Is this full-time son and daughter filial piety, or a new type of gnawing at the elderly?

The term "full-time sons and daughters", which has recently begun to become popular on the Internet -

"A new type of off-the-job lifestyle refers to young people living with their parents and paying a certain amount of labor in exchange for financial support, while maintaining their studies, trying to find career goals, and going ashore for public examinations."

At the moment when young people's "involution culture" is all the rage, many people have begun to argue: is it filial piety or a new type of gnawing at the old?

Let's look at the group data first,

In 2022, mainland college graduates exceeded the 10 million mark for the first time, reaching 10.76 million.

In the past two years, due to the influence of social factors, the job establishment of enterprises has been compressed, the employment situation has declined, and many college students have been stopped before facing severe beatings by society.

In the first half of 2022, 7.83 million new jobs were created in cities and towns across the country, with an unemployment rate of 5.4%, of which the unemployment rate of the population survey aged 16~24 was as high as 19.9% respectively.

The factors of unemployment rate are only one of them, fear of rapid social rhythm, fear of high-pressure elimination of enterprises, do not want to engage in careers and just want to lie flat, career transition and so on...

It is the reason why many young people prefer to sacrifice some self-space to live with or even work for their parents.

Is this tempting job really that happy?

"I found a perfect career, including food and housing, and five insurances and one housing fund, no 9 to 5, no overtime, no leadership PUA, occasionally help cook a meal to buy a dish, and eat some kickbacks, the rest of the time is free to use..."

The "full-time children's exchange center" on Douban seems to be inseparable from the description and recognition of this "profession".

When other children work overtime, stay up late to make plans, and accompany leaders to socialize, the day of "full-time children" often begins with sleeping until they wake up naturally:

Get up at 9 a.m. and walk your dog until 10 a.m.;

Go to the kitchen to wander around to help, finish lunch and take a nap until 3 o'clock;

Then continue walking the dog, come back to help make dinner, then take the delivery, watch TV, sleep...

The duties are simple, but there is more than one salary structure,

Instead, you can take three salaries from your father, mom, and grandma.

There is no expectation of distant places, and there is no excessive desire for money.

Adhering to the principle of knowing that your ability is not strong, it is better to find the easiest path for yourself first, and lie down peacefully.

The main focus is on the company of a family.

Others are temporary choices, and tight schedules can't hide the goals and ambitions of life that temporarily slow down.

While taking care of the family, take care of the postgraduate examination or the public examination.

Such full-time children are very popular with parents, and using their own wages and pensions to support a bright future for their children, or to help them through temporary hardships, is an investment that does more good than harm.

Children can also keep an eye on their every move at home, something they dare not think about when they are outside.

There are also people who become full-time children because their parents' health is not good, and their monthly salary is deducted from their father's pension.

The family is very supportive:

"China has entered an aging society. Many people have entered a period of high morbidity, they already need someone to take care of them, and instead of inviting people outside, they should pay for their own children. ”

In short, the reasons for becoming a "full-time child" can be active or passive.

Some people think that as long as the family can get money, the child can do whatever he likes.

But people who have been full-time daughters for more than a year are very much against it:

"People who are not far away must have near worries, and full-time daughters, like full-time wives, are pinning their future on others."

Outsiders look very cool, but they are actually very anxious.

There is no oppression at work, or pressure from society. Is it really possible to achieve all kinds of freedom under the noses of parents?

Xiaoling, who has just studied abroad and has not been able to find a suitable job, shared that the first few months at home were a "sweet period" with her parents, and she could be praised by her parents for half a day of cleaning.

When asked by relatives, parents also speak for themselves:

"It's hard to find a job now, take this opportunity to leave more time for your children." Take a look and try to get the best choice. ”

At that time, Xiaoling felt that she was the happiest person in the world, because of her parents' pockets, Xiaoling moved closer and closer from temporary to "dependent".

After many months, Xiaoling's work was still not heard, and when her parents asked her what she planned next, she had lost some patience.

But Xiaoling doesn't feel that she is really worthless, after all, she also helps her parents share life. But parents think differently:

"Do we lack you to clean the house, buy vegetables and wash the pots?" In order not to make you ugly, we will pay you 3,000 yuan a month, what full-time children, isn't it that they can't do it themselves, gnaw the old? ”

There are also children whose families are not very wealthy, who have become "full-time children" and dare not make higher demands with their parents.

Traveling with friends requires parents to approve funds, and speak carefully.

Although I am an adult, every time I open my mouth, I feel like a child has done something wrong.

Don't dare to buy too many things online, for fear of being discovered by your parents spending lavishly.

The surface scenery, cold and warm self-awareness is the true portrayal of many full-time children.

While gaining freedom, they also sacrificed their own freedom to a certain extent.

And not all "full-time children" end up breaking up with their parents.

During this time, a netizen found a new meaning in getting along with his parents.

Because of the family's business, she rarely saw her parents when she was young.

Two years after graduating from college and working abroad, she decided to go to graduate school.

Her parents gave her social security, did not let her go out to work, and supported her wholeheartedly,

Once her mother was a very ruthless person in her eyes, who liked to sing blackface and slammed the door.

Buying more expensive things, she didn't dare to take an idea, and she had to ask her father.

The two years at home have changed her perception of her mother.

The mother who has been a housewife, who is serious and careful, takes care of family life in an orderly manner,

In order to let her eat well, her mother, who originally couldn't cook, followed the short video to learn a lot of dishes,

Every day, I changed my appearance and made it for her, bought all kinds of fruits and walnuts, cut them and peeled them and brought them to the front of her.

Will detect the daughter's small emotions, and tell the father in time to enlighten and comfort.

Although she could not give financial support, she was given the fullest love and care.

A few days before the exam, she suddenly broke down in her heart and cried, while her parents were very calm:

"It doesn't matter if you pass the exam or not, what matters is the process of serious hard work."

Unfortunately, the final results did not pass, and she prepared to take the exam again.

Perhaps because his parents were busy with business when he was a child, he ignored himself, and now he is crazy to make up for the debt. He encouraged her to:

"As long as you are willing to take the exam, I will always support you."

In the end, she was admitted to the local teacher and finally said goodbye to the profession of "full-time daughter", but she still retained the habits she developed at that time:

Every evening, I walk with my parents, chat with my mother in the bedroom until late, go to the vegetable market together, and buy clothes together...

She has been working outside the school and suddenly feels unprecedented happiness and peace of mind in this life.

She suddenly understood her parents and experienced the meaning of companionship and home.

It is an invisible force that makes the distant close and the powerless powerful.

This kind of mutual understanding and mutual understanding is often a happy ending for "full-time children".

"Full-time children" is just an Internet word derived from the proliferation of memes,

Parents and children can help each other, but they cannot be employed at any time.

A home can be a temporary haven, but it is not a haven.

The reason why we can accept children's confusion, laziness and even rot is because of the innate compassion and love of parents for their children.

Time is getting faster and parents are getting older. It must be a blessing to be able to stay with your children for a long time.

But not for granted.

Under the influence of the social environment, many young people refuse to roll inward and actively choose to lie flat.

Although it is good to recognize reality, it should not be "fake and transparent" without trying and experiencing it.

You know, there are still "multi-habitat youth" in this world,

One person has multiple hats and experienced the life of diverse roles;

996 At the same time, he also squeezed time to complete the "public examination" and "postgraduate examination"...

While everyone has the right to choose their own lifestyle, while supporting "full-time children",

Some parents also extinguish their children to some extent more possibilities.

Children should also understand their parents more, they will also be anxious, will collapse, will be confused.

In a limited time, cherish everything.

Every family and child deserves a good outcome.