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The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

I can't count the first time Zhong Liti has cried on the hot search.

Once she suddenly burst into tears in the live broadcast room in the middle of bringing goods, which caused marriage change questions, so netizens ran to denounce Zhang Lunshuo.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

It is conceivable that the next netizens became unlucky eggs who persuaded their girlfriends to break up.

The next day, the couple responded to Lian Mai again, called the staff again for verification, and were busy clarifying to the public.

Co-authorship is another salty turnip to worry about.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

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In fact, the rumors of the marriage of these two have long become a menstrual post in your circle.

More worried about Chung Liti than their marriage.

Once worshipped as a goddess, now she has become a noisy Internet celebrity who shouts "9 blocks 9 on the link" in the live broadcast room, and she also tears on the spot from time to time.

She obviously has the capital to live a better life, why is she more and more screwed up the more she lives?

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

If you put aside love, Zhong Liti is actually a "sister".

I still remember the sentence she said when she participated in the show after her divorce, "I have never relied on a man since I was a child", which was Zhang Yuqi's "sister learning" declaration that she would shake hands madly when she listened.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Source|"The Queen's Secret"

Because of her strict tutoring, Zhong Liti longed for independence since she was a child, and even if her family was good, she came out to work at the age of 16.

At the age of 22, he signed a contract with TVB after winning the crown in Miss Chinese International, and then came to Hong Kong from Canada alone to start a life in Hong Kong.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Compared with the Hong Kong stars who worked per capita in the 90s, there were not many works starring Zhong Liti at that time, but she opened her recognition early at the beginning of her debut - with the mermaid king Xiaomei in "The Legend of the Mermaid", she laid down her classic screen image.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

In the later movies, even if there are not many shots, it really amazes a generation.

But just as Zhang Yuqi is always ridiculed that "although my sister is good, it is a pity that she has a 'love brain'", Zhong Liti's need for intimacy is much greater than Zhang Yuqi.

She herself said that when she entered the industry, everyone knew that she only wanted love and did not support her family for money.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Source|《Star Reception Room》

So when her career was in full swing, she and her Belgian boyfriend, who had only known each other for more than a month, flashed marriage and became pregnant... A year later, he flashed away.

Although the second marriage lasted for 11 years, it ended again due to differences in reality and the pressure of public opinion that "women are strong and men are weak".

But even though such a "self-destructive future" choice is puzzling, the public's appreciation for Zhong Liti still overshadows the complaint.

Because during this period, she was a single mother who pulled her three daughters while engaging in her career, and she was still featured in mainland programs as "Lotte Mother", decent and free, still quite a "big woman" style.

People found that Zhong Liti, who had survived two disasters in her marriage, not only never said that her predecessor was not, but also had a naïve optimism and believed in "what you want to do".

What do you think will happen:

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Source|《Very Quiet Distance》

Even if the marriage has repeatedly failed, I want to use my own experience to give mature women the confidence to bravely pursue love.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

The public has always liked to see the "big woman" narrative.

But at this time, Zhong Liti slammed the steering wheel again and entered marriage for the third time.

And under the magnification of the lens, people can see her "little woman" side more intuitively.

It's not that the two are better or worse, but when the public's perspective changes from looking up to looking down, there is a little pity.

In the show where Zhong Liti and Zhang Lunshuo got married, Zhang Lunshuo played a game and spelled the wrong puzzle, and Zhong Liti not only did not debunk it in person but also encouraged him vigorously in order to take care of his face.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Source|"If Love"

At that time, everyone praised her: my sister's emotional intelligence is so high.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

It was also to give Zhang Lunshuo a round, but now everyone only tasted Zhong Liti's humble posture and dilemma.

Especially when the tearful Zhong Liti and the angry Zhang Lunshuo are in the same frame, the woman's sense of humility and vulnerability is even more overwhelming.

Once a live broadcast fan brushed a gift to Zhong Liti, she was so excited that she blurted out "After so many years, someone finally spoiled me".

