Unexpectedly, "filial piety" can also be used in sound.
Not long ago, Dou Jingtong and Mo Wenwei's "It's Dark" sang on the screen, as soon as Dou Jingtong spoke, many netizens "knelt", isn't this Faye Wong?!
What surprised me even more was her image and the same as before.
In the past, Dou Jingtong was called "husband" by female fans. Inch head, tattoos do not fall, sometimes wearing military coats on the stage to sing, outsiders look deviant.
Now I don't have a tattoo, I have long hair, and I have a calm and fresh temperament, and the change is really not a star.
With a hint of curiosity, I watched her recent interview and found that not only the image, but also her whole state was different.
She talked about her feelings and expressed her views on the world, and she was obviously much more mature and relaxed.
As one of the most concerned "second generation stars", she is stepping out of the aura of her parents and becoming an independent individual. Moreover, her "being herself" is a kind of natural peace and nature, and there are few contradictions, oppositions and conflicts with her parents and family.
Carefully brush Dou Jingtong's growth experience, you will find that Faye Wong, who has always been low-key and has not shown her parenting experience in front of the camera, is actually indispensable.
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The daughter after the day, it is not easy
Mom is Faye Wong, the queen of heaven, and dad is the talented Dou Wei. Since birth, Dou Jingtong has been destined to live in the spotlight.
The talented parents who are immersed in the entertainment industry must not be as settled as ordinary people's marriages, and when Dou Jingtong was two years old, Faye Wong and Dou Wei divorced. After that, Dou Jingtong, sometimes followed his mother, sometimes lived in his aunt's house, Beijing, Hong Kong, the United States, and "wandered" all over the world.
The unstable family environment, coupled with his mother's dazzling aura, as long as Dou Jingtong appears in front of the camera, he must go through the scrutiny of the public media.
For example, people love to ridicule her "unconventional" hairstyle that changes every once in a while;
Tattoos on the chin and neck are also often mentioned, and people who don't like her give this line a ugly name, "shrimp line".
And sometimes it really makes people incomprehensible, Li Yapeng waited at the school gate for three days before moving the principal to let her enter Beijing No. 4 Middle School, and she said that she couldn't adapt to it and wanted to drop out of school;
Later, he was admitted to Berklee College of Music to study music and did the same, and after two years of study, he wanted to return to China and directly enter the entertainment industry.
However, this kind of rich and willful image is also in line with people's imagination of the "second generation", especially the complexity of the original family, the maverick character of his parents, and Dou Jingtong's "rebellion" is taken for granted.
But when you understand Dou Jingtong in depth, you will find that "rebellious" and "not well-behaved" are just the appearance of this girl, in her bones, she has a warmth, kindness and upbringing that is scarce among young people today.
For example, the eye-catching tattoo on the chin is actually to encourage her sister Li Yan, who suffers from a natural cleft lip, "Now we are all the same", which is nothing, just a mark.
Sometimes, she was still a little too sensible, in order to become independent as soon as possible, she went to work in a drink store, and began to release albums at the age of fifteen or sixteen. The first money I saved was originally intended to buy a car for myself, but in the end I gave it to my aunt's children as tuition;
During the interview, she would thoughtfully ask the reporter if she wanted to change to a more comfortable position, even if the assistant accidentally spilled a drink on the computer, she immediately helped with the aftermath, and at the end of the interview, she did not forget to return the chair pulled from the next table.
This kind of understanding, humble and easy-going personality has also allowed her to gain an unusually good popularity in the entertainment industry, Zhou Dongyu, Mizuhara Kiko, Zhou Xun, and Ma Sichun are all her friends in the circle.
The girl who keeps dropping out of school and has a non-mainstream appearance is certainly not a good child in the traditional sense, and in the end, it is her mother Faye Wong who knows her best: "I have a particularly warm and sensible daughter. ”
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Faye Wong: You can not be well-behaved, but you can't learn badly
Faye Wong rarely talks about her parenting experience in public, but like her singing style and tune, she has her own very firm ideas on the guidance of the baby.
When Dou Jingtong was a child, Faye Wong talked about her expectations for her daughter:
"My greatest wish for my child is for her to be safe and happy."
As for whether or not to make music, it is "depending on her own interests." ”
Dou Jingtong's seemingly deviant behavior has actually been discussed with his mother and obtained Faye Wong's permission.
At the age of 16, Dou Jingtong's first tattoo was first cut and then played, and his mother Faye Wong later learned about it, but only said: "It's good that you won't regret it." ”
To Dou Jingtong's intention to drop out of school, Faye Wong's response was: "Just think about it." ”
So Dou Jingtong said that she didn't need to be rebellious at all, because her parents were "very enlightened people", no matter what she wanted to do with a rebellious feeling, as long as she told them in advance, they were OK.
The real relationship between this mother and daughter is equality and respect.
May be in the eyes of outsiders, this parent-child relationship is too loose and inclusive, although it is very "Faye Wong", but as a mother, not everything has been done, let her daughter grow up savagely alone.
In fact, in many small details, Faye Wong will set a scale, Faye Wong and Dou Wei even wrote a song for her, "You can't learn bad, you can't be very well-behaved." ”
Before Dou Jingtong was 16 years old, she still had access control time, and if she didn't go home at night, she would receive a "serial short-lived call";
Faye Wong looks cold on the surface, but she is quite calm and calm in dealing with others. She will not blame her other half in front of her daughter like other divorced parents. Dou Jingtong has gotten along very well with his father Dou Wei's big family over the years.
On Dou Jingtong's birthday, Faye Wong will also invite Tong Tong's grandmother (Dou Wei's mother) to Li Yapeng's home, and bring together the people her daughter loves the most to celebrate her birthday in a lively and peaceful manner.
Faye Wong is telling her daughter with words and deeds that you can be yourself, you can not care about the opinions of others, but do not make enemies with the world, and learn to live in harmony with the world.
Faye Wong said: "At home, Dou Jingtong is the eldest sister, Li Yan is the second sister, and I am the younger sister."
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"Mom, I've grown up"
With such a mother to support the bottom, I think this is Dou Jingtong's confidence in feeling "not well-behaved". There is a hot comment that says very well, "The more confident a child is, the more successful an adult is."
There is a song "Fireworks" in Dou Jingtong's new album, and she writes "Mom, I grew up". The planner said that Dou Jingtong did not have an exclusive target for writing this sentence, "in fact, it is her daily mantra."
Maybe she was talking to herself in the air, when she was a girl, she always wanted to get rid of the marks of "Faye Wong" and "Dou Wei" on her body, her voice that was too similar to her mother, and her father's same creative talent.
But at 26, she is already willing to reconcile with the "label" that cannot be shaken off - this is part of my body, I am like you, but I am not you.
One day, I'll shine in my own way.
People who are wrapped in love and freedom and grow slowly may also be happier and more durable.
I think many people have seen the following clip, it is Faye Wong and Dou Jingtong performing on the same stage in "City of Phantom Music", this warm look, mutual appreciation, and comfortable state is the most perfect mother-daughter relationship in my imagination.
Children can grow an independent and stretched soul, and the cornerstone of everything is the love and freedom of parents who grasp the scale.