Xie Na has two apprentices.
One ungrateful, one knowledgeable.
One is the light of honor, and the other is the negative teaching material.
Now the negative textbook has suddenly become a teacher of justice, and the light of honor has lost honor.
This treasure land of feng shui in the entertainment industry.
When it is really 30 years of Hedong, 30 years of Hexi.
No one knows who will make the palace all the soil in which detail.
01
The entertainment industry has been boring lately. So bored that even the former entertainment circle people with large sandbags began to wash white and turn red.
You must know that back then, he was a negative teaching material wherever he went. But now, he has actually reached the peak of his life by relying on live broadcasting.
Now, his "senior brother" Yang Di has lost power, and Zhang Da is now considered to be living a well-known day when Yang Di once had a reputation.
This time we won't talk about Zhang Da, he is a person who is uncertain too much.
Today it may still be praised by everyone, tomorrow it may be shouted and beaten by everyone.
Let's talk about Yang Di, the recent trend of public opinion, giving people a sense that Yang Di broke up, as if breaking the law.
For a while, the wall fell and everyone pushed it, and everyone shouted and beaten.
Originally, the heat of this matter has faded, and the netizens who should be scolded have already scolded, and Yang Di, who should have explained, has also explained many times.
This time it was pulled out again, and it was really a disaster.
The reason is that Professor Shen Yifei posted a video called "Why Yang Di was scolded when he broke up".
Originally, she wanted to analyze the social problems behind it with netizens.
As a result, netizens not only did not let her go, but even Yang Di was pulled out and scolded again.
It can only be said that there is indeed a huge gap between theory and real life.
Let's start with a review of the cause of the matter.
At the beginning of the year, Yang Di and Yang Tianzhen and Yang Li live-streamed the microphone, which was originally a normal live chat and there was nothing explosive, until Yang Tianzhen threw out the "fatal" question.
Yang Di readily admitted that he was single.
The two unprepared on the opposite side petrified, and they could clearly feel an awkward atmosphere in the live broadcast room.
Yang Tianzhen also continued later, it was good to break up.
Well, more embarrassing.
Yang Di did not expect that his love life would also cause such a big wave.
Things fermented more and more intensely, and even may affect the work, Yang Di had to come out to explain and clarify.
But there was still a blast in the square.
The words he swore on the show back then were like in his ears, and now it is strange to talk about breaking up.
The matter is actually very simple, that is, a couple who have been in love for 16 years separated, there was no bloody drama, and no sister-in-law came out to break the news.
To put it bluntly, I don't love it, and I don't want to live in vain.
There are no marriage constraints, no children to tie in, and if you make up your mind, you will disperse.
02
So what was the anger of the masses in the square?
In 2019, Yang Di participated in the show of Xiao S and Cai Kangyong.
Xiao S asked Yang Di why he didn't get married?
Yang Di said that a good time was missed, but I will definitely marry this person.
Xiao S asked again, what if you don't marry her in the end?
Yang Di said, without this accident, I will definitely marry her, I dare to make this vow.
It is precisely because of this sentence that it has caused criticism from netizens.
These words he said on the show back then must have come from the heart, otherwise he would not be so absolute.
The reason why netizens have such great anger, in addition to sympathy, is also anger at words and unbelief.
Perhaps they also met someone who vowed to marry him, but ended up parting ways.
Those grievances that were banished to the years are awakened at this moment.
Was Yang Di criticized by netizens?
Frankly, it makes sense.
Many fans shouted for Yang Di, thinking that this was a private matter between them, and others had no right to ask, maybe the person who proposed to break up was the woman.
Professor Shen Yifei, a guest of "Goodbye Lover", also put forward a similar view.
People will subconsciously think that it must be men who propose to break up, and this subconscious will reveal a message that women will always be victims.
But in fact, women can also propose to break up in their emotional lives, and men and women have the same rights.
In Yang Di's relationship, not only the woman paid 16 years, the man also paid 16 years, and the time spent by both men and women is equal.
If some people think that women sacrifice more, it means that many people still think that being young is the greatest value of women.
At first glance, this statement makes sense.
But on closer examination, it is divorced from reality.
There are so many equal things in the relationship.
03
If you look at it in a secular sense, Yang Di 16 years ago and Yang Di today are completely different from heaven and earth.
When Yang Di drifted north, the woman's salary was three thousand a month, and she could take out 2,500 to Yang Di.
Now that they have broken up, how much money can Yang Di take out to repay that kindness?
If they get married and later decide to divorce if they find out they are not suitable for each other, at least the woman will still get half of the property.
But now this situation can only be described as a bamboo basket.
How is the effort calculated?
What's more, most of the past 16 years, Yang Di has been mainly working.
Yang Di once said that his girlfriend loves him much more than himself.
They hadn't seen each other for a long time, and the two met in a hurry at the airport in Shanghai, hugging their heads and crying.
After returning home in the evening, Yang Di said that if he was hungry, his girlfriend would immediately get up to cook for him, no matter what time it was.
Yang Di likes to eat leek-stuffed buns, and his girlfriend prepares buns for him and noodles in the middle of the night.
Yang Di likes to eat fat sausages, but that store is far away, but as long as Yang Di goes home, there is always a hot fat sausage at home.
In the past 16 years, Yang Di rarely mentioned each other, and even many people learned that Yang Di had a girlfriend after he broke up.
And her mother also once wanted to help Yang Di on a blind date on the show.
In their relationship, the girlfriend didn't even have a name.
Aya also asked Yang Di, you won't wait until you are 50 years old to face the matter of marriage, right? Is she someone you've always wanted to go on?
Yang Di said crisply: "Yes, I can't imagine how I can deal with myself without her in life." ”
Aya told Yang Di: "There is nothing that can be solved without action. ”
But Yangdi said: "But because of the busier work, the number of meetings is getting less and less. ”
Aya: "If you don't have to act again, if you still separate the two places like this, you are just using time to let her go." ”
Who would have thought that Aya would say a word, and after many years they chose to be one and the other.
Yang Di always says that he is busy, but he will find time to take his parents on a trip and take his parents on the show to let more people know each other.
He probably never thought of taking a moment to get a license, or plan a marriage proposal, or go to a show together.
At the very least, he didn't put it into action.
How can the efforts be said to be equal.
Let's talk about a more realistic issue, which is the age of childbearing.
They do not have the form of marriage, but they have the truth of marriage, this is Yang Di's original words.
A woman can have several 17 years to splurge, and her golden childbearing age is there.
We all hear about women of an advanced age, and who hears about men who give birth to an older age?
It's not unusual for men to have children at 60, but how many women can have children after 60?
How can the efforts be said to be equal.
Some people will say that the woman is willing, and people don't feel that they have wasted time, so what qualifications do you people have to express your opinion.
Baby, the woman doesn't come out and say, it's because of love.
She is willing to wait silently in these 16 years, waiting for the future in Yang Di's mouth, even more because of love.
Having said all this, I don't have to list any crimes for Yang Di, but I just want to emphasize the point that "equality does not equal fairness." ”
04
So did Yang Di do something wrong in this matter?
Actually, it doesn't.
Netizens are angry because they feel unfair.
Everyone has their own choice, and others say the most.
The choices on the road of life are often only left and right, and there is no right or wrong.
The right and wrong in the mouths of the general public are all from the moral court of the heart, and there is no actual binding force.
Yang Mengen said when proposing: "In this world, there are no naturally good people, only civilized people who are restrained." ”
That's exactly right.
People live a lifetime, it is impossible to be black and white, good and bad, right and wrong are only different positions.
But there is one thing, that is, it is best to be a person and do things without shame.
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