Unexpectedly, because of this unintentional words of the speaker, he was questioned about the unhappy marriage, Zhang Lunshuo was angry on the spot, Zhong Liti had to explain to the audience while wiping her tears, and did not forget to calm Zhang Lunshuo's emotions.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

What is even more obvious is that this marriage has given the public too much a sense of division.

In many scenes of husband and wife, the two love high-profile.

But at the same time, all kinds of details have been exposed.

Zhong Liti once took the physiological period as an example, revealing that Zhang Lunshuo's attitude on this matter before and after marriage changed 180 degrees, and was surprised by his true face of "chasing his hand and not cherishing it".

Later, she cried several times in the live broadcast room, saying that she was a woman immersed in love, and it is not surprising that there are always people who do not believe it.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Perhaps it should be admitted that Zhong Liti is not as powerful as we and herself think.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Zhong Liti's "sister taste" seems to be limited.

Strong when fighting alone, but once she enters an intimate relationship, she is not aggressive externally, and her internal support is not enough, so she often has to seek support from the outside.

There's an interesting change in her.

After the second marriage and divorce, she had publicly stated that she used to dislike the machismo of her other half, but now she accepted it gladly.

The reason is that now I am tired of taking care of others, and I also need to be taken care of.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Source|《Star Reception Room》

On the surface, Zhong Liti has been boldly pursuing love, but in fact, it is because of her extreme insecurity.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Source|《Star Reception Room》

She also admits that her family concept is more traditional, and she always believes that this lack of security should be made up for by love.

So even though she already knew many big-name friends and gradually gained a foothold in Hong Kong, she still chose flash marriage because of loneliness.

In her opinion, love can make her stronger, family is her energy charging station, and having children can provide herself with motivation and balance in life for only 10 months.

Facing the desire to love is actually a kind of courage for women.

But desire becomes attachment, and it's easy to lose yourself.

For example, in the later part of the second paragraph, Zhong Liti is already holding on to the belief that "I have already failed once, I must persevere".

It was until the moment when he was powerless to continue that he plucked up the courage to choose to separate.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Source|《Very Quiet Distance》

Until now, it is not difficult to find that Zhong Liti gradually became flattering and compromised, and began to play the role of "good wife" and "good daughter-in-law".

Especially her bitter deeds of bent desire for a child - not only more than once patted her mother-in-law on the chest and promised.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Later, he went to Putuo Mountain to ask for a son, and he frowned and ate scorpions.

Hearing that "The Venus Show" had a "good pregnancy chair", she went straight there in her pajamas.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Source|"Venus Show"

Besides, why is it that whenever there is a conflict between husband and wife, Zhong Liti is always the distressed party?

Because it's easy to spot her almost reflexive weakness.

Sensing Zhang Lunshuo's displeasure, she coaxed softly;

Realizing her mistake, she immediately apologized coquettishly;

Even if Zhang Lunshuo was so angry that she was wronged, she could quickly sort out her emotions and take the lead in breaking the ice.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Source|"My Favorite Women"

It is she who craves emotional value, but it is she who is finally squeezed out for emotional value.

Chung said the first two marriages were like college.

But she came to this strange conclusion: women need to learn to converge on the edge.

"Maybe I was too strong or not patient enough before, or I didn't know how to give face to men, you are a god in front of my friends, and I won't know anything."

And in order to maintain the ideal harmony and perfection, over time it becomes a continuous self-proof of happiness.

Let's not talk about those businesses in front of the camera.

Xu is married for many years and still failed to make a baby, Zhong Liti curries favor with her mother-in-law, but she uses a little too much force.

The outside world always rumored that the relationship between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was tense, and she later asked her mother-in-law to cooperate with the business.

On the short video platform, he arranged a play that first let Zhang Lunshuo eat mushrooms as a guinea pig to test poison, and then give himself a pet daughter-in-law drama.

The most embarrassing thing is not Zhong Liti's loss and excesses in middle age.

