Marriage is in
Live with each other's shortcomings
Accustomed to seeing celebrity couples show their love in front of the camera, it is rare to have a variety show that focuses on the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, "My Favorite Women", which can glimpse their ordinary life full of fireworks.
Although the show currently only airs one episode, the hot search continues. Netizens who watch the hilarity are not too big to open a variety of complaints.
Especially seeing that Zhong Liti did not help her husband Zhang Lunshou block the camera, causing Zhang Lunshou to be photographed in the shower and blame Zhong Liti, and then complained to her mother, Zhong Liti was aggrieved and shed tears, many netizens said "daily marriage fear series".
Even scolding Zhang Lunshou as a "scumbag", before marriage you were not like this to our goddess! Become so excessive after marriage? Sure enough, the man's mouth, the deceitful ghost!
Wait, take it easy. The wife just thinks that it is normal for the husband and wife to get along with the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and it is the real marriage routine to quarrel.
These four couples have a tacit understanding of "old husband and wife", such as Zhang Jin and Cai Shaofen, who have been married for 11 years, yang Shuo and Wang Liwen, who have been married for 9 years.
There are also collisions between the run-in period of new marriages, such as Yuan Chengjie and Chen Qianqian, who have been married for 4 years, and Zhang Lunshuo and Zhong Liti, who have been married for 3 years.
They have their own advantages and disadvantages, but they are not major problems that rise to the level of principle.
"Men are in the time you need him
He doesn't drop the chain."
First, let's talk about the pair of Zhong Liti and Zhang Lunshou. Zhang Lunshuo is a typical Shandong macho personality, which can be seen from the outbreak of quarrels over the camera and the strong demand for Zhong Liti to apologize.
Not only did he have a big temper, but he didn't like to cook or clean at home, and he took it for granted that these were all housework that women should do.
As soon as he entered the hotel, his wife and mother cleaned up and cleaned up, he did not help, and immediately became a hand-shaking treasurer.
In terms of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he is also overconfident, "My wife will definitely get it done." The implication is that I am only responsible for directing the overall situation, and I do not need to intervene in small matters.
In fact, when he was still in love, he used to sit back and enjoy it. When he travels, Zhong Liti is responsible for the destination and the hotel, he just needs to bring people with him.
But as soon as Zhong Liti dressed, he managed it very firmly. What style to wear, what hairstyle to cut, you must first report to him, he agreed to buy. (Thinking of the same Shandong husband Guo Xiaodong... ）
Once Zhong Liti secretly shaved a V shape on the back of her head, Zhang Lunshou learned of the fire, and was stunned for two days.
In terms of money, Zhang Lunshou's attitude is also particularly tough. When in love, his immediate fame and income are not as good as Zhong Liti, and he is also determined not to spend her money, and after marriage, he even turns in his bank card, and pursues the same "male outside the female protagonist" as Guo Xiaodong.
It sounds like there's nothing wrong with it, but how can it still feel suffocated?
For my wife, your participation in marriage affairs and the importance you attach to me are not enough!
But his truth is a true portrayal of most married men: when a man needs him, he can just not drop the chain.
For example, Zhong Liti pays attention to life, staying in a hotel almost moves the entire home, not only bringing pillows and quilt carpets, but also very thoughtfully bringing the food that her mother-in-law loves to eat.
The burden of carrying 10 boxes fell on Zhang Lunshou, and although he complained in his heart that Zhong Liti should not bring so many things, he still carried them all downstairs.
Zhong Liti is romantic, and does not forget to bring lights, candles, flowers, etc. to increase the mood, but it is more laborious.
This time, the fifty-meter star lantern with it was wrapped around a piece, and although Zhang Lunshuo said that he was tired, he also patiently spent tens of minutes to untie it.
He is more pragmatic and talks less, but his wife will be there when she needs it.
In addition, he was very concerned about her family, her eldest daughter went to school in Canada, and he flew over to help make the bed.
He also took his young daughter to the "Where Did Daddy Go" program, and even if he was not related by blood, he loved him as if he were a pro-girlfriend.
