I believe everyone is familiar with the word "gnawing the old", in the traditional sense, everyone thinks that economic independence is a sign of a child's adulthood.
Now many people still think so, and the opposite is that when it comes to independence, they are still snuggled in the arms of their parents, which is also called "gnawing the old people".
The source of life of the old people is their parents, who are 20-30 years old, and they look like adults, but they do not have the ability to make a living, and they need their parents to support them.
In our country's traditional thinking, when children reach adulthood and have the ability to earn, they will repay their parents' nurturing kindness and give them money or other goods to be filial to their parents.
However, the gnawing of the old people not only cannot give their parents material support, but even need their parents to give them support.
With the development of society, the gnawing old people have evolved into a new type of gnawing old people, which is not quite the same as the traditional gnawing old people, covering a larger area and more hidden.
So what is the new type of gnawing old, and under what circumstances does this kind of problem occur?
1. What is a new type of gnawing old?
Nibbing the old is always asking for money from his parents to support his life, he may not have a job, so he depends on his parents to support him, but now the new type of gnawing old is not the same as before.
Today's new type of gnawing at the elderly is to ask parents for living expenses for various reasons to help them in their studies, careers, lives, and so on.
In my parents' generation, almost all of them worked as family farmers, and the family was always together, dividing the land, farming, and living.
With the economic and social development, slowly, rural people are slowly developing to cities, and people's academic qualifications are getting higher and higher.
Moreover, it seems that adult children renting a house and working outside by themselves have become a sign of adulthood, especially in cities such as Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou.
In addition, with the development of modern society, Internet media technology is becoming more and more developed, and many jobs have become saturated.
Fresh graduates can't find jobs, but the number of new graduates is increasing every year, which makes it impossible for more people to become financially independent.
In this way, the struggle of parents throughout their lives may buy a car for their children, buy a house, pay off loans, etc., parents are under great pressure, and children are under great pressure.
It's not easy to work outside, sometimes a month's salary is not enough to spend on yourself, let alone subsidize the family, and the family has to properly comfort yourself and subsidize the economy.
Nowadays, the pressure on young people is really great, in this era of rapid development, young people want to take root steadily, they must work hard, accumulate work experience, and find a path that suits them.
There is an old saying that is very true, it is our parents who are really good to us, and when we have financial problems, our parents are the ones who will support us without saying a word.
Second, the reason for the new gnawing of the old
The first is the employment pressure, with the development of the times, there are now more and more undergraduate graduates, and the number of 985,211 graduates is also increasing year by year.
In the case of oversaturation, the company must focus on talents, and first select those with good grades and strong abilities in all aspects.
This leads to many people not being able to find a job, and some choose to transition at home for a period of time, with the support of their parents, life is at least not a problem, while looking for a job.
The other part may choose to improve their academic qualifications, go to graduate school, and it will be relatively better to find a job after graduation, or take the public examination, have a stable job, and develop in their hometown.
In this process, parents are unconditionally supportive, which also subtly shows the phenomenon of gnawing the old.
The second is that the parents have been pampered since childhood, and when they grow up, they become doting, especially the post-00s.
Many of my parents' generation went out to work, or did some business, and had some achievements, or were relatively ordinary.
But in their eyes, when they were young, their family conditions were not good, and they suffered all their lives, so they wanted their children to suffer less, and they were especially pampered since they were young.
So that they have hardly experienced any setbacks, they can't cook, they can't do laundry, they can't reach for clothes, they can open their mouths for food, they will be hit by a little thing, and it is even more difficult to find a job after graduation.
They can't accept the cruelty of society, so they will choose to enjoy life at home, and they are unwilling to be motivated, and it is their pursuit to live a flat life.
Finally, it is caused by the environment in life, the rapid progress of the times, the pressure of survival, rent, water and electricity, food and drink, all are money.
It is not easy for people who work hard in big cities, they are tired and tired to earn money, and not long after the month is issued, there is not much left after paying the rent, loan, water and telephone bills.
Also, for boys, after graduating and working for a few years, they will face marriage.
However, when you first enter the society, it is difficult to save money with a salary of several thousand yuan a month, so what can you use to buy a house?
Generally, parents will slowly save money when their children go to school, and when their children are facing marriage, they will help their children buy a house and a car.
