Song Dandan, who is "crazy", why does he see me so heart-piercing?
Recently, Song Dandan became the "hot search queen" again.
She first took the initiative to play terrier in "Fifty Kilometers Peachblossom Dock 3" and contributed a famous scene of being "gas" to oxygen.
Then, in the TV series "Mature Year" that is being broadcast, Wu Ersu, played by Song Dandan, received the entry #Song Dandan playing my relative# because of various strange quotes.
The market phrase "married a daughter-in-law and forgot her mother, and sons are white-eyed wolves" has to be said in Song Dandan's hushed tone.
Don't say, Song Dandan plays a small citizen, there is really a set.
I was personally attracted by Mr. Song Dandan's vivid performance, opened "Mature Year", and then found that this is not a super realistic "adult crazy literature"?
It seems that every character is very grasping horses, but in fact, they are all "you, me, and him" in life. In addition, I have recently been on the verge of collapse many times because of work and family affairs, so when I watched this drama, I had a special sense of substitution. Sometimes, I really want to be with Teacher Song Dandan, let's go~
Adult madness literature
One second I was angry to death, the next second I was crying
"Mature Year" tells the story that happened in the big family of the Ni family. Mrs. Ni has three children, the eldest brother Ni Weimin (played by Zhang Guoqiang), the second brother Ni Weiqiang (played by Liu Yijun), and the third sister Ni Weizhen (played by Wang Ou).
Wu Ersu, played by Song Dandan, is the wife of his eldest brother Ni Weimin. Both of them are ordinary employees, Ni Weimin is a chef in a state-owned enterprise canteen, and Wu Ersu is a supermarket salesman. Their son Ni Jun (played by Wang Yanlin) is married and lives in their house with his wife Liu Hongyan (played by Tang Yixin).
Wu Eryu, who was born in the city, is the most broken existence in this family. She urged her daughter-in-law to give birth, and every day she changed her methods to urge her to give birth to children.
Liu Hongyan accidentally miscarried, and the first thing Wu Eryu did was not to care about her daughter-in-law's body, but to blame the other party for "not being a wangfuxiang".
Wu Eryu said this, even her husband Ni Weimin couldn't listen to it.
In the small family, Wu Ersu is bent on holding his grandson.
In the big family, she was worried about Mrs. Ni's old house and urged her sister-in-law Ni Weizhen to get married and move out. "You don't get married in your thirties, and when you really fancy someone in your forties, can you be born?"
Giving birth and marriage, every sentence is suffocatingly mean.
Wu Eryu's mouth is very annoying. But, is she really a bad person?
Not necessarily.
She did this just to protect the interests of her small family.
Her husband, Ni Weimin, is the worst economic situation of the old Ni family. He is the eldest, and he has let his younger brother and sister do everything since he was a child, resulting in not caring about his own development. This made Wu Ersu feel heart-wrenching and aggrieved.
Wu Ersu's snobbery was forced out by reality. Seeing that the little uncle and sister-in-law had such a good career, she was unwilling to live such a life by herself.
Moreover, Wu Ersu is not just a philistine and mean side.
She is "giving" for her husband and son.
The environment at home was not good, she recognized. Ni Weimin used to sponsor her brother's schooling, and she agreed.
"I married you, and all I thought about was our family. How come you will always be me alone as a bad person, and the good people are all you. ”
Wu Ersu's "true love confession" with tears in his eyes made me sad to see. Their family does have its own difficulties, so she is calculating. She's picky, but she's also hard.
Wu Ersu is not a bad person, she is just a small citizen in the city who is "driven crazy" by life.
If it weren't for bending her waist for Wudoumi, she could have lived a more dignified life.
In the drama "Mature Year", most of the characters are like this, they are not perfect, they all have their own "flaws".
Like the second sister-in-law Zhang Chunmei (played by Hao Lei), in the eyes of others, she is a good daughter-in-law and wife. Strong in work, good at housework, and well-organized in housework, he is the real "big parent" of this family.
However, because of her excessive sense of responsibility, she forced her husband Ni Weiqiang to breathe. She is not an indestructible and omnipotent "strongman", she also has human weaknesses, and she is helpless in the face of her marriage.
When watching this drama, I always unconsciously feel emotionally affected by these characters.
They are not good enough, they are a whole bunch of problems.
But they are ordinary people like us.
Even if we have a stable job, have grown up and may even have a family, but we and they still have to face the self who is not strong enough and face the complexity of human nature in the daily life of chickens and dogs.
△ Wu Ersu sent bananas to the old lady, and had to choose a small one, saying that "the days have to pass slowly", and this "little citizen mentality" is very real.
Chinese Family Guide
Who doesn't have a difficult scripture?
In addition to the three-dimensional description of the characters, "Mature Year" is also quite in place for its portrayal of the Chinese family, which can be said to be a "Chinese family picture book".
The three families of the old Ni family, each family, has its own minefield, and each family has its own difficulties.
The eldest brother Ni Weimin has average family conditions. A family of four, crammed into a "old and dilapidated" house. The master bedroom was given to his son and daughter-in-law, and Ni Weimin and Wu Ersu could only sleep on bunk beds. When he got up in the morning, Ni Weimin also had to go outside to the bathroom.
The problem of the eldest brother's family is the "house" problem that most families will encounter.
The family of four was crowded into a small house, and the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law became increasingly intensified.
