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In the winter of 2020, Xu Yunfeng took his 14-year-old son Xu Zicheng to start a self-driving trip around the country.
They plan to start from Liaoning, travel to the south of the economy, Luoyang, Xi'an, and finally reach their destination, Chenghai, Yunnan.
Xu Yunfeng suspended photography work, Xu Zicheng took a few months off from school, and the father and son were ready to devote themselves to this "metamorphosis" journey.
Xu Yunfeng is a native of Dandong, Liaoning Province, and has a photography studio.
40-year-old Xu Yunfeng has two sons, the eldest son is called Xu Zicheng is 14 years old, and the youngest son is 3 years old.
Although the age difference between the two brothers is relatively large, they can play together, and Xu Zicheng often reads picture books to his younger brother and plays games with his younger brother.
Xu Zicheng's relationship with his younger brother is very good, but his relationship with his father is not satisfactory.
Xu Yunfeng felt that Xu Zicheng lied: as soon as he checked the homework, he said that his stomach hurt; After being found to have written less homework, he said that he forgot that the teacher assigned this...
And play with the mobile phone without moderation, as long as you have the opportunity to get the mobile phone, you will play all night, often play with the mobile phone for one night, and sleep in class the next day. To this end, Xu Zicheng's head teacher reflected with Xu Yunfeng many times.
Xu Yunfeng also often quarreled with Xu Zicheng because of these problems, and even beat him with a belt when it was serious.
Gradually, the relationship between father and son became more and more rigid, only a few words were said when they quarreled, and no one paid attention to anyone at other times.
And as Xu Zicheng went to junior high school, his heart became heavier and heavier, and he often talked about it intentionally or unintentionally at home, some students wore three or four thousand yuan AJ, wearing brand-name clothes, and they must be particularly rich in the future, brand-name clothes can be bought casually.
Xu Yunfeng realized that if he did not change his son, maybe there would be problems with his values in the future.
Xu Yunfeng has many photography groups, as a photography enthusiast, the most common topic of discussion is RV travel, away from the hustle and bustle of the city, to a place with mountains and waters, you can both calm down and take beautiful scenery.
After thinking for a few days, Xu Yunfeng decided to take Xu Zicheng alone for an RV trip that he could walk away.
The purpose is twofold: one is to change the son's mentality; The second is to let the relationship between father and son "break the ice".
At the beginning, Xu Yunfeng planned to start traveling in September, and although September was hot, the scenery along the way was extremely beautiful.
But as soon as Xu Yunfeng proposed the idea of letting Xu Zicheng take a few months off and travel by himself at home, he was opposed by the whole family, and Xu Zicheng was the first to be unhappy, he didn't want to go out alone for so many days with a father who loved to quarrel with him.
Then came Xu Zicheng's grandmother and grandmother, who felt that this "travel deformation" was not reliable at all, and the best way to educate children was for parents to be patient and guided.
During the holiday, her grandmother took Xu Zicheng to her home, and she wanted to educate her grandson personally, but within a few days she sent Xu Zicheng back, bluntly saying that she could not teach.
So grandma took over this "glorious task", a few days ago, Xu Zicheng except for playing with mobile phones, other performance is very good, but one day at noon, grandma made lunch and asked Xu Zicheng to come and eat, but called several times did not come, grandma went over to see that he was playing with the mobile phone in fascination, instantly angry, and took the mobile phone over.
Xu Zicheng also did not control his temper, about to step forward to snatch the mobile phone, grandma saw that Xu Zicheng repeatedly taught and did not change, suddenly dropped the mobile phone, and then called Xu Yunfeng, let him pick up the child, he can't manage it.
After Xu Yunfeng took Xu Zicheng home, he proposed to his wife the idea of taking him on an RV trip.
Seeing that Xu Zicheng was becoming more and more rebellious, his wife agreed to Xu Yunfeng's idea.
In order to make his son better calm, Xu Yunfeng planned to travel to the south of the economy, Luoyang, Xi'an, and finally arrived in Chenghai, Yunnan.
The reason why he set his destination to Chenghai is because Xu Yunfeng wants his child to "have a future like the sea" in the future.
