In March, "yellow rumors are pervasive", and "Keep You Safe" is so appropriate

In the spring of 2023, yellow rumors are rampant

The recently hit movie "Keep You Safe" tells the story of a story where everyone believes in rumors and the male protagonist tries his best to clarify rumors for the deceased who met Pingshui.

It burns when you read it, and the more you taste it after reading it, the sadder it gets.

It is gratifying to see such civilian heroes with a sense of justice on the screen, but the return to reality is often that there are always rabble and few defenders of the truth.

Even in the movie, the male protagonist Wei Pingan, who was already given the aura of the protagonist, only found the source of the rumor and returned the truth to the victim after going through twists and turns and paying a huge price. The hero's highlight and loneliness are always inseparable from the grayness and helplessness of reality.

It is worth mentioning that this "rumor" that can be called the fuse of the film is not an ordinary rumor, but a yellow rumor.

This thing seems to be a subordinate work, but it has been repeatedly banned and highly spreadable, from female entrepreneur Dong Mingzhu to female star Zhang Jingchu, from college students who are not deeply involved in the world to Huang Duoduo, who is not yet an adult, they have not been spared.

Han Lu, played by Song Qian in the film, is also a victim of Huang Ruan. She received a windfall and later donated it naked to a welfare home, which was reported by the local media and made headlines, but as a result, the discussion was not about the good deeds, but about the girl's dress, possible occupation, and the origin of the money.

Then rumors spread that a good white-collar worker became a lady sitting on the platform, and the million compensation obtained by serious illness insurance became an unsavory "after-sleep income".

The volume and scope of the rumors were so large that Han Lu could not stop after his death, and even the location of the cemetery was disliked, and he was almost "dug up".

This scene makes people think of the pink-haired girl who was recently forced to commit suicide by depression by yellow rumors.

After Zheng Linghua, who is in her early twenties, obtained the graduate school, she recorded the moment of sharing the joy of receiving the admission notice in front of her grandfather's hospital bed, but the photo was posted on the Internet, and the overwhelming slander hit her, and many people made a big fuss about her pink hair:

"A graduate student dyed his hair like a bar drinker."

"Nightclub dancers also need a master's degree?"

The basic logic is: dye pink hair, and you are not a serious girl at first glance.

The baseless evil words spread and intensified, but I don't know if the rumors later reflected: the few lines he slowly typed out were like sharp swords, which could inflict fatal blows on others.

Afterwards, someone commented coldly: "Can a few words make people die?" Not strong at all. ”

I want to say: people are not so strong, otherwise you will be replaced by rumor-mongers and try it yourself?

For a long time, there have been many incidents where rumors have killed people, including Ruan Lingyu in the front and Cui Xueli in the back, and their deaths are inseparable from the troubles caused by rumors.

The old things are embarrassing, but the almost new things are still happening.

Before the accident - gee, she looked very good at that ...

After the accident - not a single snowflake is innocent at the time of the avalanche.

It sounds good, but the next time it will still be the same reincarnation. Judging from the recent news, the main body of harm is not a lack of male college students who have received higher education and should be refreshing and aware of etiquette.

This situation really makes people ask: Why is Huang Yao so stubborn? Why can't even the loss of life stop the spread and ravages of rumors?

Rumors, low-cost ways to seek superiority

Let's first zoom in on the scope and look at the rumor itself.

Think about the true and false gossip that can burst the hot search, and then think about the jokes that the village mouth long-tongued woman relishes, and you will find: rumors, no good words; Being able to be associated with rumors is basically not a glorious thing.

The matter of spreading rumors proves a saying: good things don't go out, bad things spread thousands of miles.

Saying that other people's embarrassments are bad can give people a deep inner pleasure that comes from the balance of frustration, the alleviation of the competitive crisis, and the satisfaction of narcissism.

Nagging those stars with tainted private morality, the more they nag, the more they feel that they are actually good as small people;

Nagging about the tense mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship of the Dongtou Wang family, suddenly felt that it was not a matter at all that their children were divorced;

Nagging a woman's unruly private life, the other party's wealth and beauty instantly become worthless, and he seems to be covered with a golden mantle of morality, and failure and poverty are also covered by the invisible...

Everyone has a potential need for equality and superiority, so the seemingly meaningless tabloids and pantry can be prosperous. As the saying goes, "small damage" can be pleasant.

Including the underlying psychology of the public who loves to watch comedy is actually similar, watching sketch actors unlucky, ugly, and being rectified, listening to stand-up comedians talk about their embarrassments, and picking up the unbearable under the exquisite appearance of authority figures, you can get a sense of "at that moment, we are equal" pleasure.

