We have seen many patriarchal parents, but rarely "strong women and weak men" families.
I'm embarrassed to say that my family is obviously "yin and yang", big and small things are my mother's final say, I and my father, at most, are my mother's soldiers.
Even if I talk about a girlfriend, it can't change my status, my mother said to the east, I definitely don't dare to go west.
Just for my "obedience," the friends gave me a good name: Ma Baoer.
So what? Who is not a baby in the palm of a mother's hand?
01
My name is Gu Yanqing, and I was born in 1995 in a small town in Jinan, Shandong.
The family is a small business, the income is not bad, the only thing that is different from other people's homes is "yin and yang".
My dad is introverted, saying that it sounds gentle at best, and "raking ears" when it is not good.
Therefore, my mother became the head of the family, and she had the final say in everything big and small.
In such a family environment, it is no surprise that I became the second man after my father to be controlled by my mother.
In order to prove my "independence", I also used to be a rebellious Matt killer boy.
No one dares not listen to the teacher, I dare; No one dares to fall in love early, I dare; When others listened carefully to the lecture, I secretly read novels; Others wrote their homework carefully, and I sneaked to the toilet to smoke.
I still had my signature non-mainstream hairstyle, and I felt handsome at that time.
It's cool to do things that no one else dares to do.
02
My rebellion is actually a showmanship, and my heart is old and empty.
Smoking just ignites the cigarette, and it is always held in the hand, and one cigarette cannot be smoked twice. The so-called early love, that is, writing love letters to girls, does not communicate at all in private and does not dare.
After doing so many rebellious things, there are always times when the teacher finds out.
I also did it for the sake of attention, so why would I care about being talked to by the teacher? Until that day, my mother was called to school by the teacher.
I knew that my rebellious career was about to face the biggest obstacle.
That night, under the command of my mother, my father made me "belt fried meat", until my mother saw that I couldn't bear it, and then perfunctorily stopped my father.
Then it was my mother's turn to impose her tactics: economic sanctions.
She stopped my pocket money. During the month of being sanctioned, I didn't even have money to buy spicy strips.
I think that every time I went between classes, I was the leading brother who walked into the commissary, and now, no one even calls me to go to the bathroom.
In the end, I failed to persevere under the temptation of various snacks and toys and gave in.
03
I told my mother that I wanted to change my life and become a new person.
That's when my mom made her real killer move: a war of wheels.
She said: I'm not letting you smoke and fall in love, it's just that the time hasn't come yet. You see, I just stopped your pocket money and you have nowhere to go.
If you really want to have a girlfriend, at least you have to be able to support your consumption, right?
Can't say that if you buy an ice cream for her, you have to come to me to get money, right?
I'm okay if you smoke, and your dad smokes too.
But your dad has the money to buy it himself, and you don't, that's when you are not yet ready to smoke.
My mom always had her point, but I knew it was right to listen to her, because the economy was in her hands.
Slowly, even if I had an income, I would habitually do what she told. I listened to my mother for everything, and it spread in my circle of friends.
I don't know when they all called me "Ma Baoer".
04
When I grow up and have income, I will naturally have my own circle of friends, which is what I met Xiao Ai.
Xiao Ai was not originally a person in our circle. That day at our friends party, Lao Zhang brought a new friend over, saying that it was his classmate, and that person was Xiao Ai.
Xiao Ai looks Sven, wears glasses, and speaks softly.
I fell in love with her at a glance, and I asked Lao Zhang to introduce her during the meal, and then I kept looking for topics to set up.
At the end of the dinner, I will go to her WeChat. After three months, under my gentle and determined offensive, she agreed to be my girlfriend.
It is said that there is no humanity in the opposite sex, and it is really true.
Since I started chasing her, I basically stopped hanging out with my friends, and I just wanted to chase her down. Now there are finally results.
I'm going to treat you to a big meal and announce our relationship by the way.
05
The next day, I called a few good friends for dinner, including the indirect matchmaker Lao Zhang.
During the meal, we talked very well, and when I announced our relationship, they coaxed us to have a drink.
Unexpectedly, Lao Zhang's words made the scene suddenly pause.
Lao Zhang said: Xiao Ai, Qingqing is a mom boy, if you want to be with him, you must first pass through the eyes of his mother.
Although I have the title of Ma Bao'er in the circle, Xiao Ai has never known about this, and when she heard this, she obviously froze, and then she saved the scene with a word.
Xiao Ai said: When I was with him, my mother didn't say anything.
Everyone then pulled the topic away from other things, and I didn't think there was any problem at the time, in fact, Xiao Ai already had mustard in her heart at that time.
Now there are so many strange behaviors of mom and boy on the Internet, who can't weigh it in their hearts.
06
It didn't take long for the problem to come.
