My mother taught me to be a sensible child since I was a child, and before I got married, I also asked me to accept my temperament at my in-law's house and be an obedient daughter-in-law, she never taught me how to not let myself be wronged, if I wasn't really forced to be anxious, no one would want to be a shrew.
My husband and I met on a blind date, because the living conditions of the two families are similar, and I feel that when we reach the age of marriage, the two of us will get married after talking together for a few months.
At that time, the wedding house was bought by my husband's family, and my mother's house paid for the decoration, and I was pregnant a few months after the marriage, and the child was not born at that time, and we did not live with our in-laws, so we lived a peaceful life.
After the child was born, my mother-in-law lived in our house in the name of taking the child, and my father-in-law was still working, because my mother-in-law had to serve three meals a day, so she also lived in our house.
Before my in-laws came, I shared housework with my husband, and my mother-in-law was distressed when she saw her husband doing housework, so she didn't let her husband interfere in housework anymore, and only let her husband go to work well, not to mention my father-in-law, who had already developed the habit of opening his mouth for dinner.
On the other hand, my mother-in-law is becoming more and more strict with me, teaching me how to cook the meals that my husband and father-in-law like, and the housework must be completed according to her requirements. Sometimes I feel that my mother-in-law asks too much, so I ask my husband for help, but my husband says that my mother-in-law is old, so let me follow the old man a little, and also said that my mother-in-law is more experienced, so let me learn it.
At night, the child cried, and as soon as the husband picked up the child and coaxed it, the mother-in-law rushed in and snatched the child from her husband's hand. I told my mother-in-law that we could take care of the child and let her go back to rest, but my mother-in-law said how could I let my husband take care of the child, and said that the child was so noisy, how would he go to work tomorrow, and said that she also asked my husband to sleep in the small room, and she wanted to sleep with me to help me take care of the child. My husband was very obedient, took the quilt and ran to the small room to sleep.
I didn't want to contradict my mother-in-law, but I couldn't sleep in the same bed with her at night, and I was so tired from taking care of the children, I was really on the verge of collapse.
My mother-in-law came to live with us, saying that she was helping me take care of the children, but during the day she was not playing mahjong with the old lady downstairs and hid in the room to play with her mobile phone, and rushed back to eat every time she arrived.
At seven o'clock that night, my father-in-law came back from work and saw that the cold pot and cold stove at home were a little unsightly, and at this time, my mother-in-law also came back after playing mahjong. My father-in-law asked: Why didn't I even cook, and the family didn't eat?
The mother-in-law replied: I'm not at home again, I called Xiaolu to cook in the afternoon, who knows why she didn't do it. Then the mother-in-law raised her voice and shouted: Xiaolu, didn't I tell you to cook, are you going to ask the family to drink the northwest wind?
I heard their words in the room, so I walked out of the room and explained: The baby is a little uncomfortable in the afternoon, and I can't take off my hand when I cry all the time, just now you will come back, you help me hold Xiaobao, I will cook some noodles for everyone to eat.
At this time, my father-in-law's face was ugly, and he directly shook off: Don't eat it. Then he went into the room. I handed the child to my mother-in-law, who put the child on the sofa in the living room, turned on the TV by herself, and munched on the melon seeds on the plate while watching the TV.
The baby kept crying while I was cooking the noodles, and I took advantage of the time to walk over to hold the baby, and my mother-in-law saw me and said to me: It's okay, you go cook, I'll come to see him. But I didn't go into the kitchen for a long time, and I heard the baby crying again, so I went back and forth several times, and finally the noodles were ready, and my mother-in-law also swallowed a bunch of melon seed shells.
As soon as the noodles were ready, my husband came back from work, and when he saw me, he asked: Why did you cook so late? This night, I was a little resentful, so I yelled at my husband: When I came back, I asked if I cooked, am I your nanny, I cook for you every day.
My mother-in-law heard me scolding my husband and refused: What are you talking about, what's wrong with cooking with a child at home, why do you call a nanny. I ignored my mother-in-law and went directly to ask my father-in-law to come out for dinner.
When my father-in-law came out and saw it, he said, "Why don't you eat some noodles?" At this time, I was already very angry, and the resentment of the past few days broke out, and I lifted the table and shouted: Don't eat it, it's still too bad to do it for you, and don't live a long time.
Saying that, I went to the kitchen again and took a knife out and chopped up everything in the house, my parents-in-law had never seen me like this, and I was stunned for a while, and I didn't dare to speak in place.
When my husband saw me like this, he asked me to talk to my in-laws well, saying that I was unfilial like this, and I pointed at his nose and scolded him: What qualifications do you have to say me, I didn't marry to be a nanny for your family, you are a hands-off shopkeeper every day after work, the family bullies me like this, you still protect your parents like this, and live directly with your parents. My husband has never seen me like this, and he was stunned by my scolding.
After my mother-in-law reacted, she scolded me for being a madman, and I scolded her: A madman is a madman, and it's strange to marry a madman who doesn't change in your family, I'm like this, if I want a divorce, I'll go to get a divorce certificate tomorrow, anyway, everyone doesn't want to live, it's better to leave early.
At that time, I was ready for divorce, I thought that such a family, even if they left, it would be a big deal to take care of their children, and they didn't have to be angry, who knew that the next day they were like no one, and they didn't mention the divorce.
Since that day on, I have become a shrew, and I don't care about the housework, I just take care of the children. When my mother-in-law said that I was asked to do something, I directly refused what I didn't want to do, and when my mother-in-law counted me down, I went back directly, often until she had nothing to say. She said that she came to bring me the child, but after she came, not only did she not help, but also found trouble for me everywhere, why should I endure it anymore, I just hold it, and when I am not happy, everyone should not think about getting along with their family.
Speaking of which, who doesn't want to be a gentle and virtuous woman, but this must be built on a family of mutual respect, when the people around you are thinking about how to bully you, only by being tough can you have a foothold, anyway, you can expect the worst to be like that, and you don't have to care too much about anything else.
The more people endure, the more they will make others gain an inch, I find that when I no longer tolerate it, everything becomes easier, I don't have to do things at home, let alone look at anyone's face, live as a shrew, just a shrew, as long as I live comfortably.