Text/Mo Ran
What is a sense of boundaries? In interpersonal communication, individuals recognize and respect the boundaries between themselves and others.
The sense of boundaries involves the relationship between the individual and others and the individual's sense of self, including not only physical boundaries, but also emotional and spiritual boundaries.
Many times, we are often greedy for more love, so we ignore the boundaries and take it for granted.
A person who has no sense of boundaries will not get more love. Only by having a certain degree of everything can we maintain a long-term and harmonious relationship.
A sense of boundaries in life
If a person really loves you, he will not control you, let alone interfere with your freedom and space, but will know what to do and what not to do.
No matter who you get along with, respecting other people's thoughts and behaviors is the most basic, and it is also the principle and bottom line of daily interactions.
Regardless of the relationship, it's important to maintain a healthy and comfortable sense of boundaries.
All human troubles come from interpersonal relationships, and the root of this is a lack of a sense of boundaries.
In life, we are all independent individuals, and we all have our own cognitions and ideas, so we should retain a sense of social boundaries when socializing.
Everyone is independent, and without the same two leaves, there is no need to ask others what to do.
It's normal for different perceptions and opinions, no one is right or wrong, life needs space, mutual respect to coexist.
A sense of emotional boundaries
Human beings themselves are very complex emotional animals, and no one is perfect, so we must learn to tolerate each other.
Maintain an emotional sense of boundaries, not overly snooping, and not blindly giving, so that the relationship will be balanced.
Anyone who crosses the line and inserts into someone else's emotions will attract unnecessary trouble.
The emotions you give are not necessarily the same as what the other person interferes with, because everyone has a different view of things.
You think you've given the best to the other person, but you don't know that it may be what the other person doesn't want.
If you use your love emotionally to stipulate others, you will put a strong pressure on others, and you will feel constrained.
True love needs to be blank, no matter what kind of relationship, family, friendship, love is the same.
Only by giving each other enough space will they get along comfortably, and if everything is too intimate, it may become a kind of bondage, and each other will be suffocated.
A sense of boundaries in the family
The relationship between people is like two trees that grow together, if they are too close to each other and disturb each other, they will definitely not grow well, and they will even wither.
Only by keeping a moderate distance can the branches flourish and the branches are full of spring.
Maintaining a certain social distance is the best state for people to get along with each other.
Even in the family, it should be the same, do not kidnap morally in the name of love, parents and children, husbands and wives, mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law, all kinds of relationships should maintain a sense of boundaries.
The general lack of boundaries between family members is reflected in the excessive attention and interference of the loved one, which is actually a form of emotional abuse that no one can endure for a long time, and it will also affect the relationship with each other.
There is a saying: "The person who loves me the most is also the person who hurts me the most", because many family members love you the way they think they do, but ignore the true feelings in your heart.
Everyone is an individual, and there must be boundaries between relatives.
Summary:
Every kind of love needs a sense of boundary, and in all people, those boundaries are like invisible threads, which will be ignored by us if we are not careful.
One side is warm, the other side is cold, everything has two sides, so be yourself, don't rely on it, and don't ask for it.
Proper get-together will make us happy, and occasional efforts will make us feel fulfilled.
May we have a sense of boundaries in every emotion.