That day, I was shopping with Xiao Ai and saw a more expensive thing, she said she wanted to buy it, I said you wait, I will discuss it with my mother.
Unexpectedly, she directly said a word: Sure enough, mom and boy, you have to ask your mother about everything.
I said that it was not like that, so much money, I must discuss it with my mother, and I didn't mean that I had to agree to buy it.
Xiao Ai said: Forget it, I know it, your friends have said, you have to listen to your mother in everything, if you really get married in the future, I have a conflict with your mother, you will definitely turn to your mother.
Forget it, let's break up, I don't want to fall in love with Ma Baoman.
I was blinded by this sudden conflict, and when I reacted, she was gone.
When I got home, my mother saw that I was obviously in a different state and asked me what had happened, and I told her one by one.
Then she asked for Xiao Ai's contact information.
07
Half a month has passed, and I have not been able to contact Xiao Ai.
That day, my mother suddenly asked me to have dinner with her and said that she wanted to introduce a friend to me.
I didn't want to go, why should I know your friends? But after being glared at by her, I still gave in, and when I arrived at the hotel, I found that my mother's so-called friend was actually Xiao Ai.
Looking at my mother's stunned expression, I asked my soul, what is going on?
Xiao Ai is my friend! Moreover, not answering the phone and not informative, is also taught by me. My mother's triumphant expression seemed to show off some achievements: I don't think you deserve people.
Finally, don't forget to give me a supplementary shot.
That meal was the most embarrassing meal I've ever had.
I sat there like two fools, listening to them talk about all kinds of women's topics, and the point was that my mother still looked at me from time to time, as if saying, you are a fool.
After eating, I went back to each house, I didn't go back with my mother, but walked aimlessly, and suddenly the mobile phone clicked, and there was a message prompt, it was Xiao Ai.
I have something to tell you, do you have time, let's come out and sit down.
Location? I didn't dare to ask anything more.
08
After the location was sent, I went directly to the café.
Xiao Ai, who was sitting opposite, looked calm, I couldn't guess what was going on between her and my mother, so I looked at her like that, waiting for her to speak.
Xiao Ai finally spoke.
After losing my temper with you that time, I was indeed ready to break up with you, and I saw too many things about mommy and baby men on the Internet, and I felt that I couldn't accept it.
Unexpectedly, your mother called me the next day.
I thought it was like the plot in the TV series, she would humiliate and abuse me in all kinds of ways, or say that I was not worthy of your words, and I was mentally prepared.
In fact, your mother just calmly drank coffee with me and said she wanted to be friends with me.
Hearing this, I didn't even know what reaction to give, just listened blankly.
Xiao Ai took a sip of coffee and continued: Later, she would ask me out for tea and shopping from time to time, and even take me to SPA, but she didn't mention your business.
When you call, tell me not to answer it, and don't tell me why I can't answer it.
Slowly, I no longer cared about her identity, just treated her as an ordinary friend. In the past half a month, I have been getting along with her, and I think she is not a person who will use force to control others.
I thought to myself that you didn't touch it.
She went on to say, "So I thought, if you forgive me, we can go on, will you?"
Hearing this, I directly said yes, without a trace of hesitation.
09
In the next six months, we got along well and planned to get married.
In fact, the reason why Xiao Ai agreed to get married so quickly was because once we had a conflict, and my mother stood opposite me for the first time and dealt with me with Xiao Ai.
Xiao Ai was directly taken down by my mother's behavior.
My mother had already prepared a wedding room for me, and after we got married, we moved out of the house.
With Xiao Ai's east wind, I slowly got out of my mother's control, and just when I was finally relieved, I suddenly found that I don't know when Xiao Ai had the final say at home.
It may be that under my mother's education, Xiao Ai began to take over my control.
Moreover, as long as I have a conflict with Xiao Ai, my mother always sides with Xiao Ai to deal with me.
She herself has a conflict with Xiao Ai, she will also have a way to resolve it, the two of them quarrel and chat, and then go out for a big meal, and solve it by themselves.
Didn't notify me at all.
10
In this day and age, mommy boy is not a good word.
But who is not the baby in the palm of a mother's hand? My mom gave me the best material, life, and education she could give. Didn't I take it for granted that I listened to her?
Why, she is not as annoying as those mothers said online?
I think it's because she knows her son's strengths and weaknesses, and she doesn't think that her son is all right, she is all right.
She is rational and sensible, thinks about others, and grasps distances and boundaries.
Now, I have been married for three years and have a lovely daughter, and under my mother's guidance, Xiao Ai has taken over my mother's power stick.
I had to get her approval for everything before I could do it.
From "Ma Baoer" to "Wife Strict Management" to "Spoiled Girl Madness", I can't get rid of these three women in my life, but I still enjoy this kind of "discipline", it is really hopeless.
Do you say this is a happy annoyance?
Author: Green Ants