Daughter-in-law Liu Hongyan wants to buy a house with her own ability and Ni Jun, and wants her own independent space. Ersu used buying a house for the little two as bait to give birth and wanted to hold her grandson. Later, Hongyan miscarried, and Er Su immediately changed her words, reluctant to get money, and had to have her grandson give birth to buy a house.
There was originally a gap between Liu Hongyan and Wu Ersu, and the house problem put all contradictions on the table.
The second brother, Ni Weiqiang, has the best economic conditions in the old Ni family. Ni Weiqiang is a university professor, his wife Zhang Chunmei is an associate editor of the magazine, and a college son seems to live a very decent middle-class life.
However, there are also cracks in their families. Ni Weiqiang was not happy at all. After marrying Zhang Chunmei, Ni Weiqiang arranged everything by his wife. He felt that he had lived as a "giant baby".
Everything around his life has Zhang Chunmei's shadow, and every step he takes seems to be monitored by Zhang Chunmei.
From Zhang Chunmei's point of view, she is quite incomprehensible about Ni Weiqiang's "rebellion".
As your wife, isn't it normal to help you arrange everything and care about your living and eating?
The biggest problem between Ni Weiqiang and Zhang Chunmei is that they have never had in-depth communication and communication, and the two have been talking to themselves. Zhang Chunmei is treating Ni Weiqiang in a way that "thinks" good, but in the eyes of the other party, this is a pressure. Ni Weiqiang also accepted it silently for many years, until he couldn't bear it anymore.
Because of the accumulation of communication problems, in the end, the conflict has become too big to be resolved, and the two can only go to divorce.
The younger sister, Ni Weizhen, is an independent woman engaged in career. Her problems are what every adult has to face - career bottlenecks, sick elderly people at home, and sudden increase in life pressure.
Ni Weizhen, a TV producer, was cut off because her program "Thinkers" did not meet the viewing habits of young people.
Ni Weizhen quit his job at the TV station because of this. And her mother, Mrs. Ni, was found to have Alzheimer's disease when her career was hit.
Career and family encountered problems, and Ni Weizhen turned to love.
She and a 28-year-old brother "flash marriage", the two were very sweet at the beginning, but this brother has a mother who is super disgusted with "sibling love", can their love withstand the test of the family?
On the other hand, can "sibling love" become an outlet for life pressure? Can career and family problems be solved with love? This is also what Ni Weizhen has to face.
There is a Chinese saying that every family has a scripture that is difficult to read.
In "Mature Year", the Ni family is exactly like this.
The "head of the family" Mrs. Ni is sick.
The eldest son's family has a conflict between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the second son's family wants to divorce, and the daughter has just started a marriage that does not know whether it is reliable or not.
No matter what stage they are in, no matter what kind of family, everyone has their own dilemmas to solve.
Whose life is not a chicken feather, and who is easier than whom?
△ Zhang Chunmei's smashing of the plate is also very real, and when it collapses, even adults want to vent and go crazy.
The warmth that sustains us
Although the life of ordinary people is not easy, but the days still have to go on.
What is more rare about "Mature Year" is that it describes the difficulties of life, but it does not sell anxiety.
The people in the play are trying to solve problems and work hard to live their lives.
Wu Ersu is meticulous, and he just wants to run the house better.
Weizhen no longer dwells on the past, tries to accept new feelings and accept new relationships.
Chunmei chose to divorce, in fact, she also chose to "let go", so that her life and Ni Weiqiang's life can have a new beginning.
In fact, including the eldest brother Ni Weimin, he is also protecting the family in his own way.
He retired and wanted to spend more time with his mother, who had Alzheimer's disease.
He knew that his daughter-in-law wanted to buy a house, and he tried to go out and make money.
They are all trying to stay alive in their own way.
In this, the most touching thing is actually the relationship between Chunmei and Old Lady Ni.
Because Chunmei is the "big housekeeper" of the old Ni family, Old Lady Ni has always lived in her house and is taken care of by her.
Originally, Chunmei and Ni Weiqiang divorced and no longer had to take care of the old lady, but she still chose to continue to support her wife without hesitation.
Chunmei said that she did not have a mother, and she had long regarded Mrs. Ni as a mother.
In Old Lady Ni, Chunmei found an emotional bond and sustenance. At the trough of her life, it was this family affection that transcended the "mother-in-law relationship" that stabilized her heart and allowed her to find a support point in life.
This warmth beyond life may be the antidote to our life.
When we feel that we can't stay up, look around us, in fact, we don't have nothing.
Those who support us, the warmth that accompanies us, those hugs, those smiles, are the reasons why we can continue.
Life is about getting through difficulties.
The title of this drama is "Mature Year", which is very interesting.
It doesn't just mean to enter middle age physically, but to reach maturity psychologically.
"It is the last mental weaning of us adults", and it is only through various moments of collapse and chaos that we can finally go calm.
I personally like the scene in "Mature Year", where Chunmei and Weiqiang divorced. After completing the divorce procedures and walking out of the Civil Affairs Bureau, Chunmei, who has always been dignified, sat on the steps of the Civil Affairs Bureau, took out the pancake fruit, and nibbled it.
At that moment, she was truly relaxed.
At that moment, she let go of all her baggage, threw away the past, and fully enjoyed the present.
Therefore, we don't have to force ourselves to be "emotionally stable" adults all the time.
Like the people of the old Ni family, there is nothing bad about occasionally going crazy and venting.
The days are still long.
We all need a free heart, and a real life.
Morning twilight, firewood, rice, oil and salt, laughter and scolding, this is life.