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China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

Zhuo Yueyue, a post-80s Hubei girl,

was a health care worker,

In 2016, she resigned from the hospital,

came to Shenzhen, changed careers, and became a "sexual psychological counselor".

At the end of 2017, she opened an offline "sex group class",

It is the first batch in China.

In class, men and women are in a safe space,

Participate, experience, share,

Seriously and unpretentiously explore the topic of "sex".

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

The students at the scene of the "sex group class" are in different states

In the past 7 years, about 1,000 people have participated in the "sex group class".

The youngest is the post-00s,

The biggest is the post-60s,

There are people from all walks of life.

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

Two students in the class for touch therapy

At the end of January,

An offline class that came to Shenzhen to visit this sexual theme,

and chatted with Zhuo Yueyue.

Self-description: Zhu Yue Moon

Editor: Qin Chu

Editor-in-charge: Chen Ziwen

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

The first time I started a sex group class was at the end of 2017.

In both sexes of the Chinese, they are afraid of lust, women have lust and feel shy; the expression of male concern is an offense. Therefore, we use offline group classes to allow men and women to go to a safe space, take this opportunity to "desensitize", and talk about the topic of "sex" very seriously and honestly.

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

The participants of the "Sex Group Class" share their reasons for attending the course

At present, there are about 1,000 people who have participated in sex group classes, with a similar ratio of men and women, and the age is about 20 to 45 years old, the youngest is the post-00s, and the oldest is the post-60s.

Among them are engineers, teachers, beauty workers, students...... There are people in all walks of life, some of them are curious about "sex" and want to be able to explore "sex", and some of them want to solve problems after there is a stuck point in the relationship.

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

Cai Yixuan, 30 years old: I think "sex" is equal to eating and sleeping, it is our body's instinct, I used to have a lot of "sexual shame", a relationship for three years, I slept separately;KIKI, 22 years old: My parents are very conservative kind of people, they only suppress desires, I have always been curious about "sex", I think "sex" is a desire for intimacy and love

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

Han Hui, 46 years old: I think "sex" is a very natural thing, and men, women and children need education in this area; Lin Haisheng, 43 years old: I think "sex" is life, and many people talk about sexual perversion, and they think it is very dirty, vulgar and obscene

The course is mainly divided into three levels, beginner, intermediate and advanced. The primary level is mainly to let everyone know more about "sexual knowledge", carry out "sexual desensitization", and no longer think that "sex" is ashamed, or when talking about some words, they blush and feel embarrassed;

The intermediate level course is mainly practice, and after untying the concepts, you can naturally talk about "sexuality", while the advanced level is a higher-dimensional "sexual integration" course, and there will be some systematic "sexual exploration".

In the course, there will be a sharing of "erotic essays", and the fantasy in the mind can be seen concretely in the form of erotic essays.

Therapeutic massage is a way to awaken our emotions by touching them. When someone of the opposite sex touches him/her, it feels wonderful to be connected to someone, and it is more motivated to love someone.

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

The art of food sexuality, which selects things that can be touched in daily life, are colorful and can arouse people's desires, so that students can see that "sex" is actually a very natural thing that flows in life

In the process of sex group classes, there will also be some "accidents", and even students will break out. At that time, we had a touching session, and he felt that this behavior challenged his values, and he couldn't accept it for a while.

In fact, "sex" is a discipline, a way to express love. In recent years, more and more women have come to participate in offline sex group classes.

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

In the class, the students dance together and release their bodies

Like our mothers or women born in the 60s and 50s, it is more difficult for them to express themselves and take the initiative in reality. But the woman began to wake up, and she began to think about what my relationship with "sex" was.

The first stage is completely passive and completely male, the second stage is that I am already feeling uncomfortable, but I am not yet able to solve my discomfort, the third stage is that I am starting to find a solution to the problem, and the fourth stage is that I am solving my discomfort while I can lead my partner.

