Rise up and see the barbarians resurrected!
In 2023, there are still people who take vulgarity as funny and are keen on marriage.
On September 20, two bridesmaids in Qingdao, Shandong Province had just got out of the car and were instantly sprayed by a group of men carrying fire extinguishers.
The girl was dragged to the ground crying and screaming, but the troublemaker laughed and shouted: "Come, come!" ”
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The girls in the video wore torn raincoats, drenched, foamy and embarrassed.
It is said that in the end, the onlookers could not stand it, and reached out to help the bridesmaids to report the police.
The perpetrator's response was easy:
"It's a joke, I said it before, it's okay to wash it off."
The powder of the dry powder fire extinguisher will cause itchy skin due to certain corrosiveness. If sprayed directly into the eye, it may cause conjunctival and corneal burns on the surface of the eye, and even blindness.
Inhalation of the ejected dust can cause lung damage, and in severe cases, it may cause death by suffocation.
Can you use "playing" to flutter lightly?
Crimes committed under the guise of marital trouble should be dealt with as intentional injuries to the police.
In the variety show "Our Forensic Season at the Beginning of the Workplace", forensic doctor Liu Liang shared a set of data.
The vulgar forms of marriage are ranked from highest to lowest in order of frequency, which are:
Being tied, humiliated, ugly, paraded through the streets, touched, forced to be naked, playing vulgar games.
A lot of related social hot news.
At the beginning of this month, the scene of a wedding in Kaifeng, Henan, made people hallucinate the ancient street to show the public.
The groom was shirtless and chained to a tree, covered in paint and chili oil. A large bucket of stinky tofu mixed with soy sauce, fish roe and fish bubbles is poured from the head down. Others put sticky rat stickers on the groom, holding watermelons and smashing them on the head.
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At the beginning of this year, a couple in Lanling County, Linyi, Shandong Province, held a wedding in the village.
A number of wedding troublemakers rushed up to stack the arhats and ride the bride underneath. The bride was foaming at the top, violently pulled in the resistance, held left and right, and forcibly pressed her head to worship.
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Netizen spicy comment: What primitive tribe? When the wild people saw it, they had to take a detour.
Many people should still have an impression of the "Baobeliuyan incident".
In 2016, Bao Bell held a make-up wedding in Bali, and the best man group temporarily started to "make a bridesmaid".
Du Haitao, Han Geng, Wang Zulan and others raised Liu Yan's hands and feet, ignoring her struggle for help, and prepared to throw her into the pool.
Wearing a light-colored low-cut dress, adults know what it will be like to get wet.
Fortunately, Jia Ling came forward to stop it, pushed away the best man group, and stopped him in the willow rock and the pool, which became a solid "life-saving straw".
The direction of public opinion back then was different from today, and after the incident broke, it was Liu Yan who was scolded the worst.
Netizens attacked her for loving hype and no lower limit, and some friends in the circle distanced themselves from her, and her career development was hindered because of this.
Wang Sicong even directly named her, saying that she "has no brains and offends a group of people."
The most absurd thing is that this matter ended with the victim Liu Yan apologizing.
In the past few years, Liu Yan was still trapped in the "self-certification trap" and had to gamble and swear poison:
"If I hype up someone else's wedding, I can't die well."
The recent hit variety show "Goodbye Lover" also has discussions about "marriage trouble".
Program guests Wang Sleepy and Zhang Shuo are at the same table in high school and university, and have been married for three years since graduation.
I had a wedding and lived a married life, but I never got a marriage license.
Because the woman has a thorn in her heart: the man's best man "marries" the bridesmaids at the wedding.
The bridesmaids had raised concerns before the wedding, and Wang had promised that there would be no marriage trouble.
As a result, the best man group sexually harassed the bridesmaids and made the wedding very unpleasant.
Wang sleeps and asks the party to apologize, but Zhang Shuo, who is hindered by his feelings, refuses, choosing to apologize to the girls on behalf of his brothers.
A person's position in a marriage incident can reflect his three views to a certain extent.
The contradiction between the husband and wife is:
One is to face the problem head-on and bravely cut the table.
One is to avoid contradictions and maintain superficial peace.
Wang Shuo worked his mouth, and every time he quarreled over this matter, he unilaterally violently output, and Zhang Shuo was speechless.
Some netizens said that her sharp speech style is very similar to Zhang Wanting in the second season, curious about who is stronger if the two fight.
As a result, Zhang Wanting took the initiative to jump out and claim the title of "strong man":
"If it had been replaced by me, his brother would have been kicked into waste by me, and the wedding would have been held at the police station."
Li Ai also commented on this incident on Weibo:
Dare to make a bridesmaid, in fact, you don't treat you as a friend.
They don't know what's wrong with flirting with bridesmaids? Dare to flirt with bridesmaids at the boss's wedding?
Hearing the marriage trouble, the reaction that normal people should have should be like:
Huang Zhizhong: "Slap him!" ”
And Zhang Shuo and Wang Sleeping's reactions to this matter were actually a little abnormal.
Zhang Shuo did not come forward to accuse those friends at the moment of the incident, maybe the three views were not correct, or he was cowardly and not good at expression.
