Text | Thirteenth sister
Two days ago, I saw a paragraph that listed the new standards for the definition of "filial piety" by contemporary parents:
Those who have been mothers can understand it as soon as they see it, and even some mothers sigh with emotion: This is filial piety, this is simply an angel.
Since Mencius's time, everyone has been particularly keen to preach filial piety, and Mencius also divided filial piety into two categories: nourishing the mouth and nourishing the mind.
Nourishing the mouth is to serve and accompany the parents and take care of them, and nurturing the mind is to achieve something and make parents proud of it. Thinking about it this way, I feel that the standard of filial piety is really high, nourishing the mouth and mind, it is not easy to insist on doing any of them, and it is not easy to truly win the title of "filial piety".
However, this treasure of Chinese filial piety, which has been inherited for thousands of years, can only be regarded as an outline at best in our generation, and our contemporary definition of "filial piety" has indeed been subdivided.
Seeing this new type of "eight filial piety", I understand that this generation of middle-aged parents really wants to be open, and they don't need the baby to saddle the horse and serve us to "nourish the mouth", nor do we have to expect the child to become famous and "nourish the heart", our requirements are very low, just need the baby to let us not be tired and angry, we already feel that they are very filial...
To sum up, the standard of contemporary new filial piety is three words: save money and save mother.
However, after reading this new filial piety standard, an unmarried friend without children made this comment: "Why, now the standard of filial piety is so low?" Are these things hard to do? ”
This is indeed the case, in fact, these standards are high, really not high.
It's not that difficult to look at each one individually, and it's quite possible to achieve, but the problem is that most contemporary children really can't say which chain will drop in it, and many children are very good at putting them together and giving you a package that doesn't meet the standard...
So to the naked eye, these standards seem to be low and insignificant, but when they are packed, buy one get seven free, a mother has to deal with everything... You will really feel that even if my baby can only achieve half of it, it is already considered to be a reward.
Let's just say that our generation has grown up from childhood, and more than half of these 8 can be achieved too much, which is like the current baby, with a clear skeleton from a young age, with its own talent for burning money.
As long as you become a parent, you are likely to be ready for the "growth assassin".
So that many mothers feel that going to work now belongs to the entertainment of their spare time, and their serious business is to serve the gold-swallowing beast——
After getting teeth for vision, after eyesight for height, after getting height for allergies, girls to get rid of acne and prevent obesity, boys also have to choose a good and auspicious day to engage in ring cutting, in all of the above at the same time do not relax in learning and training, if not good, but also engage in children's mental intervention and psychotherapy...
Now raise a baby, it costs money, the key is Fei's mother, always feel that there is a wave of unevenness on the road to the baby, and when consumed on the baby, that is, the east is not bright and the west is bright, there is always a side that makes you tired and want to call your mother.
Yesterday a mother told me that an expert said, "8 out of 10 teenagers are at risk of scoliosis". I said, "What if our babies are one of the two left." "Experts say the other two are already sideways," she said.
Good fellow, listen to Jun's words, everyone bends sideways.
Then according to this trend of this expert, babies who do not have scoliosis in the future can also be regarded as big filial piety.
A few days ago, there was also a mother who said that she envied those of us who did not have to be criticized by teachers all day long, she said that when she became a full-time mother, she found that it was more troublesome than the workplace, and she was sued by teachers from time to time, and she had to interview teachers in different offices every three or five days, and apologized to different parents.
In order to do a good job of "baby relationship", the old mother even has to join the parent committee to diversify her service personality, which is much more difficult than serving bosses and customers.
Then according to the analysis of this mother's distress, the baby who is not sued and criticized by the teacher and does not cause trouble can also be regarded as a big filial piety.
In this way, it seems that the standard of filial piety can be lowered to a new low every day.
This even gives us a new idea, just as when we assume that we are single, it is a surprise to see the child and his father take the initiative to do some housework with the child, so assuming that we have no requirements for the baby, as long as the baby does not add chaos and blockage to us, isn't it filial piety...
Basic health, no grinding problems, great filial piety.
Behavior is basically normal, do not fight and cause trouble, big filial piety.
Etiquette, righteousness and shame are basically online, so as not to let us lose our face, great filial piety.
Learning is basically passable, it does not make us anxious, big filial piety.
If there is such a baby, self-care in kindergarten, self-discipline in primary school, and not rebellious in adolescence, it is a great filial piety.
If it is a natural chicken to save money and effort, health and self-discipline with excellent results, then it is the top filial piety, how much high incense must be burned to have such a baby, don't envy people's good lives, you don't know how many grandmothers helped people cross the road in their previous lives in exchange for raising such a baby in this life...
Looking at it now, what kind of middle-aged talents are the most enviable?
Whether you are a Kochi executive or a high net worth, as soon as the parent-teacher meeting is held, the cards will be reshuffled, and whoever has an excellent baby, who immediately reaches the peak of mom and son, will be the envy of everyone.
Envy that people have a big filial piety.
But have you ever thought about what a new type of good parent looks like?
In ancient times, it was said that "the son does not teach, the father is guilty", but now, if the son does not teach, where to find the father, the teacher even adds the mother's to WeChat.
In contemporary "children do not teach", most of the first to be scolded are mothers, and "children appear" basically mean that mothers have worked hard enough.
You see, the standard of a good father is different nowadays, and the standard of a good mother is even more different.
The entry threshold for a new good father is also very low, as long as he does not drag his mother back, avoid it in time when it is time to avoid, and do not spend too long on the toilet, try not to appear "corpse parenting"... Then such a dad can already be selected as the "new good dad in the community".
And the standard of the new good mother is different, but the threshold is higher - to open the bow left and right, you must be even, you must understand science and reason, you must be emotionally stable, you must be able to flex and stretch, you must be relaxed, you must be kind and kind, you must be strict, you must keep up with the times and strike iron at the same time, you need to be hard...
In short, the threshold for big filial piety and high-quality dads has been lowered, and only the threshold for being a mother is rising year by year.
But that's not a bad thing, evolutionary theory tells us that any species evolves to stand out in brutal competition...
It's just that I can't make up any specific superiority to fool you guys for the time being...
If I had to say one or two, it would probably be a tough heart and the ability to continue cultivating immortals to maintain their own battles.
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