The child often says these 3 sentences, indicating that he has low self-esteem, and parents should pay more attention
Text/Ting's mother
Xiaoqiang is a ten-year-old child who is often criticized by teachers and parents for his mediocre performance in his studies. Gradually, Xiaoqiang began to feel that he couldn't do anything, and whenever someone mentioned studying or competing, he always said "I can't do it".
In the process of growing up, children will inevitably encounter various challenges and difficulties, and some children may feel inferior because of this.
Low self-esteem is like a haze, once it hangs over the heart, it may affect the child's mental health and future development.
As parents, we need to be careful to detect the signs of low self-esteem in time.
We need to pay more attention to our children's words and deeds, especially children who often say the following three sentences, may have low self-esteem.
1. "I can't do it." ”
Children often say "I can't do it", which may be a sign of a lack of self-confidence in the face of challenges, or doubts about their own abilities. This manifestation may be related to low self-esteem.
When Xiao Ming was learning to ride a bike, he gave up as soon as he encountered difficulties, always saying "I can't do it", which meant that he lacked confidence in his abilities.
Coping Strategies for Parents:
Encourage your child to try and don't criticize even if they fail. By setting small goals, children can experience the joy of success and gradually build up self-confidence.
At the same time, we should praise our children's efforts rather than just the results, and help them develop a positive self-image.
2. "Everyone else is better than me." ”
When a child often compares himself to others and always feels that he is inferior to others, it can be another manifestation of low self-esteem.
Such words indicate that the child doubts his own worth and always feels that he is not good enough.
Xiao Hua did not win a prize in the drawing competition, and after that he always said "everyone else is better than me", which shows his lack of confidence in his painting ability.
Coping Strategies for Parents:
Teach children that everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses and that one should not simply compare oneself to others.
We can help children discover their strengths and encourage them to develop in these areas, while also teaching children to appreciate the strengths of others and not be jealous or inferior.
3. "I don't dare. ”
Children who are afraid to try new things or face challenges, and who always say "I don't dare", may be because they are afraid of failure and are afraid of being ridiculed.
This suggests that children's low self-esteem has affected their adventurous spirit and desire to explore.
The teacher recommended Xiaoli to participate in the school's speech competition, but Xiaoli kept saying "I don't dare" because she was afraid of failure, thus giving up the opportunity to compete.
Coping Strategies for Parents:
We should encourage children to face their fears and teach them how to turn them into motivation. You can work with your child to make a plan to help them overcome their fears step by step.
At the same time, we should show support and trust in the child, let the child know that it doesn't matter even if it fails, what matters is the process of trying.
Summary:
Children's low self-esteem is not static, and parents' attitudes and behaviors have a direct impact on children's self-confidence.
It is an important responsibility of every parent to detect signs of low self-esteem in time by observing their children's words and deeds, and to help their children build self-confidence through positive guidance and support.
Remember, every child is unique and they need more than just love, but understanding and support.
Let's work together to create an environment where children can grow up with confidence.
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