In a dirty family environment, children with poor hearts are abundant

Home is where children draw happiness and energy.

If the home is always messy and dirty, then the child's heart will also be depressed, barren, and not nourished.

Author | Tomato Mom

Zhihu saw such a problem:

"What's it like to live in a dirty home for more than ten years?"

The number of views is as high as 23.85 million, and many netizens under the comments have posted their own home, which is simply eye-opening.

Some were littered with cardboard boxes and garbage, and there was not even a place to put feet in the house.

Some homes have mountains of clothes, and all kinds of rotten food are hidden under their clothes, which is dirty and smelly.

Some coffee tables are piled with pots and pans, and expired condiments, surrounded by dust...

These netizens said that living in such a dirty and poor environment has caused a lot of impact on their lives:

"Since childhood, I felt distraught and couldn't concentrate on doing things."

"The sloppy mess of my native family caused me great trouble, and even changed the trajectory of my life."

"Since I was a child, I always quarreled with them and even started it, and my family was too depressed, so I chose to run far away to study in college."

Recall that Swedish educator Ellen Kay pointed out:

"The environment plays a very important role in a person's growth, and a good environment is the basis for children to form correct thinking and excellent personality."

After watching the experiences of these netizens, I really understood:

In a dirty family environment, it is easy to raise "poor-hearted" children.

Dirty environment

You can't raise a happy child

After years of research, Harvard Business School discovered a phenomenon:

Successful people with a strong sense of happiness tend to have a very clean and tidy home environment; And the unfortunate people usually live in messy and filthy.

The family environment hides the life state of each member, as well as the energy and happiness of a child.

In a Finnish public service film "Orphanage", there is such a scene:

A pair of well-behaved siblings arrive at an adult orphanage, ready to choose the ideal type of parents for themselves.

The first pair: Dad is reading, Mom cleans the room neatly, occasionally looking at each other, eyes full of love.

The second couple: the couple eats together, full of laughter, and the kitchen is refreshing and clean.

Third pair: The two stand under the cherry blossom tree on a date, looking romantic and loving, and the atmosphere is harmonious.

Fourth pair: Mom is drinking, Dad is yelling, and the home is messy.

Miraculously, when children see the first three pairs of parents, they seem to be able to empathize and naturally smile happily.

But when they saw the fourth pair of parents, their expressions immediately became solemn, frightened, and dazed.

A good family atmosphere can not only make people feel happy and live happily, but also provide a steady stream of nutrients for children's growth.

The chaotic family atmosphere is like poison, eating away at the child's vitality little by little.

Imagine what would happen to a child living in a disorganized, breathless home.

Netizen @shocking recalled that he had a junior high school classmate, who was young, but there was always a faint sadness on his face.

Once, he went to play with this fellow scholar and was stunned when he entered the door.

His living room is full of delivery boxes and dirty clothes, and the dishes and chopsticks in the sink look like they've been accumulated for days, and there are even small flies flying around.

The classmate's mother warmly welcomed him to sit down, but in fact there was not even a place to sit on the sofa...

At that moment, he finally understood the source of his classmate's unhappiness.

Living in such a messy family, how can children be happy from the heart?

Living in a chaotic family environment for a long time will not only affect the child's mood and comfort, but also disrupt the child's rhythm of life and absorb the nutrients of the child's life.

Dirty environment

You can't raise emotionally peaceful children

Shu An, a well-known organizer, told about his experience of door-to-door storage.

A mother of two children with two children lives every day.

Her eldest son is particularly manic, irritable, and loses his temper at every turn; The younger son does not like to talk and is often depressed.

She herself is also very depressed, and in severe cases, she will have chest tightness, breathlessness, and has already developed depressive symptoms.

The organizer looked at the whole room to find the crux of the problem——

Her home was a mess, and the kitchen and living room were full of shopping bags, children's toys, and clothes and utensils that were thrown away.

Sometimes there are so many items stacked that even sunlight can't shine in.

The book "Sweeping Power" says: A room is an energy field.

The negative energy released by the dirty room will be unconsciously transmitted to the members of the family, resulting in irritability, anxiety, helplessness, low self-esteem, fatigue and other problems.

Living in a messy environment for a long time, people can easily become irritable, depressed, and depressed.

No wonder some netizens said: Every time I go home, my heart is as uncomfortable as a fly;

Some netizens said: It's perennially upset.

