jue were in love.
When Xu Jinglei filmed the film "Letter from a Strange Woman", she was deeply attracted by the literary atmosphere of Huang Jue.
Some media have taken photos of Xu Jinglei and Huang Jue visiting IKEA together, and they still have a ring in their hands, like a posture of buying a new house, but in the face of outside inquiries, Xu Jinglei's attitude of not responding is helpless.
During the period of ambiguity with Huang Jue, some media filmed the picture of Han Han and Xu Jinglei talking and laughing.
In the face of the interview, Xu Jinglei said: "Please, we are just simple good friends, and besides, I think that between two adults, even if they are friends of the opposite sex, just go out to have a meal together, there is no need to explain anything to anyone, right? ”
Working hard in the entertainment industry for many years, Xu Jinglei met her favorite TV series "Dulala Promotion", in which Xu Jinglei not only gained fame and fortune but also had a love affair with the same group of male actors Huang Lixing.
In 2011, Xu Jinglei's career and love went hand in hand, and together with her boyfriend Huang Lixing, she filmed the self-directed and self-acting movie "Intimate Enemy", which won 120 million at the box office and achieved gratifying results.
Thoughts become diseases, and medicine stones have no cure.
On the occasion of the ninth anniversary of Xu Jinglei and Huang Lixing's love, she posted on Weibo: "You are my medicine." "Show love to Huang Lixing in the air."
Zhang Yadong, who had a relationship with Xu Jinglei, had a new situation in his feelings, and Zhang Yadong was photographed kissing people in the car last year.
After Huang Jue and Xu Jinglei broke up, they met a netizen named "Maizi" on the Internet, and the two like-minded people gradually became acquainted, from the Internet to reality, and now they have married for ten years, and the family of three lives very happily.
And Wang Shuo has been in the wind for so many years and finally accepted his heart, and in his new book, he wrote about the guilt of his daughter for many years.
Xu Jinglei, who has now entered middle age, has never planned to get married and have children.
The influence of the original family is too great, and the endless quarrels of her parents when she was young are still haunting Xu Jinglei's mind.
Therefore, Xu Jinglei is afraid of marriage, she is always worried that she will repeat the mistakes of her parents, and she does not want her children's childhood to grow up in the smoke of the family all day long.
It's not that she doesn't want to tie the knot, but she doesn't dare to tie it.
Fortunately, she has always had Huang Lixing by her side, and privately Huang Lixing said to Xu Jinglei more than once: "It doesn't matter, I respect your decision, as long as you want to get married, we will get married, and if you want to have children, we will have children." ”
Xu Jinglei, who has gradually disappeared from the public's vision, has started the work of the boss behind the scenes, occasionally sharing her life on social platforms, and the most often "sunbathing" is her own calligraphy works.
Her words flutter like floating clouds, like a frightening dragon, and the whole calligraphy is even more flowing, which makes people marvel.
Although she was criticized for some inappropriate remarks, her wanton life and vigorous calligraphy really made people feel a little envious.
May she be able to do the right thing and take the right path in the future, and not live up to her talent and be ashamed of the title of "talented woman".