Life must be staged, so interlocked, which has formed the final result, if you think carefully and deliberate, you will find that everything will have traces. One wrong step is wrong, one step cannot catch up, one step cannot catch up, which means that the richness and state of mind to meet the next stage are missing.
There are eight words, I think everyone will not be unfamiliar: thirty and standing, forty not confused.
Whenever these eight words are mentioned, what is the understanding of most people?
When people reach the age of 30, they will get ahead and have a career, as if the achievements achieved at the age of 30 are the achievements of a lifetime; others will no longer feel confused when they are 40 years old, and they have a state of mind that sees through the red dust and transcends things.
In fact, in addition to a little bit of truth, it is more mixed with harshness on people. Strictly speaking, 30 years old, life has just begun, because of a "standing" word and just began, if the single literal understanding, is there a standing, standing, independent meaning?
So "thirty and standing, forty not confused": to be honest, we all misunderstood!
1. What is thirty standing?
In fact, you will find that before the age of 30, people rarely know themselves, define themselves, and think deeply about life and life. So confusion is always the norm of life, don't know what you want, don't know what you should do, don't know what you're suitable for, and burn your passion years with all your blood.
30 years old is also a watershed in life, which means that we must clarify our life direction and life plan in deep thinking, and independently assume those responsibilities that belong to us.
This means that at this age, everything must be determined, and it can no longer be muddy and senseless, and then run to life little by little, step by step.
Specifically, it should be divided into three aspects: establishing oneself, establishing oneself, establishing one's career, and establishing one's family.
Standing: First of all, we must know that we ourselves are the foundation of all life, and we must talk about other things when we can stand on our own feet, so standing up is also self-cultivation.
What stands is one's own self-cultivation, morality, belief, independence, tenacity, thought, pursuit, and so on. Then self-improvement is also the foundation of self-reliance, absolutely can no longer have the idea and behavior of nibbling on the old, or pin your life hopes on others, that is a weak behavior, will only make people disdainful.
Career: People after the age of 30 should find their own skills, give full play to their strengths and strengths, and then determine their careers, rather than saying what kind of achievements to achieve at the age of 30.
It is absolutely impossible to be idle and lazy, this is the need to survive, and it is also a responsibility to society.
Establish a family: People who walk in this society, almost all of them take the family as the basic unit, a person floating may not be bad, but it must not be rooted, like the duckweed on the sea, only after starting a family will settle down, with the help of marriage to better understand themselves, complete themselves.
2. What is forty confusion?
When people reach middle age, they will also usher in the biggest watershed in their lives, and they should have a kind of openness in the depths, and they should also have a kind of cultivation in the boldness, enter the real mature stage, and know the world without being sophisticated.
Maturity is not a smoothness, but the discovery of the true self, the formation of a unique personality, and the most important thing is to be able to accept the broken parts of life, and to be able to be self-disciplined, to remove the harshness, to understand tolerance and forgiveness.
To know that at the age of 40, you must have experienced too much cold and warmth, jealousy, confusion, excitement, excitement, and doubt, so what about after that? It should be a sudden realization, it should be suddenly cheerful, or it should be calm and dashing, and a burst of fragrance comes from the depths of the heart.
So it is necessary to talk about it from two points.
The ability to see the essence through appearances: reason and sobriety should be synonymous with middle-aged people, so what supports sanity and sobriety? It is the ability to think independently and the ability to distinguish between right and wrong.
Behind the fact that I no longer have the will to do things, I have learned to think when things happen, and finally have my own opinions and judgments, so that I will not be confused by the appearance of a thing.
Then there was no more of the unrealistic fantasies, arrogance, delusions and naivety of youth, and it was understood that all ideals must be absolutely based on real society.
If thirty and standing is a certainty, then forty is an affirmation.
In the years after forty, there will be no more wild thinking, no more gains and losses, and truly achieve the conformity of things and the future is not welcome.
Affirm your own choices and responsibilities: Age has not allowed you to think too much, you can only firmly choose your own choices, and go on in the life and life that you have chosen. At the same time, it also affirms the responsibility to the children, the family, and the parents, do not have to think too much about the useless, just take the responsibility you should bear to the end.
So men after the age of 40 are less passionate and more calm; less impulsive and more calm; less indulgent and more responsible; less fantasy and more pragmatic. To put it through, it is to start talking about the real and practical things, and there is no such thing as when I was young.
The above is the interpretation of thirty and forty.
It is said that the years are merciless, but the best we have later are often the gifts of the years, although we have lost a lot of things, but also gained a lot of things, including a better self and height.
The growth of the first half of life is from simple to complex, because when you first start to understand this complex and realistic society, you can't help but be affected, and when you understand the laws and trajectories of society, you begin to pursue the fragrance in your heart, which is equivalent to finding your true self.
So the growth of the second half of life is also a kind of transformation, from the complex and simple transformation, not to change the world, but to have the right attitude to deal with the world.
This is a state of mind that is still not happy or sad after seeing the truth of life, and because of that calmness and composure, it has cultivated its own unique temperament.
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