But the longer a woman lives, the more she lives for others.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

But now the couple's "self-proven happiness" is falling into an endless cycle.

Let's start with Zhang Lunshuo.

I don't think he doesn't love Zhong Liti, but he always takes the outside world more seriously.

Every time Litti wept, his approach was not so much a response as a rush to clear himself.

"Don't think that my sister is provoked by me, not me."

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Zhong Liti cried, and he begged her.

"Next time you are aggrieved, please tell why you are aggrieved, okay, thank you!"

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Compared to caring about what grievances Zhong Liti has suffered, his image seems to be more important.

For example, if she doesn't like being called Little White Face, she moves out of her entire savings to buy a six-carat diamond ring to prove that she didn't spend her money.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

can be compared with Zhang Jin, who has also been ridiculed as a "soft rice man" for many years.

Even though Zhang Lunshuo clarified countless times, it was the difficult enemy Zhang Jin's response with a high emotional intelligence of one enemy and ten thousand, and it came loudly.

"Some people say that I will rely on her in this life, and I can tell everyone, yes, my happiness in this life depends on her."

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Any intimate relationship requires mutual compromise.

And Zhang Lunshuo, who is too large in self, laid a bad foundation for this marriage from the beginning.

However, as a "weak person", Zhong Liti has no problem at all?

Nor is it.

Her most typical problem is her habit of avoiding conflict.

The cheerful atmosphere in her personality, if the occasion is not right, it is covering up the contradiction, and it is even more insincere.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Source|"My Favorite Women"

For example, the camera covering incident that was scolded out of the circle in the previous show.

Zhang Lunshuo asked Zhong Liti to help remove the camera, and in order to avoid quarrels, she agreed immediately, but she did not leave.

But as Zhihu respondent @ psychological counselor Lu Yue said, this avoidance is actually a passive attack.

On the surface, she is well-behaved and obedient, but in fact she has attacked the other party, but from the outside, it has solidified her humble impression.

So I returned to the situation at the beginning, falling into the endless cycle of continuing to prove self-happiness.

As for why she proves her happiness?

Whether it is true love or the binding of common interests, we outsiders do not know.

The only thing that can be known is that the more Zhong Liti looks for self-esteem for her family, the more she loses self-esteem; The more she hopes for a consummated marriage, the lonelier she becomes.

Because the decision on the relationship was never in her hands.

In the eyes of outsiders, blindly proving oneself can not block the mouth of Yoyo, but the harder you try, the more sad it is.

Of course, since being married for 8 years, Zhong Liti may have ingested what she wants in this relationship, whether it is love or energy, she must have gained something because she can last so long.

But after being demoted to a little woman, her palm also shrunk, and everything she instinctively controlled began to get close to getting out of control.

Zhong Liti is twisted, she longs for sincere love, but in order to maintain this safe haven, she has always been contrary to "sincerity".

At the end of the day, it's a manifestation of perfectionism.

In the past, he was too demanding of himself, and he could become a strong and independent Zhong Liti.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

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But in essence, in a chicken feather marriage, the pursuit of perfection will only lead to self-consumption.

To give an example that may not be appropriate, after all, Gu Jia's perfect wife will also be consumed and unaware.

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

Source|《Thirty Only》

Zhong Liti's marital dilemma is a woman's confusion between "big" and "small".

She thought she was giving her heart to love, but in fact she couldn't hide her desire to control everything. While playing a meek little woman, on the other hand, she is like a big heroine, unwilling to live on any side of her life out of control.

But perfectionism is a goal, not a realm, and who can really reach it?

An important lesson for women is precisely to recognize their own nature.

Sometimes you have to allow life to go in a direction you don't want to.

We are not small enough to condescend to anyone, nor great enough to single-handedly save a broken life.

Sometimes you have to let it fall for a while before you can see where you're headed.

Whether it's good or bad, gathering or dispersing, let yourself have a little courage to "go with it".

The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband
The goddess of yesteryear became a noisy Internet celebrity? The whole network is feeling sorry for her, except for her husband

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