After the 60-year-old Michelle Yeoh was sealed, can't you still sober up?

Michelle Yeoh won the Oscar actress at the age of 60, and the smile of a 20-year-old girl appeared on her face.

Sparkle.

So envious, every woman probably longs for such a highlight moment in her life. But most of the time we just watch, then sigh, press the spark that burns in our hearts, and return to the trivial daily life of life.

yes, how could that be done? Frivolous days, and endless lawsuits with children.

Michelle Yeoh can do it because she didn't have children. Nine out of ten moms would answer that.

In everyone's impression, once a woman becomes a mother, she is destined to look like a hard worker, and even sometimes, if you dress fashionably, you will be regarded as an idle wife who "does not need to bring a baby".

The mothers in the TV series are also "mothers", working for half a life, for the sake of their children and family, like an orange dregs that has been squeezed dry. Otherwise, it is certainly not a good mother, a strong woman in the workplace devotes herself to her career regardless of her children, and going home to face her adolescent son will always be anxious.

As a woman, your life can't be too complete, beautiful and capable. Having a home without self, having a career that does not deserve a home, otherwise it is usually fake.

Originally, this was nothing, but over the years, film, television and media communication have been establishing the image of a bitter woman, so that more and more people believe that suffering is what a woman should be.

A lot of people are unhappy -

A full-time wife has family troubles, endless housework every day, endless husbands and children, there are in-laws watching, you can't send your children to Qingbei if you don't make money, is it worthy of your hard-earned husband?

Women in the workplace have troubles in the workplace, as long as you perform well at work, you will be squeezed by many people, and you will be said to be an extermination master who does not care about the family. When you see a child, it is inevitable to feel guilty, feel sorry for the child who did not accompany him to grow, is it worth working hard?

In fact, both kinds of unhappiness come from the same kind of disturbing, that is:

"As a woman, raising children is the first priority."

If you don't have children, you don't have this problem. Like Michelle Yeoh, just be the best version of yourself.

Although some people may maliciously attack "no children are not worthy of being called women", women who have the courage to choose such a life do not care what they think.

One thing they know is how to take care of themselves.

This is very difficult for most mothers, because taking good care of children is a difficult thing.

A mother shared her experience of managing her children and spoke about our daily routine:

If I don't care, she really grinds until half past seven and doesn't go out at half past eleven, what if she doesn't sleep at half past eleven? What if you don't write your homework if you don't stare at it strictly, and then your mind wanders in class and the teacher complains?

I also want to put it out, I've also tried to completely ignore ... But adults are rotten, children are even worse!

Can you watch other people's children do teaching aids that you have never heard of, and look at materials that you have never seen at all?

@毛利的读者

I nodded vigorously as I watched, yes! Yes! This is my day.

It's hard to do, but what can you do? Every conversation I had with my sister ended with "I don't want to be a broken old mother", but without urging, she could even forget class, homework was always remembered to write at 10 p.m., and I couldn't get up from school the next day.

The child is biological, it is impossible not to care if her future can only pick up rags, right?

The most relaxed parents I have ever met are Beijing relocated families who have demolished more than a dozen apartments. The teacher asks the child to write homework, and the parents can go directly to the door, begging the teacher to leave it alone and let him go.

I don't have ten apartments to tear down, so I should care, and I have to pay attention to the door exam, otherwise I have no responsibility for children.

is resonating, see the following netizen reply:

So can your child watch other people's mothers go to better universities than you and travel to places you haven't even heard of with bags you can't afford?

@毛利的读者

Feeling like a blow.

Why?

Children never seem to ask us to be the best and richest parents, while we keep asking them to be self-disciplined and become 100 percent babies?

It seems right to be devoted to children, but doesn't it also lose the sense of boundary between mother and child?

At this point, we are not fundamentally different from our parents, and we always feel in our hearts:

How would they live without me?

In the past, I made many incentive forms for the child to learn by herself, hoping that she could manage her time and be a self-disciplined child.

But most of the time, the incentive column I fill in is empty. When the work is busy, they forget to follow, and the child has a big heart and does not remember his own schedule. Every time the teacher called and urged, I ran to the living room to yell, why don't you go to class?

It's also very weak to write homework, I have to work, how can I keep an eye on her. She folded paper and picked the eraser and even in a daze, grinding until 10 o'clock, only to remember that homework always had to be done, otherwise the teacher would punish. A big explosion suddenly came before going to bed, and I concentrated on my homework.

I really want to yell at her, I have to finish writing at 11 o'clock, I can't sleep well and I'm tired from class the next day, what can the vicious circle do well? Sometimes I even persuade her not to write...

No, the teacher will punish. But if she were asked to go home and do her homework, she would never be able to do it.

We also fall into an endless cycle, becoming a companion parent, a helicopter parent, living a life that we don't even want to live but are powerless to change, our own great dedication, but the other party does not appreciate it at all.

Later I found out that it wasn't that they couldn't, but that we didn't dare, or that we felt they couldn't.

Some time ago, Wangchai injured his knee, and I picked up my children every day to cook and clean. In the morning, my brother is always in bed, afraid that he will rub me and help him dress every day. When he was dressed, he didn't have time to make breakfast for his sister.

One day I was so angry that I couldn't get out of bed. So he threw his clothes on the steps and said you wear them yourself, and come to me when you are dressed. Turned around and went to prepare breakfast for my sister.

I was very surprised that day, he was the first to get dressed that day, and he didn't even have shoes. He saw a surprised look on my face and I was very proud, winning my sister.

I didn't help him get dressed or even think about it.

I think maybe we take our own meaning to children too seriously.

Everyone is now finding more and more that the babies posted on the Little Red Book are all parents who want to prove that they are great. So before watching the child win a lot of awards, we thought, wow! Why are people so powerful? Now I just think, hey, this kid has suffered a lot...

Of course, being a mother will also accompany the hardships. But it's hard to endure hardship, what should I do? You can only move out of logical self-consistency:

Raising children is a woman's primary responsibility.

You can be slovenly and carry only a canvas bag, but the shopping cart will be filled with exercise books, and the social circle can only be chicken parents, and the topic of discussion is what extracurricular class is better...

The mother who is very hard at raising a baby has never thought that perhaps the most important thing to do is to "please herself":

At the age of 40, I went to study EMBA at Peking University, at the age of 50, I traveled around the world by ship, and at the age of 60 I was on the podium of the Oscar...

My former boss is a strong woman, who led the whole group to work overtime 996 that year, and fighting together can kill us...

Recently, she returned to campus and went to Peking University to study for an MBA. I was surprised at one point, does a mother with a second child not care about the child? But it's narrow-minded: what's not to do? Life is your choice.

Very wonderful.

The frivolities of life have not left any marks on her face, and the 40s are full of girlishness, which is not my bragging.

Having children is important, but it's not the only thing you can do as a woman. Those with radiant female consciousness can respond without hesitation to the fingers of the outside world:

"Can you handle it?"

Highly educated women go to be housewives..."Can you manage it?"

Who will bring the mothers and children of successful careers..."Can you manage it?"

Why doesn't the full-time wife go to the chicken baby into Hayeps hemp..."Can you manage it?"

Thanks for the attention.

But, I don't really need your advice.

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