But everything should be moderate, when narcissism repeatedly hits a wall in reality, resulting in serious inner imbalance, and there is no other way to compensate, the frustrated narcissism does not hesitate to obtain anesthesia to heal wounds through "bloodthirst", that is: "I don't look good at anyone, I spray if there is black material, and I make black material without black material." For this reason, distorting the facts is also a problem.

No conscience or sense of justice can be managed, as long as you can step on the other party and regain a little sense of superiority, you can get some relaxation in your heart.

So behind the rumors is monstrous anger, and behind the anger is a damaged, scarce and repressed group narcissism.

In summary, people who always habitually spread rumors have the following characteristics:

1. Always suppressed, and then "identify with the attacker".

This type of person usually manifests itself in two situations: either their status is low, they are white-eyed, or they look okay, but in fact, they have to rely on long-term kneeling licking and suppression to maintain their decency. In short, they are both the oppressed and ignored parties in the relationship.

As a result, the broken self-esteem looks for opportunities to "turn over and sing", and relieves the suppressed pain by stepping on other people, and over time, they gradually become the people they once hated the most. This is identifying the attacker.

And rumor-mongering, as the cheapest and least risky way of it, will of course be tried and tested.

2. No one to talk to, and the social support system is weak or absent.

It is normal for adults to suffer from wind and rain outside, hit the wall and get injured, but unfortunately, they do not have a good intimate relationship as a haven for rest and healing, so they can only use the virtual online world to dump emotional garbage.

Just like the person in the film who first made yellow rumors, no job and no family carrying a debt, hiding all day, spending his days in Internet cafes like wandering souls, the Internet is his whole life, and his depression, resentment and boredom can only be carried by the Internet.

Can't find a thin man, use another character to top it

3. Long-term vertical power relations, lack of concept of equality.

The boss played by Jia Bing in "Keep You Safe" is also a rumor-monger, although he is a successful person in the secular sense, but it can be seen that he is not approachable at all, with a strong sense of power, who is only worthy of me to see with my nostrils, who is qualified to eat with me, who should be loved, and who needs to smile, are all clearly calculated.

In the subconscious of such people, people in positions of power deserve to be insulted and choreographed, and Han Lu is precisely a girl without a social background, so the boss who said "she is a lady sitting on the platform" came at the dinner table without worry, as if it was an appetizing pre-dinner dessert.

Yellow ballads, collective slut shaming

Whether it is a successful boss or a loser living in an Internet café, he will choose someone who has a low cost of rumor-mongering but is easy to "resonate".

There are two common types of such "cost-effective" people:

1. Celebrities, especially female celebrities.

The exposure rate is high, everyone knows, but it is far enough away, the other party is beyond the reach of the whip, and it is safe to create rumors about him.

2. Ordinary women without background.

It could come from the web, or it could be nearby.

Why is the intersection "gender woman"?

According to the rules of patriarchal society, women are the second sex, existing as objects dominated by men, sometimes as objects of fantasy, sometimes as objects of cathartic desire. In short, women are instrumental and secondary, and it doesn't matter what she does, it is more important what "he" as the subject needs.

So when they are lacking and desperate to seek superiority, they follow the long-standing discipline that has penetrated into the subconscious to find a stepping stone called "woman".

"Beautiful, very good, then I know where your achievements today came about;

The education is quite high, it is not important, your so-called excellence reflects my failure, but it inspires my hatred, so I prefer to take a magnifying glass to expose your shortness. ”

So, why is it super effective to dye rumors yellow?

In the context of patriarchal society, owning and possessing women is the threshold for becoming a "real man", but there is a problem, mothers are also women, how can the person who gives birth to himself become an object contaminated with sexual desire and carries desire?

So in order to maintain inner order, men divided women into two groups according to their "function" - "saints" and "slut".

The mother belongs to the former, limited to childbearing, can be respected, but cannot be associated with sex; Sluts belong to the latter, can be amorous, can be used as sexual objects, but outside of orthodoxy, do not deserve a name, can not be on the table.

Even if a living person cannot withstand such a cut, this division has lasted for thousands of years.

This differentiation is accurately summed up in Tanamijin's essay "Liberation from the Poop": "The man's 'mother' and 'poop (sexual desire processor' consciousness comes from the psychological construction of sexual denial that treats sex as a dirty thing. ”

This psychological construct is the origin of the concept of chastity, and to humiliate a woman as a slut is to classify a woman as "inferior among women", a derogatory personality and moral judgment with a set of time-honored yardsticks.