Wang Sleepy is also very contradictory, while emphasizing that this matter has broken his bottom line, and at the same time he has been good with Zhang Shuo for so many years.
If the principles and bottom line are elastic, the strong "sense of justice" must also seem awkward.
So in Tachibana's opinion, the difference between this couple, there is, but not much.
The victimized bridesmaids were not protected and apologized, and now that the show is broadcast, they are under moral pressure to "sabotage people's weddings".
Marriage troubles have a long history, dating back to the Qin and Han dynasties, and the "Han Dynasty Wedding and Funeral Customs Examination" records:
"And those who are guests often drink and laugh, and speak and act unscrupulously. As in recent times, there were already new houses. ”
In ancient times, the marriage system relied on the orders of the parents and the words of the matchmaker, and the man and woman may not have met before the candlelight night in the cave room.
In order to break the awkward situation, some games will be used to enhance interaction and make the atmosphere a little more festive and lively.
Modern marriage has long been out of the situation of blind marriage and dumb marriage, but the "marriage trouble" has continued to this day, from custom to evil custom.
Zhao Liying's "Happiness to Ten Thousand Homes" also has a marriage plot.
On the day He Xingfu became a relative, his sister He Luck came to see off his relatives, and the happy event turned into a disaster.
Wan Chuanjia pulled a group of people to block the door and press people, picked He Lucky's clothes and touched her thighs.
In order to protect his sister, He Xingfu beat the Wan Chuanjia, and also wanted to ask for an explanation for his sister.
As a result, her mother-in-law persuaded her to calm things down, and people made fun to give face. ↓
The father-in-law said that she made a fuss and blamed her for offending the secretary's son. ↓
The victim's boyfriend's first reaction is not to sympathize and care for his girlfriend, but to question:
Why don't you mess with others? ↓
The police who handle affairs do not take marriage troubles seriously, "people are willing to trouble you to show that you have a good relationship." ↓
The reaction of the people around them to this incident was both real and suffocating.
It also revealed the reasons why the marriage trouble is embarrassing and uncomfortable, and has been complained about by the public, but it cannot be cured:
There are vast grey areas in our social networks, where the human touch takes precedence over legal awareness.
When interpersonal relationships are intertwined, few people are willing to "tear their faces", and the most common thing is "forget it".
This creates an inertia of thinking:
In the face of the troublemaker's lustfulness, violence and other inferiority, the first reaction is moral judgment, not legal punishment.
Those who want to take up legal weapons to defend their rights and interests have become the outliers who "go online".
Not wanting to be accused of "having nothing to do", victims can only choose to swallow their anger and calm down.
The movie "Wedding Banquet" also portrays a lively wedding banquet scene, but the victims of the focus are the bride and groom.
The male protagonist Gao Weitong and the female protagonist Gu Weiwei held a Chinese wedding in Western countries, and the Manhattan restaurant was staggered.
Alcohol corrodes the shell of "restrained", and the people who are in it gain a short "freedom to mess around".
Break away from the shackles of morality, break the shackles of traditional culture, and secretly release the primitive desires that have been imprisoned in your heart for a long time.
Guests encourage the couple to participate in a series of games with erotic undertones:
Coax the bride and groom to kiss in public↓
Let two people fight for the same food ↓
The male guest lifts the bottom of the bride's skirt↓
Take turns kissing and let the bride guess the groom ↓
This "out of line" wedding carnival culminated when the couple were sent into the cave room.
They spread cherries on the bride's chest and let the groom blindfold them one by one.
The bride and groom were asked to strip naked under the covers in front of everyone and throw them out one by one.
Ridiculous?
Of course.
But there are still people who enjoy this backward and rotten dregs.
A wedding is one of the most solemn occasions of life, and guests are tacitly granted a communal right in the occasion.
Everyone is complicit, and the act of satisfying voyeurism and releasing sexual desires in the name of "blessing" can be rationalized.
The impact of marriage troubles is manifold.
First, in some areas where marriage troubles are serious, government departments are promoting marriage customs reform.
Second: Some young people now only receive licenses and do not hold wedding banquets, or choose to travel for marriage.
Third: bridesmaids have become a fee-paying profession, and the market demand has soared.
In wedding packages offered by wedding companies, professional bridesmaids have become a regular option.
They have to take on tasks such as makeup artists, drinking, and blocking rude guests for the bride.
Complete what sociologist Allie Hochschild calls "emotional work":
Snickering, stirring up a joyful atmosphere, participating in traditional parodies that many people consider vulgar.
Depending on the "difficulty" of the services rendered, remuneration ranges from $200 to $800.
The buyer escaped being married, the seller made money, and the bridesmaids seemed to be professional. But in Tachibana's view, this incident is not only not something to be thankful for, but should also cause vigilance and reflection.
On the one hand, it reinforces the idea that "women's bodies are for sale" and may lead to more serious objectification of women.
On the other hand, outsourcing harm to hired bridesmaids is essentially a mutual harm between women and does not solve the underlying problem.
The costs and consequences of grafting a marriage by spending money may even be another form of cover-up and connivance.
For those backward and rotten, fishy and vulgar, dirty and evil thoughts, what we need to do is to cut the grass and remove the roots, not to transfer the flowers and trees.
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