Happily, Xu Huaiyu of the second duke has finally regained his state.
There is also light in the eyes, the eyebrows are stretched, the manners are lively, the singing skills are back, the laughter can be carried out, the friendly interaction with teammates can be achieved, and the battle slogan can be firmly and forcefully shouted in the back collection.
As a person who has copied "I Am a Girl" in the lyric book, the junior high school June Day cultural performance and classmates skipping "Rush Forward", I am really relieved and happy to see that the forty-year-old finally shines with yesterday's look, but I can't help but start thinking about a question: Just from the first to the second gong, how could her state suddenly improve so quickly? Is it really the "team bullying theory" that broke out before?
Some people also dismissively understood: Oh, it's all script, I'll just say it will be reversed, you see?
I believe in the script, but I don't believe that the script can be planned to such a precise extent, reality shows are essentially a show, but the natural reaction of real people with flesh and blood is the basis for this show to look good. If it is really a complete script, then Xu Huaiyu's acting skills can basically impact the Oscar.
Being bullied by the previous team, it is even more unlikely, it is possible to get along not so happily, but I don't think that the battle-hardened sisters will be stupid enough to openly expose the evil of human nature under the gaze of heavy cameras, if they can, who doesn't want to maintain the perfect image of a person who is kind and willing to fight?
So it's not so much a deliberate target as an inevitable result of involute. Different people will have different energy fields, resulting in different chemical reactions together, and each individual will therefore present a different state.
For example, this time, Xu Huaiyu can be radiant, which is inseparable from the encouragement and infection of teammate Zhang Jiani.
Needless to say, the extremely serious and firm sister Zhang Jiani has become the biggest source of laughter in this issue. In the interview session after the performance, the host Qi Sijun said that this team of sisters seemed to be promoting the spirit of enterprise, and I slapped my thighs, and suddenly felt that this description was simply too accurate, but isn't it, it's this feeling!
Let's start with a wisp:
As the captain, Zhang Jiani is very responsible, and since the formation of the team, he has methodically and conscientiously undertaken the role of boosting morale and rallying the hearts of the army.
First of all, in line with the principle of "only training can enhance confidence", he not only patiently helped his teammates button the details, but also invited sisters with outstanding business in other groups to guide them off the field, giving teammates great confidence and help.
Secondly, in the creation of team culture, Mr. Zhang is even more hands-on and will not relax.
She will take her two teammates to read the lyrics one by one, with affection, and integrate the emotions and spirit into the soul of each teammate;
She would make the most of her break time to engage in team building, allowing the three of them to sit around and quietly listen to her interpretation of feminine beauty and her belief in riding the wind stage, and at the end, she must gradually repeat "I can, I can, I can do it" in a gradually and firm tone, as if she were holding a particularly mysterious ritual.
Finally, after a series of "brainwashing", we saw with our own eyes that the doubt, ignorance and uneasiness in Xu Huaiyu's big eyes were gradually replaced by firmness and enthusiasm, and he successfully became an excellent employee under Mr. Zhang.
It may be providence, their stage costumes are also black and white, and the three of them brush and stand there, like the three business backbones who speak on stage at the morning meeting.
Not only that, their team slogan is also full of the solemnity of corporate culture - "we are an unlimited team of possibilities, who go all out, have the courage to innovate, and break through the comfort zone", coupled with the one-handed fist posture, wow, absolute, the picture is frozen, no need to do more retouching is a perfect corporate recruitment official poster.
It's still step-shaped
The final results were announced, the results were not satisfactory, they were not up to 800 points, basically at the bottom, but Mr. Zhang still raised his chin, maintained a personable confident smile, and did not forget to comfort the two teammates, returned to the background, and once again transformed into a "corporate culture communication ambassador", holding two employees, ah no, the hands of the two sisters said gently and firmly, we don't think it's a failure, believe that we are success.
Seeing this, I almost couldn't help but applaud!
You can't blame me for describing it too jokingly, it's all blame that the picture is too gratifying. But I have to say that while laughing, my heart is actually full of admiration, because Zhang Jiani really has a sense of faith and has the style of a big leader.
She must have seen what she wanted to be from Ella in the last group, so she planted the seed of her dream in her heart, and this time it happened to be the realization of her dream, it doesn't matter if you score high or low, the key is to have the experience of being a leader.
As it turned out, she was successful. Responsible but not narcissistic, knowing that his abilities are limited, so he asked other sisters for help; Strict but not in a hurry, putting the psychological construction of the team ahead of winning or losing. Xu Huaiyu's return to state is the best example of her success.
That kind of brainwashing group activity, others may indeed be a little silly to look at, but don't immediately link it with MLM as soon as you see this, for people with insufficient mental energy, this way is still very healing.
Just like the martial arts movies I watched as a child, a person is weak after being injured or poisoned, and there will be a tall man (usually a white-bearded old man) behind his back to give him luck, pushing his back with both hands until white smoke rises from his head, and little by little he recovers his physical strength.
The spiritual level is actually the same, if you are weak and lacking, you need to rely on external forces, and even rely on external forces to a certain extent.
