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Text | Sister Yi (Zhou Guiyi) Ye Ziyao
Recently, the new season of Sister Lang's "Riding the Wind 2023" was launched, Xu Huaiyu rowed, and he was on the hot search list for several days.
Earlier, I heard that Xu Huaiyu was coming to ride the wind and waves, and everyone was looking forward to a Wang Xinling-style popularity.
After all, as a former "civilian diva" with classic songs in hand, Xu Huaiyu has stage experience more than many older sisters, and has "memory killing" to provoke, and has a great opportunity to kill a flower road for himself in the "end".
When it was the hottest, an album was released half a year
However, in his first stage performance, Xu Huaiyu's selection and performance were unsatisfactory, and the whole person was stiff and cramped.
At that time, the judge teacher bluntly said that as a singer she was dangerous, not amazing, and there were no highlights.
A song "Split Flight" is slightly difficult to sing, and it is indeed not as good as referring to Wang Xinling's "Love You", choosing "Treading Waves" or "I am a Girl" that is more suitable for the live atmosphere and has a higher degree of singing.
A public troupe, Xu Huaiyu and Jia Jingwen are the only sisters in this five-person group who can sing and dance.
But from the beginning, she was careful to say that she was still very forgetful.
At the performance scene, she was pointed out by the audience that she was in a poor state, and the post-editing of the mango stage could not hide Xu Huaiyu's stage performance: looking at the teleprompter, looking at the teammates around her, unable to remember the action, looking in a trance, unable to invest.
In contrast, Jia Jingwen, who can't sing and dance, worked extremely hard and wanted to complete this performance well.
After the end, Jia Jingwen bluntly said that she was not very satisfied with this performance.
Xu Huaiyu expressed her apologies to the team, although after the hot search fermentation, she did not respond to the matter of paddling.
The agent sent a long article, admitting that Xu Huaiyu's schedule collided with Sister Lang's rehearsal.
During this period, Xu Huaiyu not only had a concert but also ran a commercial performance, so "there is more than enough and insufficient strength".
The same team, 48-year-old Jia Jingwen and 45-year-old Xu Huaiyu, have two polar reputations.
Jia Jingwen, who can't sing and dance but trains hard to perform, although her face is more beautiful than the performance after all, she does not delay to capture people's hearts and passers-by; Xu Huaiyu, who sang and danced for a while, was labeled as undedicated and shouted to quit, don't waste the stage that many sisters have tried hard to get but failed.
Is the difference just because Xu Huaiyu "does not compete"?
Jia Jingwen was born with a golden spoon, her father does catering, her family is well-off, her vision and insight have been available since childhood, and she has enough freedom to do what she likes, including taking Nortel and becoming an actor.
When his father failed to invest in college and suffered from cancer, the rich family turned to film to make money, and at the age of 16, he paid off his father's debts and supported the whole family.
The death of my father was a heavy blow in my life; On the other hand, her acting career ushered in a peak.
"The Legend of Relying on the Sky and Slaying the Dragon" and "Supreme Red Face", let her win the label of "goddess in ancient costume" in the mainland, until now, she is still the best Zhao Min in the hearts of many people.
If Jia Jingwen's native family has only been in hard mode since she was 16 years old, Xu Huaiyu has always been in this model and has never left.
Grandpa prefers sons to what extent? He once sold his two biological daughters to work as prostitutes. Xu Huaiyu's father was cowardly and powerless, and Xu Huaiyu revealed that his grandfather beat her and her mother after drinking heavily.
The mother divorced, remarried, gave birth to twin daughters, and soon divorced again. These four children are all supported by single mothers on a meager wage.
Xu Huaiyu's biological father eventually chose to commit suicide because he could not bear the torture of his father.
In his childhood, Xu Huaiyu was already the happiest thing to be able to live a stable life without moving.
After becoming famous, her grandfather ran out to accuse her of "abandoning the elderly", and she told the painful memories of being abused in those years.
In this matter, you can gain insight into the energy difference that Jia Jingwen and Xu Huaiyu got in their original family.
Although Jia Jingwen also carried the weight forward, she was already big enough to have a relatively mature and stable personality and three views when she was in the middle of the family road.
Before the age of 7, the most important period of personality formation, she accumulated enough happiness and confidence.
Her high energy played a big role in the face of life's mid-life setbacks.
For example, he later took the initiative to cut off the "wealthy marriage" that was outside of gold and jade, even if he had to clean up and leave the house, block his career and other costs; For example, marrying Xiu Jiekai, who is 8 years younger, reorganizes the family and does not care about worldly eyes.
Jia Jingwen has always had the energy to "dare to fight fate".
I remember that she married Xiu Jiekai, and set a goal for herself to run half a horse during the postpartum recovery period, and Xiu Jiekai helped her train at home.
Now nearly 50 years old, she is not afraid to expose her shortcomings, even if she knows that her five tones are incomplete, like a little white rabbit walking into the big forest and confused, but she just believes that the little white rabbit will find its survival mode.
