Text | Rice grain mother
This article that Rice Mother is going to write today may subvert this romantic love story: remember the fairy love of the Bhutanese royal family, when the king fell in love at first sight with the queen, who was still a little girl, when he was 17 years old.
This story actually... Overturned.
Beautiful Bhutan, covered in snow all year round.
It's like a hideaway and one of the very few countries in the world that charges the lowest spend for foreign visitors.
Snow, monasteries, towering Himalayas... Tony Leung and Carina Lau held their wedding here.
However, this beautiful country practices "polygamy", and the old king Singh has four wives.
At that time, the old king was ordered to be put on the throne at the age of 17, and in order to consolidate his position, win over his own forces, and marry the granddaughter of the richest man in the country, it was in his best interests to marry.
However, the richest man has four granddaughters under his knees. Worried that the other granddaughters would be married away by political enemies and pose a threat to himself, the old king simply married all four granddaughters back home in one go.
This matter is extremely explosive no matter what era it is placed in, the old king did consolidate his position, but this determined that the future queen would have four mothers-in-law...
In order to show fairness, he built palaces for each of the four people and let them enjoy the same treatment.
Therefore, there has not been any palace fighting drama in the harem, and it is harmonious and happy.
However, the eldest prince Kesar broke this system of "polygamy" and promised to marry only one person for life, and this person was Jizeng Pema.
Bhutan's "one life and one couple" love fairy tale has been circulating all over the world, it satisfies all girls' fantasies about love, and the plot of the novel is properly reflected into reality.
At that time, 17-year-old Kesar knelt on one knee and proposed to 7-year-old Pema Jr.:
"When you grow up, if you are not married, and I am not married, will you be my wife?"
But is this really the case? Recently, this love myth has been reversed, and this matter has to start from the beginning.
Life is just like the first sight
The love fairy tale of the great prince of Bhutan is not the "gossip" that people circulate in the market. That is the content of the memoirs officially released by the royal palace of Bhutan.
Seven-year-old Pema went with her family to the old king's banquet, because the banquet room was too boring, she ran out to play in the courtyard by herself.
Little Pema can sing and dance well, and has a lot of fun, so she hums and dances at the same time. This scene was seen by the eldest prince Kaisar, and he immediately fell in love with Pema at first sight.
This scene is familiar, right? Instantly let the rice grain mother make up a lot of love scenes at first sight, and there are many shapes in film and television dramas, that is, the kind of scene with pink bubbles floating all over the screen, I won't give everyone a list.
The two men completed their studies, and Kesar was sent abroad as heir to the throne, earning degrees from Boston University and Oxford University.
At the age of 9, Pema went to India on her own, completed her monastic studies, and then went to England to complete her university studies.
Pema, who grew up, turned into a very attractive oriental beauty. She is proficient in three Chinese languages and has outstanding abilities.
At that time, Kesar had become the king of Bhutan, and because he was ten years older than Pema, he had long reached the marriageable age. The royal family often had rumors of marriage urging, but he waited until Pema was an adult to fulfill his childhood vows.
On 20 May 2011, King Kesar of Bhutan married his queen Pema and promised not to accept any other princesses.
Trapped in this sweet love fairy tale, Pema must be bursting with happiness. After marriage, they were like glue, and Pema gave birth to two little princes, one side is a beautiful queen, the other is a gentle wife and mother, a proper high-end version of life winner.
Pema not only served as the manager of the Bhutan Red Cross, but also became an ambassador for UN Environment.
For child welfare and medical care in Bhutan, she often conducts field trips and hands-on, and in order to implement her work, she has organized and built a number of medical and related welfare institutions in the local area.
Even at diplomatic events with the king's husband, Pema dresses up in her own unique costume to bring Bhutanese culture to the world.
Fairy tales are all lies
Because of her excellent diplomatic skills and gentle appearance, Pema's influence has become more and more influential, and many people call her "Oriental Kate" and "the most beautiful commoner queen".
But this propaganda is obviously exaggerated, because Pema's "civilian" nature does not stand up to scrutiny.
When I first met at the banquet that year, Pema, a 7-year-old girl, was able to attend, which definitely showed that her family was either rich or noble, and it was most likely the royal family and state relatives.
Sure enough, Pema's father was a pilot, and he was the half-brother of Queen II of Bhutan.
And her mother was once a royal goddaughter and also had a pivotal position in the royal family.
It can be seen that the title of "commoner princess" is a bit of a packaging component.
Falling in love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families. The marriage of the royal family is mixed with the entanglement of various forces, and the love honey of the king and queen in the news release is mixed with oil, in fact?
The media only reported that the king and queen "lived happily ever after", but in fact, King Kesar had several girlfriends before he got married, and there were both small family jasper types and charming and sexy types, in short, they were completely unrelated to the affectionate character he created.
It is normal to have emotional experiences, but the king's girlfriends also have a lot of origins.
It is said that Kesar once dated a Chinese girlfriend in Hong Kong, and the two were at the point of talking about marriage, but they were broken up by family intervention.
The reason is simple, as a religious country of Bhutan, the royal family cannot accept that the woman of the future king is a girl who behaves too openly.
Even so, the girl did not really let go because Kaisar had married Pema, on the contrary, she actually made public the private photos of the two after Pema gave birth to Erbao.
Not only that, there are rumors that when Kesar and his Chinese girlfriend could not get married, he began to pursue Pema's cousin, but the national master said that the two did not match, if you want to marry the woman of the Pema family, it is better to choose Pema. (You are also tired as a king, and you have to look at eight characters when you get married)
So now looking back at the beautiful story of "when you grow up, it's good to marry me" created by the media back then, it's a bit untenable.
