Seeing this news, the post-80s generation will be silent for most of the time!
Recently, a 37-year-old woman in Henan sent a video to report the good news that her son was getting married, and she was already happy to be a mother-in-law!
In the video, she is wearing a red coat, a red salute flower pinned to her chest, and a red hair ring on her head, looking very young!
If she doesn't say that she is a mother-in-law, others will still think she is a bride!
Sure enough, when netizens questioned it, she further explained: She is a son born at the age of 19, and her son is now married at the age of 18!
She also left a message saying that next year is the Year of the Dragon, and hopes that her daughter-in-law can add a grandson to her!
But her message is about two daughters-in-law... Two grandchildren... After carefully looking through the comment area, I found that she has two sons. This time it was the eldest son who got married... Listening to this tone, the youngest son also already has a girlfriend, and he is not far from getting married...
At present, the legal age of marriage in mainland China is 22 for men and 20 for women. The woman said that her new daughter-in-law has reached the age where she can apply for a marriage certificate, but her son is not enough...
I would like to say, it's not enough, it's still far away!
Some netizens sincerely asked, isn't this illegal? 18 years old! I have just reached adulthood, what is there to promote!
The answer that everyone agrees with is: illegal, but there is no corresponding punishment!
However, this mother-in-law was obviously unhappy about the skeptical voices! She said that she had no academic qualifications and had not gone to high school, but she could afford to marry a daughter-in-law! She did not feel that she was inferior to others! Her words revealed joy and pride everywhere.
It can be seen from her words that she doesn't mind what netizens said about three generations of people who can't make up a college diploma!
I am also from rural Henan, and I am no stranger to this kind of early marriage.
"Life is passed, get married early and become a family early!" is their traditional thinking.
But netizens are right.
They contributed to the fertility rate, and they pulled up the divorce rate.
What can an 18-year-old understand?
At this age, most of them are still fighting for the college entrance examination, and even if they don't go to college, they are just adults. The treatment of love and family still exists in unrealistic imagination, and it is difficult to implement it in concrete life.
Especially the "mother" in the video, at first glance, belongs to the mother with a big bag, and it is conceivable that her child will only be more distant from maturity.
There are always some parents who understand that there will be deviations, thinking that they can make money to buy a car for their children, buy a house, and marry a daughter-in-law are successful parents. In fact, this is a serious misunderstanding.
Let the child experience and feel, this is all freedom and life experience for him. Parents have the confidence to make money in order to be a strong backing for their children, not a tool to fuel the troubles.
An 18-year-old child, in love, living together, you give him a wedding. I had a baby at the age of 19 and I was not able to do it at the age of 20, all without going through any legal procedures. Who is responsible for the child and who protects the woman's rights?
The reason why I say this is also because I grew up in the countryside and have seen too many examples of this!
If it's bad, I mean if... In the end, it's the new kid...
What did he do wrong, and he had to bear the mistakes made by his parents who were ignorant?
If a child can't grow up surrounded by love, that's the most pitiful!
After all, children in their teens have too many variables. Getting married and having children should still be thought through!
Now in fact, many people start to fall in love from their teens, talk for many years, and only get married when their thoughts and conditions are mature.
What do you think?