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Text | Sister Yi (Zhou Guiyi) Sister Shan
Anna, in any language, is a beautiful name, representing sweetness, grace, kindness.
In Italy, there is also a little girl named Anna, and every year on her birthday, the family will carefully prepare a "grand" birthday party for her.
Moreover, every birthday, she will receive a birthday gift specially prepared for her by her mother.
Two-year-old, a plush little toy.
Three years old, is a pop-up book.
Four years old, it's a pink study table.
Five years old, a bicycle.
Six years old, is a drawing board.
Seven-year-old, swimming lessons.
Every year on her birthday, Anna is like a fairy tale princess, surrounded by laughter, flowers, gifts, and blessings from friends and family.
But time passed quietly, and Anna no longer liked her mother's gifts.
She looked at the piano sent by her mother, hugged her arms, and pinned her head directly.
When Dad suggested that she join forces with her friend, Anna suddenly pulled down the lid and almost broke her friend's hand.
Why doesn't she like birthdays anymore? The answer was cruel: Anna slowly realized that her mother had died the day she was born.
(Anna, who went to her mother's grave for the first time, did not offer the flower in her hand, but tore it to pieces)
The above clip comes from the Italian movie "Mom's Gift", which is called the Italian version of "Hello, Li Huanying".
It is the softest and most powerful tear gas in recent theatrical movies.
Anna grew up living with the lie that "mom went on a business trip".
After a long wait, she didn't wait for her mother to come home, but she gradually understood that her birthday was her mother's festival.
Without the company of my mother, the lively birthday party is just to cover up and cover up the fragmentation of this family.
One night before her eighteenth birthday, Anna, who was at the cusp of adolescence, completely exploded.
She had a big fight with her father, burst into foul language at guests, rushed out of the house, hitched a ride on a strange man's car, ran away from home... Get ready to end this "shit of opening gifts every year."
But after an accident, time travels, and Anna and her mother Alyssa meet.
Go back in time to 2002, the day mom was pregnant. Anna couldn't believe it, and her first reaction was to dodge.
She locked herself in the bathroom, but couldn't help but pick up her mother's perfume, necklace, dressing gown, and breathe wildly.
Mom wants to throw away the old clothes, and she persuades her to stay and treat them as treasures.
Alisa's apple pie, the first time she ate it, she liked it.
Seeing her parents appear at the same time at the stove at home, she was very nervous. It wasn't embarrassment from strangers, but novelty and happiness that had never been felt before.
Before she saw her mother, she hated her mother's gift, and hated her mother even more.
But the moment I actually saw my mother, those feelings of disgust all disappeared.
In order to stay with Alyssa, Anna lied that her mother was hospitalized with cancer and that her father was now homeless in South Africa.
She wants to return all the maternal love that has been missing for eighteen years, and she will not leave Alyssa an inch.
And in the face of this strange girl who suddenly broke in, Alisa, who has always been independent, also seemed a little uncomfortable.
But the sense of connection between a child and his mother is the greatest magic in the human world.
Obviously I don't like strangers staying overnight, but I can't stand her stalking.
The two had a big fight, but Alyssa still accompanied Anna to buy food.
That night of her stay at the hotel, Anna pretended to be asleep, and then rolled over and plunged into Alyssa's arms, she was at a loss, but she couldn't hide the happiness on her face.
The most hidden dark line in the film is that the mother obviously does not know her daughter, but the relationship between the two is extremely natural and real, and "my mother's daily life is staged all the time".
They talk about their love lives like best friends and change their shoes like sisters.
Seeing Anna hurt, Mom's heart hurts.
Anna climbed to a high place, and when her mother took a look, she would be scared and forced her to come down immediately. It was a knee-jerk physical reaction, and even scientists were amazed at its magic.
After realizing that the relationship with her mother was about to end, Anna, who was always "cold", threw herself into Alisa's arms.
But they occasionally stir their mouths, after all, there is really no daughter in the world who does not quarrel with her mother.
Alyssa insisted on sending her away, and although Anna didn't say a word, she closed the car door heavily, and the screen was full of "unhappy".
In the face of Anna's vexatious teasing in the middle of the night, Alyssa will firmly say "no".
The two choose gifts together, Alyssa likes the piano, but Anna wants to choose a drum kit.
When she learned that Anna was not working well, Alyssa even gave her a slap in the face.
Anna cherishes the time she spends with her mother, but she can't help but be capricious from time to time.
Alyssa does not agree with many of Anna's views, but she always invisibly shows her motherly care and concern for Anna.
The whole world can understand that they are mother and daughter, but only Alyssa does not know, after all, the child has not yet been born, and suddenly an eighteen-year-old girl comes to this thing, I really dare not think about it.
