In 97, the girl was "gnawed small" by her parents, and netizens hotly discussed: not all parents love their children

"There really is no point in living but suffering..."

Some time ago, the incident of a 97-year-old girl in Hunan being "gnawed small" by her parents caused heated discussions.

The girl's family conditions are very poor, although she is the only daughter in the family, she has been suffering since she was a child.

When I first came to menstruation, there was irregular menstruation, but I was young, I didn't understand things, and my parents didn't pay attention to it at all.

Later, when I grew up, my menstruation was still irregular, and I didn't come once in half a year, so I went to the hospital for a check-up.

However, despite the diagnosis of PCOS, doctors made it clear that medication was needed for conditioning.

But the mother still did not pay attention to it, and said lightly:

"This kind of thing does not need to be conditioned, every girl will have it, the hospital is specialized in pit money, and when it grows up, it will slowly return to normal."

In addition, the girl's face was covered with black and large moles, and her teeth were also bad.

But the parents never paid for their daughter's treatment.

All along, her parents told her:

"When you grow up, make your own money and cure it later!"

For a better future, girls are now preparing for civil service exams while going to work, and instead of supporting, their parents have retired early and are ready to start "gnawing at the small".

The girl's salary is only 3,500 yuan a month, and the rent plus water and electricity have to be cut to 1,500, and it is difficult to support herself.

But her parents hope that she can spend less and help herself retire.

After refusing her parents' request to help with the elderly, the girl was very entangled.

She just wants to devote herself to the official examination, does not want to be dragged down by her parents anymore, and does not know whether to change her mobile phone card, rent a house in a different place, and block her parents' WeChat.

For what happened to this girl, many netizens did not understand.

"Aren't only daughters the flesh of their parents? How can there be such parents? Can't believe it. ”

Yes, parents should have shielded their children from the wind and rain and did their best to help their children live a better life.

But some parents not only fail to fulfill their due responsibilities, but even treat their children as tool people, lying flat by themselves, and just want to squeeze their children dry.

Being born in such a family is the greatest sorrow of a child.

Not all parents love their children

What happened to this girl reminded me of another incident that happened a while ago.

At a mall in Shaoxing, Zhejiang Province, parents shop with their 28-year-old daughter.

When I went to the shoe store, my daughter saw a pair of shoes with a price tag of more than 200 yuan and wanted to buy them.

But both parents disagreed.

The girl was helpless, so she had to say:

"Just a pair of shoes, you don't have a lot of money!" The money I earn, you all help me save, is my feet so cheap? You guys are really weird! ”

The more the girl spoke, the more sad she became, the more she collapsed, and finally threw out the things in her hand, knelt on the ground and kowtowed to her parents.

But what is shocking is that the parents not only did not give any comfort to their collapsed daughter, but even left the shoe store without looking back.

Only the girl was left to kneel on the ground, covering her face and crying.

Why does a 28-year-old girl have no savings and only needs a nod from her parents to buy a pair of shoes?

It turned out that the girl also had a younger brother in the family.

We often say that parents are the greatest people in the world, father's love is like a mountain, mother's love is selfless, it seems that every parent loves their children.

But the reality is that some people are really unworthy of being parents, and use their nominal rights to arbitrarily manipulate the lives of their children and artificially create difficulties in their children's lives.

As the Japanese writer Kotaro Isaka said:

"It's horrible to think that being a parent doesn't have to go through the exam!"

Don't be too utilitarian in raising children

One point that many parents tend to overlook is that raising children is mixed with too much utility and desire.

When going to school, it is not to let children improve their self-worth and acquire knowledge, but for fear that children will be compared with other people's children;

After working, I hope that my child will get ahead immediately, but I don't realize that the resources I provide are limited, and my child's starting line is already behind others.

We raise children, not for return, let alone for the purpose of "raising children and preventing aging", but for the continuation of life and the inheritance of love.

Children are not accessories of their parents.

Parents forcibly control their children's lives through the grace of nurturing, and such "love" is too heavy for children.

The book "Love and Freedom" mentions:

"The duty of parents is to provide a safe environment for their children with love, but as for how to explore the world, that is the child's freedom."

If parents raise their children too utilitarianly and firmly control their children's lives, then one day they will be eaten back, harming both the child and themselves.

Epilogue:

It is often heard that the elderly complain that their children are not filial enough, and they have worked hard all their lives, and as a result, they have raised a "white-eyed wolf".

But parents love their children, don't children love their parents?

If parents raise their children too utilitarian and think about how to "gnaw the small", how can children know how to be grateful?

Everything has a cause and an effect, and the most important thing some parents should do is reflect on themselves.

Today's topic: What do you think of what happened to this girl?