Among them, @ Cool swept fat cat's answer hit the nail on the head:

When your home is clean and tidy, your internal boundaries expand until they cover the entire home.

You will feel that you can do everything, burst with mood, and full of energy.

When the home is dirty and crowded, the internal boundary will continue to shrink, until it shrinks into the shell.

Then, you feel, inexplicably irritable, filled with nameless wildfires.

This is because your borders are shrinking and losing.

The subconscious mind will constantly remind you that you are getting weaker and more incompetent.

The chaotic environment does not raise emotionally stable and peaceful children.

In the long run, children will lack sunlight in their hearts, and it is even easy to breed anxiety and depression.

Dirty environment

You can't raise children with a big heart

Below this post, I was impressed by an anonymous netizen's answer.

She revealed that her sloppy native family almost ruined her life.

Her parents have not liked cleaning since she was a child, the house is dirty and messy all year round, the table is a layer of ash, and she does not shabu after eating, watch TV first, go to bed directly when she sees that it is late, and wash it before cooking the next meal.

As a child she used a plastic comb with a thick layer of black oil on it, which could be scraped off with her fingernails;

I remember one time, when the class held a choir competition, the teacher asked everyone to wear a white shirt, and her mother rummaged through a pile of dirty clothes at night before she turned over a stained dress.

The next day, she wore this dress to school and was laughed at by her classmates for a long time.

At that time, several friends with good relationships would take turns to play in someone's house, but she never invited others to her house because she did not dare.

Later, in the college entrance examination, she chose a school far from home, just to be away from this home.

The most unfortunate: for so many years, the haze brought to her by her native family was like shackles, trapping her in a narrow situation.

She is sensitive, inferior, evasive, afraid to go to large shopping malls, and does not dare to wear beautiful skirts, because she always feels that she is not worthy;

Even after work, when you meet a slightly high-quality boy, you don't dare to step forward, and you always feel that you are not worthy of others.

Later, she talked about a boyfriend, and after more than a year, his boyfriend offered to visit her home, and she subconsciously refused.

Under her boyfriend's repeated questioning, she simply chose to break up.

The external environment is a projection of a person's inner being.

A dirty room will destroy a child's inner order and life pattern.

It is difficult for us to find a child with a big heart and a noble soul in a messy family.

Raising children, material deprivation, can also be made up spiritually, but once the child is barren in heart, it will eventually be barren for a lifetime.

Clean and tidy home

is the best nourishment for children

I remember once, I went to a friend's house as a guest.

From the moment you enter the door, it's a sense of comfort.

Bright floor tiles, neatly placed shoe cabinets at the door, and a few scattered flowers in the vase on the coffee table, everywhere reveals the elegance and elegance of the owner.

A friend's son was doing his homework in the study, and I handed him the snacks I brought, and he said happily, "Thank you, Auntie." ”

In between talking to him, I looked around the study, the books on the shelves were orderly arranged, and the table was neat and clean.

Walking into the kitchen, my friend is busy in front of the stove, the kitchen is not the usual greasy and hot flashes, the dishes and chopsticks and seasonings are in order, which looks particularly refreshing.

I heard from friends that his son is a class leader, with a cheerful personality and a very good personality, who usually likes to read and never let his parents worry.

Heard such a saying:

"A person's room exposes his life state, and the room state of a home hides the child's future."

The clean family environment is like a natural positive energy field that gives each member a positive impact.

Such a warm and fresh family atmosphere can nourish children with rich hearts and souls.

In Fukuoka, Japan, there is a father named Yuji Mori who likes to record the life of his family with a camera.

In his photos, a couple, two children, and three dogs, trivial, ordinary, but extremely vivid.

It is worth noting that the furnishings in the home are very elegant and neat, and the owner's intentions can be revealed everywhere.

The room was always spotless from floor, dining table or carpet.

Living in such a room, it is no wonder that the family always has a healing and warm smile on their faces.

The two children also grew up lively and cute in such a clean and bright environment.

A good family environment will subtly affect the child, determine the child's living habits, personality characteristics, and three values.

Living in a clean and warm room, children are not only sunny, emotionally peaceful, but also more diligent and active.

There is an old saying: Happiness comes from a clean home.

The family environment affects children's happiness and life energy at all times.

To raise a sunny and positive child, you must first create a warm, clean and comfortable family environment.

A clean house will not only bring good luck to the whole family, but also make the family more cohesive.

Let us work together to create a good space for children to grow up and build the most solid bridge in life.