I see this time travel as a two-way rush of mother and daughter, a long confession through time and space and life and death.
In this time and space, the biggest wound in Anna's heart-
Why would a mother give gifts that are outdated and not to her liking? Why is he absent from his life? It was also completely torn apart.
It turned out that the mother did not go on a business trip, but because during the prenatal examination, she found out that she had a malignant tumor.
The joy of motherhood and the sorrow of death hit her at the same time, two extreme forces converged in the body, and between ordinary people and the identity of mother, she chose to be a mother.
The bad news came suddenly, and what she wanted to confirm most was not how long she would live, but: "Can I see my daughter?" ”
Every time she talks about her daughter, Alisa's heart is full of expectation-
Inherit your own blonde hair;
Eyes should be like daddy;
The personality is better to be optimistic and positive, it is better to be strong inside, and the most important thing is to have inner beauty...
And those stupid and outdated gifts are the "mother's love" sent by the mother who did her best and burned the last light for her daughter.
The mother raced against time to choose eighteen gifts for her daughter and accompanied Anna in this way until she became an adult.
It is very interesting that many of Mom's gifts were Anna's ideas.
The gift of swimming lessons when she was seven years old was bought by Alyssa after seeing how Anna was swimming.
The process of choosing gifts with her mother is a reconciliation between Anna and her native family.
Anna hated the piano, but seeing her mother's expression when she touched the keys in the piano shop, she suddenly understood the gift, and after returning to real life, she even ran over and played it.
She read her father's responsibility, he obviously can't let go of his wife's death, but he will still pretend to be happy and celebrate Anna's birthday.
Just because that's what Alyssa wants to see. Just because, he's a dad.
There is a scene in the film where Anna dives into the water, kisses her mother's big belly, and says hello to her unborn self.
At that moment, my tears blurred.
Anna has so much hate, but the core of those hatreds is actually unable to forgive herself.
It turned out that he was born without killing his mother. It turned out that her mother was so looking forward to her arrival, and she was the last time of her mother's life, a shining light illuminated her gray end.
Anna, is the best gift that fate arranged for her mother.
In an interview, Professor Dai Jinhua once talked about the mother-daughter relationship, she directly admitted that "I don't want to be my mother", but she ended up with her mother for 33 years.
The moment her mother left, she suddenly found that she had lost all her identity, no longer a daughter, no longer a person who lived under the weight of love, the bond of love, and the bond of love, so she felt lost.
In my opinion, the relationship between mother and daughter, if it must be described in one word, must be "bond", not "intimacy".
In "Mom's Gift", Anna and Alyssa are not the ideal mother or daughter in each other's eyes.
Beautiful, kind, and forbearing, Alyssa is the benchmark for almost all traditional women.
At the end of her life, she insisted on working and finding work for strangers;
When her husband has a competition, he will hide his illness, just to take care of the overall situation. The day she learned she had cancer, she threw her medical records into a drawer.
She never bothered others, even if pregnancy and cancer came at the same time, she still insisted that "I can".
Anna didn't want to be Alyssa, she was too tight, too tired, so stressful, but she could never show it.
She prefers to see her mother's relaxed smile more than a perfect mom.
The ordinary mom who fried apple slices with her was the best mom.
I don't want to be a mom, not because I don't love my mom, but because I love it too much.
Her mother's hardships and pain, she empathized, and lived the opposite.
The mother is a reference for the daughter, and on the long road of life, she became the person who first waded across the river, so that she could live her daughter.
What about Anna? Alyssa would never have thought that when her daughter grew up, she would smoke, drink, be frightened, run away from home...
Even her appearance is not what she imagined, but they are still attached to each other and constantly thinking about each other.
The most tear-jerking scene in the film is when the mother lies on the operating table, temporarily asks for paper and pens, and writes a letter to her daughter, she bursts into tears, and her expression is full of joy.
The sad thing is that life is coming to an end, and the joy is that the daughter is about to be born.
The moment she picked up the pen, she wrote: Dear Anna.
Her mother recognized her and accepted her more gladly—a daughter who was almost the exact opposite of what she had imagined.
It is worth mentioning that "Mom's Gift" is based on a true story.
In today's abundant materials, gifts are no longer rare, but after watching the movie, we understand better how much Alisa's gift is.
She carries her mother's love, and also interprets her mother's efforts in the face of illness.
I heard that God can't be everywhere, so I created Mom. Mother's Day is coming, and all the tender blessings are less than one thirty-thousandth of our love for our mothers.
I really recommend that everyone take their mother and take their children to the theater to see "Mom's Gift", it is a two-way confession, a precious gift for us to understand our mother and become a mother.