In today's society, most people have a consensus: children who are too obedient do not show up. Children are too obedient, can only do things according to the requirements of parents and teachers, not only lack of autonomy, but also easy to develop rigid thinking, which is not conducive to the growth of children. But on the other hand, disobedient, even often mischievous, children must have a chance? This has to be seen on both sides.
Understand pranks, children may be smarter
I have a friend who is a very good mother and a strong woman, excellent in every way. Because of this, she is extremely strict with her daughter, and has strict time management for when she goes to bed, wakes up, does homework, and plays.
At that time, relatives and friends advised her: she was still a child, why was the requirements so strict? But she said, "I'm doing this all for her good!" ”
If that's all, it's fine; The problem is that she is very strong and cannot be questioned by anyone about what she believes, so she feels that it is a very bad thing for children to fight with her.
Her child was originally a very cheerful, talkative and laughing girl, but after my friend's countless "criticism and education", she no longer dared to talk back, and since then she has become silent and does not like to communicate with others. The child was admitted to a good university, but was dropped out for some reason. In front of outsiders, she is like a "robot", appearing cold and sluggish, just like when she was a child.
Is it really good for the child to change the habits that some parents hate very much, transform it into an "obedient good child", and suppress his nature? Hardly. Sometimes, a child who likes to play pranks may be smarter, and over-pressing him is counterproductive!
The child who returns the mouth looks hateful, but is actually very smart
Many parents may not agree, because we, as parents, hate children talking back to themselves, not because we can't accept that our children talk back, but because we can't accept that we are being refuted.
People don't like to be refuted. But when we are in the adult group, this disgust is restrained, so we can get along with each other; But if you are facing children, especially your own children, not only is there no need for restraint, but there is also the need to "maintain majesty", in the eyes of many parents, a little emotional is very reasonable. Especially when the child is still reasonable.
In other words, it is not the child who talks back that is annoying, but the content of the talk that makes some parents break their defenses.
But on the other hand, daring to talk back to the parent shows that the child may be very smart.
Children who hate are hateful, but can talk back, most of them have several advantages: first of all, they are bold enough to dare to express their opinions in front of adults, and this child can; The second is brain work, think about problems quickly, and grasp the key to problems; The third is that the language ability is not weak, and it is not a simple thing to be able to refute adults.
With these advantages, how can you be a stupid child?
That's why the kids who talk back to him are smart. Parents should not deliberately change their children for their own likes and dislikes.
The "master of sabotage" can be smart
Some children are very bears, mainly in terms of being able to dismantle things, very hands-on ability, as long as they cross the border, don't want to have a complete thing at home.
Just like their toys, some are missing a hand, some are missing a foot, and even worse, they are different. There is such a little guy in the family, no matter what toys, it is impossible to play for long. This is also the most depressed place for parents, other people's children, a toy can be used for several years, and their own naughty ghosts, only three days to break.
If there is such a "bear child" in the family, parents do not have to worry too much, because this is a very smart child.
Dismantling is not only a manual operation, but also a process of exercising finger dexterity. It is also a kind of brain development and exercise. As Sukhomlinsky said, "The wisdom of children lies in their fingers." ”
So there is no doubt that this style of disassembly expert, hands-on children is very intelligent.
Naughty little kids are smart
We all have a stereotype: liking pranks is not a good thing, it's either skin or bad. So many parents would rather let their child become ordinary than let him become playful.
But in fact, there is a certain misunderstanding among parents about this. Parents, you must always see what your child is doing, in order to make a correct judgment, you can't beat your child to death with a stick, because naughty children may actually be smart.
When we carefully analyze the pranks, we will find that every prank, that must be intertwined and tightly knitted to really make parents feel tricky. Children who can do this kind of thing are generally delicate, intelligent, and good at thinking. For such children, parents should give correct guidance.
Therefore, as long as parents educate their funny children, they will definitely excel in the future.
Balance is the true meaning of family education
However, I think balance is very important in the process of educating children.
While children who talk back, disassemble, and prank may have some intelligence and creativity, that doesn't mean parents should completely let their behavior go unchecked or leave it uninvolved. Education is not only about nurturing children's intelligence, but also about aspects such as morality, social skills, and adaptability.
When educating children, parents should set appropriate boundaries and rules to help children develop good moral character and behavior habits. This does not mean stifling the child's personality or creativity, but teaching them how to apply these traits to the right areas and how to work with and respect others.
How to strike a balance is a homework that every parent has to do.
In addition, communication and understanding are key. Parents should have an open, respectful dialogue with their children, listen to their opinions and ideas, and develop their self-confidence and ability to express themselves. By interacting with their children, parents can help them develop good communication skills beyond simply accepting or rejecting their point of view.
While some seemingly annoying behaviors may reflect a child's high IQ, parents still need to seek balance in education to nurture their child's well-rounded development and positive behavior habits.