If you want to wear a crown, you must bear its weight
Recently, Pema's expression when she attended the event was obviously much more indifferent, and from the photos taken by the media, the happy smile on her face disappeared, and the light in her eyes dimmed away.
This reminds me of Kobe's wife, Vanessa, whose eyes shine with happiness every time she attends an event. When Kobe Bryant died, her whole person was gray and her eyes were dim.
Because the old king had four wives and his status was almost equal, for Pema, it was equivalent to having four mothers-in-law.
The daughter-in-law of the imperial family is tired enough to deal with one mother-in-law, and Pema has to deal with four mothers-in-law, how tired it is, you can imagine.
After marriage, Pema actually has no plans to give birth right away, but as a queen, she is destined to be unable to do whatever she wants, and the urging of the four mothers-in-law in turn is like a mountain, giving Pema a full sense of oppression.
This reminds Migrain Mama of a movie I like very much: "Peerless Queen". The jewelry and costumes in the film are really amazing, and the magnificent Queen Mary is definitely synonymous with "luxury and lewdness".
And since the first day she married into the French royal family, she has been urged to give birth, otherwise she is a big disobedience, unable to complete her mission as a queen, and will be spurned.
It is also this suffocating sense of oppression that makes her more and more towards vengeful pleasure.
Like Queen Mary's in-laws, Pema's four mothers-in-law took turns to pick on Pema, forcing her to reproduce and complete the royal mission, and Pema was under four pressures until the crown prince was born, and the tug-of-war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law came to an end.
When the crown prince was born, Pema had just given birth and before her body had recovered, she was arranged to attend the canonization ceremony of the child. At the canonization scene, no one cared about her hero, and everyone was rushing to hold the crown prince.
The Empress Dowager hugged Sun Xinxin and forced Pema out of the camera.
At a grand event, only Kesar walked the red carpet with his young son in his arms, and Pema was squeezed out of the red carpet.
Careful netizens even found that on Pema's 32nd birthday, Kesar did not accompany her to celebrate her, and the royal family did not hold a birthday party for her, but only officially released a photo as a blessing, which is a little too sloppy for the queen.
Moreover, Pema's most cherished precious jade inlaid gold and jade crown was the first wedding gift her husband gave her.
Not long ago, she actually lent it to the fifth princess to wear when she got married, and the fifth princess was Kesar's half-sister.
This move seems to be very intriguing.
In fact, the second princess Sonan, the old king's favorite one, is the most statusable. Although Pema is the queen, she must also be careful in the face of Sonam.
The crowns and jewelry that Pema often wears on important occasions are not actually her own, but under Sonam's name, she enjoys the permanent right to use most of the jewels of the royal family.
In other words, if Pema wants to use the crown and jewelry, she has to borrow from the princess, which can be said to be quite without initiative.
After this, there were fewer and fewer photos of the two participating in official activities at the same time, and Kesar preferred to be accompanied by his brother rather than his wife.
The moment the pink bubble of love burst, Pema must have experienced the struggle and heartache of tossing and turning. Otherwise, there would be no such bleak eyes that could not be concealed.
If you want to wear a crown, you must bear its weight, and as a queen, you are faced with the trade-offs of the pillow person.
The so-called love fairy tale is just officially released for people to see, and Mi Granny even feels that the more positive the publicity, the less necessarily true, after all, the years are not at all "show", but like people drinking water, cold and warm self-awareness.
The most ruthless imperial family, there are no exceptions at all. The royal life, as a queen, also has to face a chicken feather life: the family has four mothers-in-law, usually busy with official duties, must always maintain an image, but also face the king's husband's ex-girlfriend who pops up from time to time...
Beneath these appearances is a game of interests of all forces. It can be imagined that the pressure Pema is under is certainly not something that ordinary people can bear.
The queens of different countries, different colors, and different races are all exhausted in the palace fight. Behind their beautiful faces, they all have a heart of seven tricks.
Because the royal family is destined to be a place of deep power, every seemingly dignified and decent queen has unknown emotional intelligence and means behind the "motherly world".
Remember the bloody gossip of the Thai royal family: "The Thai Royal Family "The Legend of Zhen Huan": The queen's palace fight won, the noble princess was degraded and re-favored, I am so glad that she was born free", Princess Shinina is a copy of Zhen Huan, once favored the sixth palace, and once demoted to prison. And the dignified and righteous queen, seemingly gentle and harmless, is actually a top palace fighting player with clever means.
There is also the British royal family's "commoner princess" Kate, who is increasingly recognized by the public because of her outstanding ability, but the efforts and calculations behind her are only known best by the parties and the people within the royal family.
As for the true love painting style of "Mountain Alliance Sea Oath", who doesn't? Princess Kate and Prince William also had a love story of "the prince falls in love with Cinderella" at the beginning. But then the prince cheated and the painting style of chicken feathers in one place is also obvious to all.
Royal life is far more complicated than we think. The love packaged by the royal family is really good to see.
Rice grain mother is very afraid of girls who believe in romantic love fairy tales, and after watching more such stories, they really fall into the fantasy of pink bubbles.
In fact, in real life, there will not be a prince wearing a golden armor holy robe to come to you.
The reality is that the Queen of Bhutan herself is not a commoner, although her life in the royal family is not so good, but she always has the support of the family behind her to stand firm enough.
The romantic colors added to the body are just the confidence brought to themselves by the already prominent family under the blessing of the noble status.
If the rice mother has a daughter, she will definitely let her watch less love fairy tales such as mermaids and snow white from a young age, and don't wait for others to save herself. The fate of the girl must be firmly in her own hands. Don't have a self-sacrifice complex, in the trough, you need to have courage and resourcefulness and deal with fate!
Just look at the royal gossip, life is not a fairy tale, it is still necessary to live every day down-to-earth.
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