Even many film and television dramas are acquiescing to this division: a singer who is determined to sacrifice her life for the country and do righteous things, then she must be allowed to retain her innocence, as if martyrs and prostitutes naturally cannot coexist.

Zhang Yimou "Manjiang Hong" Yaoqin

Because it has been around for a long time, it is too deep-rooted, and women generally have a "slut shame", and then it is easy to become the listener and disseminator of yellow rumors, as if to distance themselves from those "possible sluts" and gain identity.

For example, words such as "so-and-so is very tumultuous" and "so-and-so has had a baby" are often said by women with meaningful expressions and tones, as if a yellow seal omitted three thousand words here "snapped" on the brain door of another woman.

For example, if Zhang Jingchu hadn't come out to clarify herself, I, as an ordinary female netizen, would really have tacitly acknowledged that those rumors were facts, and when I saw her on TV before, those gossip famous scenes that were rumored to have noses and eyes would immediately appear in my mind, rather than a movie starring her.

And, when I was a child, when I talked about a generation of empress Wu Zetian, the first thing I and many friends thought of was not her political skills, nor her statecraft, but those unconfirmed anecdotes.

Of course, TV series also love to shoot in this direction

In short, under some invisible guidance within the inherent framework, once there is relevant information, whether true or not, it is easy for everyone, including men and women, to focus on those aspects (the impropriety of appearance and private life), and then preconceive that there is no time to explore the truth that is obscured by pervasive rumors.

Even victims cannot escape this psychological dilemma, and many women, after being fabricated and harassed, the first thing they think of is not even to denounce the perpetrator, but to be busy self-proof, and it seems that only on the premise of maintaining the so-called innocence can they have the qualifications to defend their rights and obtain public opinion support.

Therefore, it can be imagined that a woman's self-doubt and self-pulling after being made up of yellow rumors, lacking the support of female subjective consciousness and a solid core, is easy to move towards serious self-loathing, even if it will not commit suicide, it will have to flutter for several years in struggle and self-help to regain their sense of self-worth and rekindle the hope of life.

"Love yourself" as armor to ward off rumors

If the pain of being bullied is like an angular pebble burrowing into a shoe, it is secret and difficult to find, but every step is painful, until finally the flesh and blood are blurred; Then the rumors are like a bunch of flies buzzing around you, walking the scale effect, continuous, carpet-surrounded, seemingly not close, but let you be deeply disturbed by it, and have no intention of doing anything else.

Therefore, once rumors are created, timely and powerful counterattack is necessary, early counterattack early clean, don't believe in what "clear self-cleansing", usually only inches and preconceptions, just like Li Xueqin said in the film: once a woman is said to be a miss, whether it is or not, she is already a miss.

At the same time, don't let those false rumors affect your self-evaluation, especially the women who have made yellow rumors, even their families and teachers have no right to define you, let alone those strangers who have never known your life.

You are you, colorful and gestures, even birthmarks and chickenpox marks are unique. You can wear heavy makeup and help the vulnerable; You can dye your hair pink and get into graduate school in 985; You can have seventeen or eight ex-boyfriends, but that doesn't prevent you from having a noble personality and qualifications to be loved.

They see you as a seducer, an organ, exposing their narrow and stupid cognition, they slander you when they can't see your excellence, and they are covering up their inner inferiority with undisguised malice. So don't agree with these perpetrators, they only deserve your counterattack and ignorance.

Unconditional acceptance and unreserved self-support will put you in a solid armor against rumors and malice.

Finally, I want to remind the ordinary majority: if you are not so full of malice but inevitably believe rumors, then please consciously train yourself to explore the truth and insight.

When hearing any rumors and evaluations about others, don't blindly believe and agree, but ask yourself a few more questions, such as:

"Do you subconsciously believe that he is that kind of person?"

"If so, why?"

"Are the rumors well-founded?"

"If I spread such remarks myself, what kind of impact will it have on the people involved?"

In short, before "preconceptions", it is necessary to touch this rumor with common sense, morality, and your inner voice, which can not only effectively avoid becoming a small snowflake under an avalanche, but also understand yourself better because of sincere self-questioning.

This is probably the meaning of psychology and psychoanalysis, which can both cultivate oneself and benefit others. If everyone no longer lives an unexamined life, then I believe that the world will be less unfortunate and more beautiful.

Author: Miss Bovary

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