Before leaving, Xu Yunfeng arranged his work, took a long vacation for his son, and spent 50,000 yuan to buy a second-hand RV, which also had a water heater and heating equipment.
Xu Yunfeng also prepared camping equipment and food that is not easy to put down.
In order to be just in case, Xu Yunfeng also bought accident insurance for himself and his son in case something unexpected happened.
Everything was ready, and soon it was December 13th, the day of the departure of the father and son.
Because it snowed on the first day, the road was a little slippery, next to the roaring truck, the co-driver was a son who was concentrating on playing with his mobile phone, and Xu Yunfeng did not dare to slack off on the highway. A few days before the trip, the father and son got along relatively well, but after a long time, the contradictions between each other came out again.
On the sixth day of the trip, because of a pair of white sneakers, a violent quarrel broke out between father and son.
When he got up this morning, Xu Zicheng was wearing white sneakers, Xu Yunfeng saw that he just subconsciously touched whether the shoes were wet, and as soon as his hand was on the upper, he felt a burst of dampness.
Xu Zicheng hurriedly said, "It's already dry." "Say goodbye and put your shoes on quickly.
"You're lying again!" Xu Yunfeng yelled at his son.
The relationship between the two instantly reached a freezing point, although the area in the RV was only 8 square meters large, but the father and son stood at this end and the other stood at the other end, and no one paid attention to the other.
After a stalemate like this for half an hour, Xu Yunfeng calmed down and found Xu Zicheng to explain why he didn't want him to wear wet shoes.
Xu Yunfeng's gentle tone also calmed Xu Zicheng, he said that he would take off his shoes in a while, he just wanted to be handsome, and the others didn't think so much.
This is the first time that father and son have calmly resolved their conflicts.
After the two were reconciled, they continued to set off.
Everywhere he went, Xu Yunfeng would let his son hold a camera and take pictures of the scenery in his eyes.
Xu Yunfeng's patient teaching slowly narrowed the distance between father and son.
Xu Yunfeng also brought kitchen supplies when he came out this time, as long as there are conditions for cooking, he will make them for his son, and sometimes let his son make a hand, and the father and son will enjoy cooking time together.
Every time he goes to a city, Xu Yunfeng will take his son to taste local food, and will also visit local special attractions.
Gradually, Xu Zicheng's photography skills are getting better and better, and his attention is no longer on his mobile phone, but every day he will ask Xu Yunfeng about his photography skills and how to take better pictures of landscapes.
Xu Yunfeng was pleasantly surprised by his son's changes, and in order to make his son happy, he gave him his Canon 700d.
Xu Zicheng was very excited about this gift, and he assured Xu Yunfeng that he would love this camera and shoot wherever he went.
Xu Yunfeng wanted to record his son's changes, so his experience with his son was posted on Douyin and named "Fuzi Diary".
As soon as the video was released, it resonated with many parents: "wise father", "Zicheng, you are great", and some people left messages in the comment area about their troubles in educating their children, hoping that Xu Yunfeng could teach some good methods.
After Xu Yunfeng showed the praise of netizens to his son, he received great encouragement.
In the later video, you can hear that the dubbing of the video is Xu Zicheng, and he was nervous at first when dubbing, but Xu Yunfeng encouraged him while showing him the comments of netizens, wanting to make him relax.
Gradually, Xu Zicheng's voice became more and more calm, and the smile on his face became more and more.
The father and son also changed from cold talk to nothing, usually like friends, walking on the road hooking up and talking and laughing.
On February 4, 2021, this fruitful trip ended.
Xu Yunfeng said that after arriving in Chenghai, his son offered to go home to school after a few more days, and he wanted to return to school to study seriously.
There are also many people on the Internet who ridicule Xu Yunfeng for "still having money" and "feeling that he is hyping up children"
Xu Yunfeng said that his family is very ordinary, and it cost 16,000 yuan to travel in 54 days. I have never thought that it is an inhuman act to make myself "fire" through children's hype, and make "bets" on the second half of my child's life.
Some parents want to ask Xu Yunfeng about their children's education, and his answer is: don't spoil your child when he is young, if the child is rebellious, you must deal with the parent-child relationship, and the child's integrity is priceless.