In our current educational philosophy, girls should be nurtured in a nutshell, broadly speaking, to give them more financial, cultural and emotional support to become confident, independent and elegant. But truly accomplished women may not be entirely nurtured in this way.
For example, the former CCTV host Dong Qing we are familiar with, is elegant, classical, and gentle, and seems to be a girl who was raised by wealth, but in fact, on the contrary, Dong Qing was "raised" by her father.
Dong Qing once said in an interview, "My father is really special, special, and strict with me. ”
This special father began strict discipline when Dong Qing was 7 years old, Dong Qing, who had just gone to school, loved to read comic books, and after being known by his father, he assigned Dong Qing a task, hoping that when she was reading comic books, she would extract the four-character idioms above, but Dong Qing could not fully understand what idioms were, and once excerpted "back to Vienna", which was criticized by his father.
His father is busy at work, and most of his guidance to Dong Qing is at the dinner table, so Dong Qing was very afraid to eat with his father when he was a child, because every time he eats, it is her "criticism meeting", and even cries while eating, so when Dong Qing was a child, he liked the days when his father was on a business trip, and he could get short-term freedom and happiness.
As Dong Qing's age increases, her father has given her more and more customized tasks, such as reciting ancient poems, Dong Qing can be praised by the media at the "Chinese Poetry Conference" for "having poetry and books in her belly", which is not due to Dong Qing's talent, but the trickle of nourishment in childhood, and over time, a rich ocean has been achieved.
In addition to being strict in her studies, in life, her father also deliberately trained her to be independent and diligent, and when Dong Qing was not yet tall in the dishwasher, she began to learn to wash dishes and mop the floor to do housework. In the summer vacation of middle school, I was pushed out by my father to be a free laborer.
At the beginning of the summer vacation, my father asked for a job as a free cleaner through a friend who opened a hotel, and the boss was really embarrassed to hire free labor, so he gave him a salary of one dollar a day. Dong Qing started her part-time job, cleaning the hotel rooms, she couldn't even push Simmons when she was small, but she had to clean 10 rooms a day, and only barely cleaned 2 rooms after a day of work, and her father picked her up from work at night and asked her if she was tired, Dong Qing cried out all of a sudden, but her father said, hold on a little longer.
Dong Qing's unwillingness to admit defeat may have sprouted from that time, and until the end of the summer vacation, he did not flinch again, completed the 60-day cleaning task perfectly, and got an unforgettable salary of 60 yuan.
Many parents now pay attention to their children's physical fitness, and report physical fitness classes to their children, Dong Qing's father paid attention to this at a very early age, when Dong Qing was in elementary school, he was asked by his father to go to the playground of the junior high school next door in the morning to run a thousand meters, even if it is a cold winter, with white air in his mouth, he still wants to run.
Many early mornings, the students came out to do morning exercises, Dong Qing was still running, being looked at with strange eyes, Dong Qing was very uncomfortable, once she pinched the time, hid in the corridor, pretending to have just finished running home, several times later was found by her father, that day not only hungry to go to school but also beaten by her father.
When she became the high-profile host, Dong Qing recalled that she was not sure if she would educate her children in this way, but she recognized her father's education method very much, and it was her father's selfless love that made her.
"Negative support" makes Dong Qing an adventurer who goes into battle in armor and fights for himself, and becomes a realistic man of action, who deserves to be respected and cherished by more people.
Such "negative maintenance" may be "rich maintenance" in another sense. He does not pursue material needs, but cares more about spiritual tempering and forging, which is to give children the ability to control their destiny. Because only spiritual wealth is a priceless treasure that will never depreciate, and it is also the best gift that a father can give to his children.