In addition to fulfilling the responsibility of a good father, he will also take the "old man" to exercise together.
These advantages must have been chosen by Zhong Liti.
As for Zhang Lunshou's mother's comment on Zhong Liti, "My daughter-in-law is good at everything, that is, she is a little older", my wife feels that she does not have to go on the line.
You know, her mother-in-law praised Zhong Liti at the wedding, "kind, independent, filial piety, integrity", indicating that for the first time, she truly understood why the two were together.
"In any case, she is the woman who will make my son very happy." Letting his mother say this sentence shows how much effort Zhang Lunshuo has done behind his back.
"If you want a divorce
All the property in my name belongs to you."
Also seriously macho is the northeast grandfather Yang Shuo, who also takes his mother as the first in everything, a bit of "ma bao".
As early as when he was in love, he told Wang Liwen about three chapters, "It doesn't matter what you do to me, anyway, you have to be good to my mother." ”
This time, he took his wife and his mother to travel with him, and he also turned to his mother.
My mother is not here to be a nanny, and I can't let my mother clean up, these little things can be done by my wife. (The wife should be a nanny??? ）
So what is he responsible for?
Read books, cultivate yourself, and think it is quite beautiful.
Wang Liwen has been a housewife for many years after marriage, and she is somewhat humble in front of her husband, listening to him for everything, and the only requirement is only "whether the food is good or not, don't get angry."
If the problem with Zhong Liti and Zhang Lunshuo is that the way they get along is not well communicated, then Wang Liwen and Yang Shuo have some unequal status.
However, although Yang Shuo does not look so considerate of his wife and is more self-centered, he is purely a knife mouth tofu heart.
It is the kind of person who obviously cares about your health and is distressed by your efforts, but is not good at direct expression, but uses a rough and straight man's joke to open up with you.
As another husband, I would like to express my loyalty to my wife by sweetly saying "always love you". Yang Shuo only did not say, and the way to be good to Wang Liwen was to write a divorce agreement, indicating that all the property under his own name belonged to his wife.
It sounds like I want to hit him, but I can't bear to do it? To get along with such a person who does not like to talk well, it is certainly indispensable to hold out internal wounds and be strong enough inside.
However, Yang Shuo has his own romance to resolve contradictions. On important days such as his daughter-in-law's birthday and wedding anniversary, he will send gifts to his wife.
It doesn't matter if you're stupid, just a little bit of real sweetness.
"I'm just willing to spoil you."
Everything in the house has me."
Compared with the machismo of Zhang Lunshuo and Yang Shuo, Yuan Chengjie, as a wife slave, is a small family. The most criticized by the public is that he married his daughter-in-law and forgot his mother, and Chen Qianqian's work was heavenly and he still spoiled his wife without a lower limit.
Looking at the daily life of the two small mouths, Chen Qianqian got up in the morning and kept summoning Yuan Chengjie, asking him to help find puffs, take bags, take water cups, and prepare breakfast for her.
Yuan Chengjie, who is obsessed with playing games, has been interrupted five times, but he still caters to her with a spoiled face and has a particularly good temper.
At home, Chen Qianqian was the empress, and there was nothing wrong with his role as a courtier. (The mother-in-law's expression is meaningful...) ）
In fact, Chen Qianqian is not only a husband, lazy, and tossed, her carefulness and thoughtfulness still make up for Yuan Chengjie's confused and loose personality in some aspects.
For example, as soon as she entered the hotel, she helped sweep the floor and wash the dishes, and was busy until noon to remember that her mother-in-law had not yet eaten. Yuan Chengjie forgot to bring dumplings and other fast food, to cook instant noodles, immediately reprimanded by her: how can you let your mother eat instant noodles, and it is spicy, and your mother can't eat it.
The wife here would like to praise Yuan Chengjie's mother, a delicate and elegant, gentle Shanghai woman. For her son to spoil Chen Qianqian excessively, she not only did not reject it, but also gave affirmation to her daughter-in-law.
Change a strong mother-in-law, there is a daughter-in-law like Chen Qianqian, it is estimated that daily getting along will inevitably be chicken flying dog jump.