This is actually the thinking of the strong.
In the face of the same program, Xu Huaiyu's attitude is completely different. Before the recording of the show, Xu Huaiyu was interviewed by Taiwan media, and she said that she was afraid that she would lose.
The media asked how she would face it when she heard that this show had to "fight" every week?
Xu Huaiyu said that she would take the route of concession and silently walk away from that kind of herself.
From the current point of view, Xu Huaiyu, who joined Sister Lang, is indeed still wandering, busy with other work and has no time to get along with everyone is one of the reasons, and there is also a big reason, which is her self-isolation or escape.
In the camera, she looks timid and overwhelmed, and in team chats, she will cover up her anxiety by constantly rummaging through her bag and pretending to find something.
Compared with Jia Jingwen's relaxation, Xu Huaiyu has always been nervous, cautious, and vulnerable, and she regards the lack of progress as self-protection, but in fact she is more restrained.
Here I want to talk about another combination, Gong Linna and Mei Yi Liya (Xiaomei), Xiaomei is Japanese, and she is still learning Chinese in the show.
The two do not understand the language, but it does not affect communication, eat, train, chat together, communicate deeply enough, and deliver trust.
Gong Linna confessed that her appearance was anxious and inferior, and she never dared to wear pink clothes because she was "not a beautiful girl".
This "openness" allowed the two to establish an emotional connection across language and collaborate on the stage to produce the amazing "Sea of Flowers".
This tacit understanding is not a victory of personal professionalism, but full trust and delivery of each other, sincerity always has the most moving energy.
Xu Huaiyu's first step was not lost in professionalism, but in mentality.
The second step, the show of Sister Lang has a very different meaning and value for Jia Jingwen and Xu Huaiyu.
Before joining Sister Lang, Jia Jingwen, who returned to the screen, had already won the first Golden Bell Award in her life with "Our Distance from Evil".
In recent years, she has had film and television works every year, whether it is playing her mother in the movie "Waterfall" or playing her daughter in the Taiwanese drama "Mom, Don't Make Trouble", her reputation is good.
"An actress abandoned by a wealthy family", her career has obviously recovered.
She has long established her own industry confidence, and participating in Sister Lang is exposure, trial and experience, and the icing on the cake.
She also has the option to put some work behind and dedicate herself to the show and enjoy the process.
For example, she arranged fitness devil training on her own early, and Liu Genghong praised her.
Her friends Gao Yuanyuan and Su Youpeng both called for her, which shows that participating in the show is a happy journey for her.
And Xu Huaiyu's focus over the years has been busy receiving various commercial performances to repay debts, she has been working but seems to be invisible, that is, the previous refusal to unspoken rules was hidden by the company, and the amount owed by default was too large.
Just a few years ago, when Xu Huaiyu was the most difficult, the roast chicken on the Christmas Eve table was sent by fans; The clothes she wears are donations from some charities.
A person who is desperate to "survive" is really incapable of creating.
In 2022, she resigned Rolling Stone and appeared on the New Year's Eve party, only to have some exposure, but her career is still stuck in the stage of "busy for survival", and she can't talk about planning and taking the initiative.
Participating in Sister Lang is also a brokerage company talking, and she didn't even know about it before.
Before confirming her participation in Sister Lang, she also said in an interview that no matter what, she would focus on the concert first.
At the age of 45, he has long been far away from the golden age of records, Xu Huaiyu is still stuck in the nervous thinking of "making money by opening concerts", and he does not even have the confidence to gamble on an opportunity that may "become popular".
Without intuition and pattern, this is not her choice at this time, but the inertia of choosing too many times before.
Everyone is accusing why Xu Huaiyu doesn't work hard, I don't know to cherish it, what I see is that she really doesn't have the ability to see and receive this gift.
Behind Xu Huaiyu's "paddling" is the essence of a person's life energy, 45 years old, she is a child who has never been truly cured.
She was really miserable.
Since childhood, I have lived in the "I am an outcast girl" mode, and it is difficult to survive as far as the eye can see. Growing up and having a career, he was exploited and accused by his blood-sucking grandfather, and his love was not smooth, and he is still alone.
How can a person who is not really nourished in life, who experiences the joy and satisfaction of life from the heart, give joy and satisfaction to the audience?
It is difficult for people to give what they do not have.
Whether it is "desperate" or "enjoying the process", for Xu Huaiyu, it is too strange and luxurious in life.
I don't want everyone to accuse Xu Huaiyu, it's not that she doesn't want to, maybe she just "can't", just "can't".
And, I hope you understand, what is life energy?
It is unconditional love, a sense of accomplishment, and a sense of security, which are closely related to intimacy and material foundations, and it is a person's essential "ability", not some methodology and skills.
The accidents and ups and downs experienced by everyone are consumption, and the original life energy is like a deposit, and the deposit is greater than the consumption, which is a lucky life.
May everyone see clearly what is most cherished, truly precious, and then, all have a lucky life.