Parents have invisibly accepted this model, as if it is an invisible gnawing model passed down from generation to generation, not only in the mainland, but also in Japan and South Korea.
3. What are the different types of new gnawing old?
Study-oriented gnawing old: This mainly refers to those college students who are not satisfied with the status quo, or want a job that requires a high degree of education, and need to prepare for a series of exams when they are about to graduate.
For example, it is a very good decision to take the public examination, the postgraduate examination, the examination establishment, etc., it is easy to find a job with a high degree if you succeed in the postgraduate examination, and it is also a very good decision to have a stable job ashore for the public examination.
It is because of the countless number of people who choose these two tracks every year that the scores of the postgraduate entrance examination have risen again and again, and there are more and more applicants for the public examination, but the number of recruits is very small.
It's a good thing to love learning and want to struggle and struggle, but the same is true for the postgraduate entrance examination in World War II, and the same is true for the public examination editor.
Although he fails to make the list every year, he doesn't want to give up, and his family has been supporting himself, which is an invisible pressure for many families.
Entrepreneurial gnawing on the elderly: Some young people may not like to study, and they do not chase a fixed and stable job, and want to go out after graduation.
I hope to make a lot of money through my own efforts, and then buy a house and a car, and be filial to my parents, but I just graduated, I am penniless, and I have no principal investment at all.
At this time, parents have become a way for children to start a business and raise money, many people only think about making money, but they don't think about whether they will not be able to get back the principal if they fail.
If you make a profit, it's okay to say, once you lose money, you may have to post money, and your parents have to clean up the mess.
Raising children to gnaw at the old: Young people get married and have children after having a stable job, but after the child is born, the marriage partner also has to go out to work to earn money.
As far as the woman is concerned, if she doesn't earn money, the car loan and housing loan will be too stressful for the man alone, but the child is too young to be left at home, so parents are needed to take care of the child at this time.
The couple took their parents into their own homes to help take care of the children, and some parents may be happy to take care of them, but some are not in good health, or want to be at ease, it is also more inconvenient.
Moreover, taking manpower is one thing, the expenses in the family have become larger, and the couple does not have enough money, and the parents will definitely not say that they will sit and ignore it, and will subsidize some, which is both money and people.
Fourth, how to solve the new type of gnawing old
If you want to solve this problem, you should first figure out which of our behaviors in life are already gnawing at the old, and find solutions according to the problem.
For college students who have not yet graduated, if they really like to study and like the content of their professional courses, they can work hard and strive for a better school.
If you just want to escape from society, or you don't think about what to do at all, you don't want to go out to work, and you want to lie down, there is no need to take the exam again.
If you are admitted, you will still not be able to avoid the problem of finding a job after graduating from graduate school, and if you are not admitted, you will not talk about the delay of a year, and you will not earn a penny, and you will still spend your parents' money.
It's better to go out and break through, see what industry you are suitable for, enter the society as soon as possible, learn from experience, and work hard to make money.
If you want to start a business, you are very supportive, but please train in society for a few years first. If you like a certain industry, you can work in this industry for a few years, have enough experience, and have sufficient funds, you can start a business and give it a try.
Don't open your mouth and shut your mouth to ask your parents for money, although your parents don't say it, but it is very likely that what they have in their hands is the money for their future retirement.
If the bamboo basket is empty, what will they do in the future?
There is also raising children, raising children is the obligation of parents, parents and elders give themselves children is love, but if they don't bring it, it is also their duty.
You should be considerate of your parents and rush home in time to accompany your children after work, after all, children need the company of their parents in their childhood.
From the perspective of parents, many parents don't want their children to suffer the hardships they have endured, and feel that they will be better to them if they have the ability now.
Good is deserved, but not spoiled, there are many parents, when their children make mistakes, they think that their children are young and don't understand anything, and they come and go in a daze.
This is wrong, you should reason with your children more, criticize them in time for wrong things, and let them correct them.
When parents transmit love to their children, they must use the right methods to let them establish a correct outlook on life and values and thrive.
epilogue
Whether it is the traditional gnawing of the old or the new type of gnawing the old, it is not helpful for our life, we should learn to analyze and solve the problem by ourselves.
When the problem is a little difficult, we should not think about relying on our parents for the first time, but on ourselves, so that our life can shine!
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