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s
China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

As a "sex coach", Zhuo Yueyue hugged the students in class

I started to get in touch with this industry in 2016, and it has been 7 or 8 years now.

More than ten years ago, I worked in the obstetrics and gynecology department of the hospital, and many of the women who came were unexpectedly pregnant, some of them were not over 18 years old, and she didn't know why she was pregnant. At that time, a popular advertising slogan was "two-minute painless abortion", so many young girls who came for surgery were giggling and thinking it was a very relaxing thing.

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

Zhuo Yueyue when she worked in the hospital

There is no "sex education" in school, no one tells them how to protect themselves, how to use contraception, and what "sex" means to them.

Even though I studied medicine, my teachers never talked to us about sexuality, and even when it came to sexuality in the medical system, I still felt a strong sense of shame.

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

As a woman, you will encounter some relationships of the opposite sex in the workplace that need to be dealt with. At that time, I was working for a leader in the hospital, and I made a "sexual" invitation, and I didn't know how to refuse. Calling my boyfriend at the time, he was in a state of no waves, which made me desperate.

From this time, I began to understand some issues related to sexual harassment and sexual assault. After spending several months studying "sexual health instructors", I found that "sex" is not just "sex", and women can have a voice.

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

Offline "psychosexual counseling" in the studio

I quit my job and came to Shenzhen to learn more about gender. At the same time, I began to do offline "sexual psychological counseling", mainly to assist the other party to sort out themselves, including sexual history, culture, and values.

Based on his/her interaction with the partner, assess and analyze their current predicament and provide solutions. I also tried live broadcast to give everyone popular science "sexual knowledge".

As I deepened my understanding, I learned that when a woman's body is well loved, the body and mind are happy, and this knowledge is not difficult, but many of us don't know it, so I started to start offline classes.

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s
China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

Zhuo Yueyue's images are intended to re-look at her body

Nowadays, people will have a dilemma in "sex", and I don't seem to be doing anything right.

For example, men are more likely to consult about "sexual ability", and he will have a misunderstanding, he feels that "sexual ability" and "sexual attractiveness" are equal, so he hopes to constantly improve in this part. But in fact, in the relationship between the sexes, one of the more important abilities is the ability to understand the partner.

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s
China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

They pay more attention to their own time, they don't feel good about their partner, and there is no bridge of communication, women are more passive in it, and after a long time, the relationship will go to crisis.

Women who come to the consultation often have a relationship dilemma, always thinking that if I am not attractive or sexy enough, they never enjoy it. This may have to do with their education and social perceptions.

Nowadays, more and more women come to "sexual counseling", and they are more and more concerned about their own needs. When she felt uncomfortable in the relationship, she began to have the courage to ask for help.

When I first started changing careers, I was actually quite thinking about what other people thought of me, and I thought it was actually quite a shameful thing to talk about "sex", which was quite dirty.

When I first started counseling, I had a male friend, and in the process of chatting, his frivolity came out, and he asked me, "Can you do this with me?" I felt very wronged, and I cried for several hours under the quilt. When my boyfriend in college learns what I'm doing, he'll think I'm belittling myself.

China's first batch of offline "sex group classes": from the post-60s to the post-00s

The feelings of the students who have completed the sex group class. Cai Yixuan: I now feel that it is one thing to talk about "sex" and discuss where to eat with my friends; KIKI: I have seen some patterns in my relationship and become more aware of my needs; Lin Haisheng: It will really touch the feelings of husband and wife and make them more integrated; Han Hui: I have re-established my values about sex and helped me to untie myself

Although my parents are from rural areas, they are relatively open-minded, especially my dad, who is very proud of me and hopes that I can help more people.

Now, as the initiator of the "Sex Group Class", I am very happy to see that the people who come here have changed so much.

No matter what age or status, we all have the right to please ourselves. Lust is the vitality that runs through a person's life, and it is a kind of love for oneself.

Some of the images are provided by Zhuo Yueyue

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