Time flies so fast... Unknowingly, a full year has passed since Son Ye-jin and Hyun Bin's century wedding.
Sun Xian also updated a wave of anniversary photos on the anniversary day, showing a wave of affection.
Speaking of which, since marriage, the two have become more and more low-key, especially Sun Xian, who has significantly reduced more activity exposure.
But even so, the marriage of the double top is inevitably paid special attention by the outside world.
Even the change in the appearance of the two can become divorce, gambling debt, husband and wife discord... and other rumors.
But adults want to say, please, Sun Xian and Hyun Bin are both 41 years old.
Plus getting pregnant and having children after marriage, and then raising children together... Even the immortals must be tired, right?
But interestingly, in South Korea, where marriage and children are generally no longer allowed.
Hyun Bin and Son Ye-jin's choice of marriage and childbirth has actually become a role model for South Korea...
You know, South Korea has just updated the world's lowest fertility rate.
And in order to encourage childbearing, some experts have proposed a policy that giving birth to three children can exempt a man from enlistment... (Genius idea...
Of course, in terms of fertility, our other neighbor Japan is similar.
The total population in 2022 was 644,000 fewer than in October 2020, and the birth rate of newborns also fell to the bottom.
The low rate of 1.34 even made Musk, who was dedicated to studying the sky, take time to care about Japan: "No matter how low the birth rate is, Japan will be gone!" ”
In this regard, the mainland has also suffered similar problems in recent years.
According to data released by the Shanghai Health Commission, the total fertility rate of Shanghai last year was 0.7...
This data not only hit a record low in Shanghai, but also the lowest fertility level in the country.
The eldest brother does not mention the second brother, Beijing is also the bottom hot girl in this regard, and the total regional fertility rate is less than 0.9.
It can be said that the two most developed super-first-tier cities in our country have properly integrated with the world in terms of "having children".
Such data naturally caused heated discussions, and "independent women" once became the back-pot man and became synonymous with "selfishness".
Not only criticized as: evading social responsibility, but also immature adults.
There are even experts who say nonsense about "low fertility rate is because there are too many highly educated women"...
But one thing to say, adults think that about childbirth, contemporary young people are quite positive...
Especially in terms of mentality adjustment, post-85 and 90s parents have turned the matter of childbirth from a serious topic of "life must option" into a lifestyle that can be chosen.
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"Rotten" post-90s parents
Bad things mean that things can no longer develop in a good direction, so they simply no longer take measures to control them, but let them continue to develop in a bad direction.
And rotten parenting is, the child cries and cries, and the attitude of parents is:
You love it.
In public, in front of the child, he fell to the ground, lying on the ground and rolling around.
The older generation will subconsciously feel sorry for the baby, and quickly drag the child to hug it, and the child's various small requests are unconditionally agreed.
But today's parents are: Anything I take care of, it's disrespectful to myself when I was a child.
The child is still lying on the ground, and the new generation of parents will take pictures, especially calmly update the pyq material...
Some parents even make a big move: Who is not a baby yet? You lie and I lie.
In fact, this is no longer an isolated case.
Many netizens in the comment area have left messages to share their onlookers.
Of course, such a parenting style is supported by some people and criticized.
Netizens who support this believe that once they choose to "admit defeat", the child will not become obedient after being satisfied, but will become more and more willful, and will splash and roll at every turn to achieve his own goals.
The opponents believe that in the face of children's crying, parents are very irresponsible and unworthy of being parents.
Whether this kind of "rotten" education is "right" or "wrong" may be verified in the future.
But this realistic example of reversing the fertility rate due to a change in the "parenting mentality" has really happened to the Nordics who have been experiencing negative population growth in the past two years.
Since the second half of 2021, the Nordic countries have ushered in an unusual wave of baby booms.
Iceland's birth rate is 16.5 per cent higher than usual, and Finland and Norway have 7 per cent and 5 per cent higher birth rates, respectively.
Let's not mention the government's economic and policy support, after all, this has been practiced for many years.
In addition to the lack of leisure during the epidemic, the relaxed mentality of young parents is definitely an important factor.
For example, swimming lessons in 2022 to train babies to perform acrobatics in the water suddenly sprang up...
Not only does it lead to the coach of the class not being able to make an appointment... The parents who have learned to fly in the water also make the pool often full.
A mother named Hanne on Tiktok said that parenting and enjoying life never conflict.
Want to ski? Then just take it with you...
Of course, these things are not necessarily true.
But to some extent, it confirms that fertility intentions have never been housing prices, living costs, birth damage... A single factor influences a decision.
Many other countries with better hardware, such as Singapore, which has a similar culture to us, have very similar fertility rates.
Even though the government has been paying money for having children since 2001, after 20 years, the fertility rate has not returned in 2020, falling to a minimum of 1.1.
And even if the software and hardware are done well, such as Finland, Sweden parental leave adds up to 480 days, and even as long as you give birth, there is a subsidy.
But even so, their fertility rate is less than 2.1 of the replacement rate.
The deeper reason that hinders young people may still be the fear of childbearing, making themselves no longer themselves, and afraid that they will never be good enough mothers.
Today's "rotten parenting" may not only be an exploration of the new generation of parents in the way of education.
It is also a kind of self-liberation in the pressure of parenting.
Adults say this today, not to encourage students to be born or not ha~
It's just that this matter has a broader perspective to consider, and it is indeed more important than most life choices, and it needs to be more prudent and rationalized.
If you are not ready, do not rush to become a parent, first consider yourself your own child, love yourself well, and enjoy your life.
If it is only due to mental and economic pressure, we can actually return to reality and see how ordinary people can live a good life.
Okay, let's stop here today.
In fact, in the end, adults are also curious, what does everyone think about this topic? Or, if you are a parent, what kind of parent do you want to be?