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During the kindergarten lunch break, "men and women sleep together", the picture taken by the teacher, the parent group exploded

During the kindergarten lunch break, "men and women sleep together", the picture taken by the teacher, the parent group exploded

Hello everyone, I'm Cuckoo~

I saw something on the Internet, and I believe many kindergarten parents have encountered it.

A mother, seeing that the parents were talking non-stop in the group, out of curiosity, she clicked on it and took a look.

It doesn't matter if you don't look at it, when you look at it, Bao's mother can't sit still.

It turned out that the kindergarten children slept with men and women, and boys and girls took lunch breaks next to each other. One of the girls kicked the quilt halfway, and the boy next to her saw it and helped her cover it.

During the kindergarten lunch break, "men and women sleep together", the picture taken by the teacher, the parent group exploded

The teacher felt that this picture was very warm and the children were very united and friendly, so they took a photo and sent it to the group.

But after the parents saw it, they quarreled. In particular, the parents of the girl questioned why men and women should sleep together? Doesn't this protect the privacy of the children? Shouldn't boys and girls be separated?

Some parents don't think so, thinking that their children are still young, what can they think? Don't look at your children with the eyes of adults.

During the kindergarten lunch break, "men and women sleep together", the picture taken by the teacher, the parent group exploded

Many parents have mentioned mixed toilets from mixed sleeping.

Some people think that sleeping in mixed toilets is nothing, that children are innocent, and that we really don't want to overdo it.

But there are also people who firmly oppose it, saying that boys and girls should be separated regardless of lunch break or toilet, so as to protect the children.

Usually we will also encounter such a problem, many kindergartens, children are shared toilets and mixed sleep, so in the end, will it affect the healthy growth of children?

During the kindergarten lunch break, "men and women sleep together", the picture taken by the teacher, the parent group exploded

One: Parents' concerns

The kindergarten where Bu Niu is located used to sleep and share toilets.

But later, a boy in the class, after reading a sex education picture book at home, had to squat in the toilet to look at other girls, saying that he wanted to observe the difference between boys and girls.

As soon as the girl came home, the parents were not happy, and after reporting to the teacher, the garden separated the toilets. However, the mixed sleep still hasn't changed.

To be honest, although Cuckoo Mom knows about children of this age out of curiosity and wants to know the difference between "boy" and "girl", Cuckoo Mom is not very happy if Bu Niu is seen in the toilet.

Maybe as a parent of a girl, I think I am a little more risk-conscious.

Especially when there are more children and fewer teachers, and the teacher does not look at them, these curious children may make some inappropriate actions.

Although nothing big will happen, as a parent, it will still be uncomfortable and worried.

However, whether we approve of the children's mixed sleeping and mixed toilets, their gender consciousness enlightenment, we still have to know.

In this way, when children really reach the age of curiosity about "boys" and "girls", we will not be too worried and anxious.

During the kindergarten lunch break, "men and women sleep together", the picture taken by the teacher, the parent group exploded

Two: 3-5 years old

Children begin to form a "gender identity" from about 3 years old.

At this time, they have a vague impression of "boys" and "girls", and by observing their parents, they realize whether they belong to the "dad category" or the "mom category".

For example, a boy may imitate his father's knocking and beating, follow him to dance with a knife and a gun, and pick up a stick to play with flowers.

Girls, on the other hand, may crouch next to their mothers and be busy "cooking", mopping the floor, doing laundry, or picking and picking in their mother's closet, showing off in their mother's high heels.

Boys and girls will also have their own preferences in the choice of toys.

During the kindergarten lunch break, "men and women sleep together", the picture taken by the teacher, the parent group exploded

Boys pick toys, either cars or Ultraman. But girls don't want to look at these things, but go straight to those Barbie dolls and beautiful clothes and jewelry toys.

At this stage, the child will realize that he is "a girl" or "a boy". At the same time, they develop a sense of pride and identity with their gender.

Therefore, we should identify and tolerate the child's gender more, and don't let him doubt.

For example, some parents like girls, so they dress their sons in the direction of girls, dress them up, and buy them obvious girly things.

Some parents often sigh to the girl when they want a boy, "If only you were a son." ”

These inappropriate expectations of parents can confuse their children's gender consciousness, and they may not identify with their own gender in the future, thus behaving inappropriately.

During the kindergarten lunch break, "men and women sleep together", the picture taken by the teacher, the parent group exploded

Three: 5-7 years old

Between the ages of 5 and 7, children will enter the "gender role recognition stage".

They began to recognize "boys" and "girls" and to distinguish between boys and girls.

Especially when they are 6 or 7 years old, they obviously know whether they are a boy or a girl, and they are not easy to fool when it comes to dressing.

He used to wear boyish or girlish clothes, but now he is reluctant to wear them, and only chooses clothes and items that clearly belong to his gender.

They will use a number of traits to describe boys and girls: girls wear braids, boys generally don't, girls wear skirts, boys don't, girls pee while squatting, and boys pee standing up.

Their behavior is also closer to their gender.

At this stage, we may have to face relatively big challenges.

Because they are obviously curious about gender, and even want to distinguish the difference between themselves and others through intuitive observation.

For example, a child may look at his body curiously, and even have to touch or touch it. What's even more embarrassing is that they may do it in front of others.

During the kindergarten lunch break, "men and women sleep together", the picture taken by the teacher, the parent group exploded

It's also possible that they don't have a sense of proportion outside, and they start watching children of different genders.

This is not only embarrassing for parents, but may also cause dissatisfaction among other parents.

However, we must realize that at this time, the child is really not "playing hooligan" or harboring any bad intentions as we adults think.

They have just entered the stage of gender enlightenment, and they have begun to be curious about their own bodies, and they want to understand the differences in body structure, which is the same as wanting to understand their hands and feet.

If we criticize and blame our children out of anger, this will cause them to have a wrong perception of gender, and even feel that gender differences are shameful, and in the future, they will have a sense of shame about themselves or the opposite sex.

We can divert the child's attention and keep him busy with sports or other things, so that he does not keep his eyes on his body all the time.

When children are curious about their bodies, we can also gently guide: "We should protect our private parts and not observe ourselves at will when people are around." ”

In addition, we also need to teach our children to respect others: "We must not only protect our own private parts, but also respect the private parts of others, and we must not look at others at will, which will make people uncomfortable." ”

During the kindergarten lunch break, "men and women sleep together", the picture taken by the teacher, the parent group exploded

Four: Don't be too stereotypical

If we are more concerned about mixed sleeping and mixed toilets, then when choosing a kindergarten, try to pick a separate kindergarten. That way, we'll have less to worry about.

If we can't pick the right one, and we are more concerned, then we usually try to wear skirts for girls as little as possible, so that we can avoid them to a certain extent. I usually teach my children to protect their privacy and not to let people look at it.

Of course, we should not be too rigid and overkill.

It is normal for kindergarten children to hold hands, hug and even kiss their cheeks. At this stage, they have only pure friendship.

Boys and girls playing together is more conducive to their healthy growth and will not form stereotypical gender stereotypes.

Do you agree with the kindergarten lunch break "mixed sleeping with men and women"?

[The picture comes from the Internet, invaded and deleted]

About the author:Cuckoo mother, psychological counselor, family education instructor, marriage emotional counselor, focusing on children's psychology, understanding children's easy parenting, if you like it, pay attention to it~

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