Speaking of Cai Shaofen's mother-in-law praising Cai Shaofen's ability and house decoration, Cai Shaofen carried the sofa herself, and this mother-in-law did not count Chen Qianqian's not even take a suitcase, but said very considerately, "You can't do this kind of physical work."
Yuan Chengjie immediately answered, "I don't need her like this, we have me at home", which really touched my wife.
It can only be said that one thing drops one thing, he is happy to spoil her, and she has the courage to fool around. The best life of a spoiled woman is not unreasonable, and the little two are also very happy.
"Without my mother, there would be no me
Without you, there would be no me now."
To say that the most faulty thing to get along with, there is no mother-in-law problem to worry about, it is Cai Shaofen and Zhang Jin, this is the right.
Cai Shaofen is very sensible, afraid that her mother-in-law is tired, as soon as she enters the hotel, she assigns the easiest work (looking for a vacuum cleaner) to her mother-in-law, and shares most of the housework by herself.
In order to amuse her mother-in-law, she also carefully learned Chongqing dialect, (Niangniang, who can't speak Mandarin well, can speak Chongqing dialect is not easy) to go to her mother-in-law's house to help her cook.
Even if there are different opinions on the method and condiment, there is also a deal with the mother-in-law, and there is a degree of progress and retreat.
Asked about the ordering of his mother and wife, Zhang Jin replied very frankly that "my mother ranked first", without my mother, there would be no me, and without you, there would be no me now.
Cai Shaofen did not have any displeasure, but generously said that she "liked this answer." In terms of life values, they are in agreement, so the two can maintain 11 years of undiminished love.
The wife was deeply impressed by a picture, Cai Shaofen wanted to go out alone to perform the program group task, and told Zhang Jin, "If I can't go back, you will eat your own."
Zhang Jin's answer slammed a handful of dog food: You can't go back, can we still eat it? (Notice this affectionate close-up)
What impressed his wife even more was that every time Cai Shaofen took a plane, she would tell Zhang Jin to protect her two daughters well. In case of an accident for her, Zhang Jin can remarry, provided that she finds a woman who is good to her children.
Believe in love, but also respect human nature, marriage can be clear, the mother can go out and get back.
However, their couple is not a perfect couple, and there will be friction every day. Zhang Jin is slow and hot, relatively homely, check everything before going out, Cai Shaofen is hot and windy, often forget the east and forget the west.
The reason why we can get along harmoniously now is necessarily after a long period of understanding and running-in.
When "Lu Yu Has a Date", Zhang Jin was asked: What do you think is the most important condition for maintaining a home?
Zhang Jin's answer is a model:
It's about appreciating her. No matter what we look like in the eyes of others, I think she is the best anyway.
She has a lively personality, and sometimes I feel a little noisy, but I remind myself that when we were together, I just liked this, and I liked her lively and pyrotechnic feeling.
There is a saying that falling in love is to fall in love with each other's advantages, and marriage is to live with each other's shortcomings.
Everyone is imperfect, we choose a person, be attracted by the shining point of the TA, and should accept the existence of certain shortcomings.
My wife remembered that she had broken up with my husband once, and angrily listed all kinds of points that did not meet my expectations, accusing him of why he could not do this for me.
At this time, the gentleman touched my head and said a very gentle word: But I have no requirements for you, I know that you are like this."
I suddenly understood that he had always been tolerant, and that he loved me no less than I loved him.
In the same way, the above four couples, at the beginning, they must have known their respective personality shortcomings.
Together, it shows that some aspects are checks and balances. As for whether the marriage can go on for a long time, the final fight is whether the values of the two are consistent.
It is worth knocking on the door that men such as Zhang Lunshuo Yang Shuo's machismo always feel that women should be grateful to Dade for working hard to earn money to support their families, not smoking, not drinking, and not playing games.
This is actually a big misunderstanding. As Cai Shaofen said, "Men need to respect women and need love", when men can participate in family affairs and get along with their partners on an equal footing, then they are entitled to say that they are "good men".