And their group, not only Xu Huaiyu, the three people have been shrouded in clouds above their heads since the beginning of the team, as Zhao Lina said, this is the remaining group, the song is the leftover, and the people are also left, especially she and Xu Huaiyu, one is not in demand because of his height and is not a good match, and the other is not selected because of the low score of abnormal performance.
Therefore, they were self-confident and demoralized from the beginning, and Zhang Jiani's continuous psychological construction work was also the right medicine, not just to live a leadership addiction.
I saw some comments that this time Xu Huaiyu was no longer panicked and fearful, but instead revealed a clear stupidity. Like, quite graphic.
But I think there is nothing to laugh at, which just shows that she has gained a full sense of security and strength in the team and in "Xiao Zhang", and it can even be said that it is the biggest and only source of her recent sense of security and strength, so she will become very simple like a child returning to her mother's arms, putting aside all kinds of distractions and the messy trivialities of the adult world, enjoying the moment unrestrained, and accidentally forgetting expression management.
She may be accustomed to jumping back and forth in hard braces and escapes, and she has long needed such a mental spa~~
In short, people are right, the breath is smooth, the trust and connection between each other is greater than defense and confrontation, even if everyone has limited ability, the process of working together will become a journey worth remembering.
In comparison, Yigong should be regarded as Xu Huaiyu's nightmare, right?
Objectively, the two groups she has stayed in are both considered death groups, and the difference lies in whether there is a Zhang Jiani-like soul figure to condense and enhance the energy field of the entire team.
The "Little Girl Under the Street Lamp" group, except for Xu Huaiyu, who is all actor sisters, her business ability is generally very weak, plus the first time is somewhat stage frightened, so almost everyone of them is lacking in confidence and hopes to be led and inspired. Xu Huaiyu, who is a singer, seems to be the one who carries the beam, but her personality and psychological state lead to her own being the person who needs to be led, and she does not have the ability and aura to lead the team.
When the sisters with low energy values found that the team had no backbone and no one around them to rely on, their hearts were even more anxious, and this anxiety turned into disappointment and resentment towards others, and Xu Huaiyu, who had high hopes, realized that he needed to stand up, and couldn't help but retreat... The whole thing is a vicious cycle of "I expect from anxiety - you can't - I am disappointed - you are stressed out - I am more anxious".
In short, everyone's negative emotions will become a wall that prevents each other's integration and unity. If you don't think that the other party can catch yourself, then there will be no tacit understanding, without tacit understanding, it is easy to act, and if you act badly, the resentment will increase, and Xu Huaiyu's self-blame will also increase. Groups that are pervaded by disappointment, complaints, guilt and self-doubt naturally have nothing to speak of, but only to smell the smell of "intrigue".
That's it, when everyone in a small group generally doesn't have high energy and can't flow and grow, the limited energy is spent on isolating each other and stealth attacks.
It has nothing to do with character and morality, but a natural state of inner operation - if you don't have it, you will ask for it, and if you can't ask for it, you will have a tantrum; If you don't have expectations, if you can't take it, you will be very low.
The way to break the game is that there must be at least one person like Zhang Jiani in the team, and her energy is enough to support her sense of responsibility, so that she can give with open arms instead of taking; Be able to help, not just ask for it; She accepts you as you are and is willing to do something to make you better.
So you can see that whether it is an idol group in the entertainment industry or a team around you, there must be a good leader, stable and strong, like a helmsman dominating the operation of a ship.
But after the program was broadcast, some people disliked Zhang Jiani, and as a layman to guide Xu Huaiyu to sing and dance.
I really obeyed, can the inertial thinking of persecution delusion + love to fight for high and low brake and turn around? It's not that it's a shame to be taught and helped, okay?
I just think that Xu Huaiyu can come to this show is really God's favor, it is precisely because there can be more than one sister like Zhang Jiani who helps her, her pessimistic view of the world can be loosened to a certain extent, loosening can make people live new experiences continue to come in, until covering and diluting the painful traces of those native families.
Many people lament for Xu Huaiyu's native family, but nothing in the world is completely unchangeable, and the underlying logic of healing the heart is actually so simple: change the inherent cognition of "I am not only worthy of meeting bad people" by meeting good people, and walk out of the dark jungle of "I can only be ignored, blamed, and targeted" by feeling trusted and encouraged.
If you don't want to be trapped in the old script of life, then you have to work hard to go out, as long as you have the desire to change, the world is big, you can always meet a pair of hands willing to pull you.
Of course, Sister Lang is a competitive variety show, not a psychotherapy room, not a group can encounter the opportunity for growth and transformation, and if you don't get it, you will fall into a deeper quagmire because of "meeting people who are not shut".
But either God favors her, the old book is thick, the popularity is high, which means that she has longer standby time and more opportunities to try, this time did not perform well and the next time, the next time did not meet the right person and the next time, at first unfamiliar with the environment, but stay, there is always a day when you can relax and relax.
What a good metaphor for life, as long as you live, you can always meet the turn of fate.
So fans stop talking about how miserable she is, she is already lucky, pay more attention to the lucky side, she can throw the "tragic past" farther and farther, and gradually have a less miserable, even very bright present and future.
Author: Miss Bovary
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