Chen Baiyu, a 38-year-old Hong Kong singer who has been married to 36-year-old model Leanne for nearly four years and has a 2-year-old daughter, Abi, has always wanted to have a second child, but the process has been tossed. In May last year, Fu Xiaowei found out that she was pregnant with a second child, but unfortunately confirmed that she was ectopic and needed urgent surgery to remove the left fallopian tube. Faced with the pain of losing the fetus, Fu Xiaowei said at the time that she would still try to get pregnant again.
After almost a year, Fu Xiaowei finally became pregnant again, but she did not expect that this time the fetus needed to undergo an abortion due to Edwards syndrome T18.
Fu Xiaowei lost her fetus twice in a year, and she took a video to share her feelings and said that she would undergo surgery to terminate her pregnancy when her son was 13 weeks old.
Fu Xiaowei said that this year's Lunar New Year learned of the successful pregnancy again, every day with gratitude, even if the continuous morning sickness caused the weight to fall: "But still very much look forward to seeing you, every night is fantasizing, will you be like dad, or will you be like me?" You and Abi play with the look of a toy. These images fill me every night. Hearing your heartbeat when I went to the obstetric examination, I forgot all the feelings of nausea and vomiting, and only full of happiness remained. ”
Stepping into the 10th week and 5 days, Fu Xiaowei was as usual for obstetric examination, and also happily took a video, how to suddenly hear the doctor say that there was a problem with the fetus. She was suddenly lost, washing her face with tears every day and checking the relevant information on the Internet, she discussed with her husband Chen Baiyu and decided that even if her son was Tang's, they could accept it, and they had the ability to take care of their son. However, she received a blood test report confirming that the fetus was Edward's syndrome T18.
In the face of medical terms that have never been heard at all, Fu Xiaowei learned from the data that the chance rate is 1 in 5000, and she laughed bitterly at why the lottery did not win, but she was hit by this disease, which is 1 more than 1 of the 18th pair of chromosomes of the fetus, and there is a high chance that the fetus will still be stillborn, even if it can be born, it is only a few minutes or a few hours or a few months of life.
She wrote bitterly: "Could it be that the heavens really don't want me to have you?" We have accepted the Tang family, how can we expect to have worse intentions. When preparing to undergo a placental examination again, holding out a glimmer of hope that it might be a sampling error, how did the doctor take the early structure for less than 5 seconds, Fu Xiaowei heard the 4 words "sorry". Doctors refer to the sex of the fetus as male.
Fu Xiaowei wrote on the doctor to explain the fetal problem: "There is no left and right brain, there are serious problems in the heart, there is no nasal bone, intestinal exposure, the hand is missing a bone, the foot is also curved, and there are many, many problems." Doctors suggested not to smoke fluff, although it was already very certain that Edward's, if not, was a teratology with very serious problems. Next, the couple decided to have an abortion.
Fu Xiaowei pointed out that the doctor suggested that she undergo surgery as soon as possible, but she had a small wish: "Because there were no pregnancy photos when I was pregnant with my daughter before, so this time our family of four went to take pregnancy photos." Because I believed this time it would be my last pregnancy, I didn't have the courage to take on another blow. ”
Fu Xiaowei said: "On the way to pregnancy, I have dried up my tears and my heart is broken. I'm sorry, my mother didn't have the courage, I kept thinking, it's better to ignore nothing and take care of you. But how many minutes does it take to see you born every time? How many hours? Few days? Months? I can't stand it. I've never been a lucky person, I don't have this luck to have you, my life's luck has been used to marry your dad, and give birth to sister Abi. So Mom is sorry for you, not this blessing to see your birth, but you have to know that Mom and Dad love you forever! ”
In the face of the pain, Fu Xiaowei was more aware of her husband's pain, and she wrote a special message to Chen Baiyu: "Finally, I also want to say sorry to Chen's father, you are a person who put away your pain, I just want to say sorry to you, because I have no luck, I want you to accompany me to bear this pain." You're right, we shouldn't be greedy, it's enough to have an abi. ”
In the video, she also asked herself why she had not done anything bad, why she had encountered such a thing, and after thinking about it, she felt that it might be a matter of fate, and what she had was already happier than many people, plus she had a daughter around. After sharing her experience, she said: "After I took a photo with Mr. Chen, I sent BB away first. I should not have this confidence to get pregnant again, so I hope that everyone friends will watch this video, don't ask me again, when will I have a second, because Abi is enough, fortunately Abi is in, if there is no Abi I may be in a bad mood, but I am ok now. ”
Seeing that Fu Xiaowei had two miscarriages in a year, many friends and fans sent blessings to let her take good care.
However, some Hong Kong netizens feel that there are many reasons for her miscarriage. Some people say, "Why publicly?" It is not enough for 3 months, a lot of people are small, where there is everywhere to say. Another netizen said: "Maybe heaven saw that Mr. Chen's way of taking care of his daughter was very dangerous, so he decided not to let you have a second one." ”
In fact, the netizens' complaints are not nonsense. There is an unwritten phenomenon in the entertainment industry, less than 3 months of pregnancy is generally not announced, afraid of fetal stinginess. Many celebrities who are pregnant and have a big belly are determined not to admit pregnancy, and some stars even split their forks during pregnancy to deny pregnancy.
But Fu Xiaowei is an exception, whether she is ectopic pregnancy or abortion, she never hides it, and she and Chen Baiyu's two in-laws also have "sharing disorder", often sharing various life photos, as well as many photos with babies.
Because he loves to share, Chen Baiyu's way of taking a baby is always complained about by netizens. For example, last year, Chen Baiyu posted a photo of his daughter tearing his feet, which he thought was very interesting, but he was badly commented on by countless netizens.
Many netizens think that he is disgusting and unhygienic in doing so, and will definitely be teased by friends when he grows up.
In addition, Chen Baiyu will also post photos of his daughter being naked in the bath, and he feels that it does not matter if the child is still small, there is no need to play mosaic with the child. But many netizens feel that when pictures and images involve children's nudity, please code the child's private parts to avoid making children ashamed. Don't disclose the ugly photos of the child, maybe adults think it is funny, but it will make the child feel very embarrassed.
To tell the truth, at present, many young people are under pressure in life, even if they get married and have children, they only have one, and there are some female friends around xiaobian, and accidental pregnancy will also choose not to, but the stars are different. They have superior material conditions, and stars who like children will choose to have more children. Some people don't want to get pregnant unexpectedly, and some people want to have children, maybe this is also fate.