Zhao Benshan's emotional experience, like a book, is not so colorful, but very tortuous.
32 years ago, Ge Shuzhen tearfully went through divorce procedures with Zhao Benshan, ending an 11-year relationship.
Many couples are like this, can share suffering, but can not share happiness, when Zhao Benshan was poor and white, Ge Shuzhen married him, and after Zhao Benshan became famous, he filed for divorce.
Surprisingly, Ge Shuzhen did not hysterical, did not shout, nor did she have a trace of retention, even if there was no Zhao Benshan, she had to live as a person.
At that time, the young man was 20 years old and had no daughter-in-law, which obviously could not be said.
Zhao Benshan is like this, he only got married at the age of 22, and belongs to the local young people who married late.
As for why he didn't get married, there were actually two points, first, his family was very poor, and Zhao Benshan could only barely make ends meet by learning a craft from his blind second uncle.
Secondly, although he is poor, Zhao Benshan is an assertive person, and women cannot marry home casually, they must find one they like.
It may be this requirement that became the reason for his divorce from Ge Shuzhen in the future.
Because he is "engaged in literary and artistic work", there is no shortage of mediators around Zhao Benshan, and the old people in the village unanimously believe that although this child is poor, he is a good descendant and will definitely have a career when he grows up.
Subsequently, a woman named Ge Shuzhen entered his sight, although she is not beautiful, but she has the same experience as Zhao Benshan, maybe they pity each other, the two have some sympathy for each other, but this is not love.
That year, Ge Shuzhen was only 19 years old, and she was very diligent, making Zhao Benshan's originally dilapidated home full of life.
When one is poor and two white, don't talk about cultivating feelings, even the sleeping kang is rented, and the life of the little two is dull, until the birth of her daughter Zhao Yufang, she is a little more happy.
Zhao Yufang is very smart, and Zhao Benshan carved out of a mold, Ge Shuzhen is very satisfied, she works hard and complains, and controls everything in the family.
A few years later, the son of the two, Zhao Tiedan, was born, and a son and a daughter made up a "good" word, but unexpectedly, Tiedan was a deaf and dumb child with serious heart disease.
The days could not go on, and there were high medical expenses in the later period, and Zhao Benshan's heart was like pressing a big stone, very helpless.
If it weren't for that "Falling Three Strings", Zhao Benshan might have been buried in the dust in his life.
One year, Zhao Benshan participated in a performance competition, and his work "Falling Three Strings" stood out, and was even selected by the Tieling Theater Troupe, ready to transfer work at any time.
Ge Shuzhen was very happy, she imagined that she could finally live in a house, and she would no longer have to live under the fence.
Later, the family came to the city, Zhao Benshan was responsible for working to earn money, his wife was responsible for housework, and everything was carried out in an orderly manner.
Due to the different nature of his work, Zhao Benshan left home more and more, coupled with the wider and wider world he had seen, the distance between the two became farther and farther, and finally he reached the point where he had nothing to say.
In fact, from the beginning, Zhao Benshan had no feelings for Ge Shuzhen, as mentioned earlier in the article, Zhao Benshan is the kind of person who would rather lack than abuse, but due to family conditions, he married Ge Shuzhen, who had the same experience as himself.
In other words, Zhao Benshan's heart was somewhat stumbling...
In 1987, Zhao Benshan and Pan Changjiang collaborated on "The Blind Man Watching the Lights", and the two performed 600 times in Shenyang alone, and the venue was full.
Subsequently, Zhao Benshan's life opened, performed all over the country, and met the love of his life, Ma Lijuan, in a folk art troupe.
The first time I saw the girl, I had a heart-pounding feeling, which Ge Shuzhen had never given.
But returning to life, even if he likes it, he can't show it, because there is a wife and sick children at home, and he can only bury this feeling in his heart.
Although Ge Shuzhen is a rural person, she can feel the changes between husband and wife.
For a while, she learned to dress herself up and wear fashionable clothes like the people in the city, but Zhao Benshan and her were difficult to communicate and couldn't go together.
Subsequently, Zhao Benshan boarded the Spring Festival Gala under the leadership of Jiang Kun, and the husband and wife went farther and farther.
Zhao Benshan misses Ma Lijuan very much and wants to divorce very much, but he just can't say it, after all, his wife has paid for the family for so many years, if she really does this, she will be too bastard.
After hesitating for a long time, he still chose love and took the initiative to speak.
Zhao Benshan thought that Ge Shuzhen would definitely make a fuss, but she didn't, very calm, which made Zhao Benshan a little surprised, and even a little afraid.
It seems that Ge Shuzhen is not an ordinary rural woman, and her brave persistence is unexpected by Zhao Benshan.
In 1991, the two went through divorce procedures, and Zhao Benshan's car and house still had 250,000 yuan in cash for his ex-wife.
Subsequently, he left the house cleanly and entered the marriage hall with Ma Lijuan the next year.
Looking back at Ge Shuzhen, it was very difficult to endure after the divorce, after all, he was alone, and his son was a disabled person, how to live in the future?
So, she saved all the money given by Zhao Benshan and began to look for a job by herself, at the age of thirty, she couldn't do any technical work, she could only work as a waiter in a restaurant, with a salary of 150 yuan a month.
At this time, Ge Shuzhen seemed to be strong, but in fact, she had been looking forward to Zhao Benshan coming back until 1994, when the iron egg died of a heart attack, Ge Shuzhen sat on the ground, completely collapsed, and cried.
After a long period of adjustment, she gradually eased up, people cannot be low for a long time, and the living must always look forward.
For the sake of her daughter, she worked hard and only hoped that Zhao Yufang would not be as uncultured as herself.
In 1999, Yufang lived up to her mother's expectations and was admitted to Dalian Foreign Chinese College, Zhao Benshan was very happy and bought a house for his mother and daughter next to the university, so that Ge Shuzhen could take care of her daughter.
So many years ago, Ge Shuzhen raised her children on the meager income of part-time work, and she also understood that Zhao Benshan would not return.
After Yufang graduated and entered the unit to work, Ge Shuzhen considered her own problems.
She found a hotel to transfer and prepared to go it alone.
Maybe she had been in the rain and wanted to hold up an umbrella for others, Ge Shuzhen invited all the employees of the previous hotel and told them that it was not easy to find a job, and if you believe her, everyone worked hard to earn money.
And just like that, the small restaurant got up and running.
Stir-fried shredded potatoes, pork stew vermicelli, Ge Shuzhen said to the staff: Our family's dishes must be large, and kimchi is free for guests.
Later, Ge Shuzhen's hotel was heavily in debt, and someone advised her that if she couldn't do this, she would be poor sooner or later. But she just didn't listen to the advice, and also made a fast food box lunch, saying that she wanted to "make small profits and sell more".
Someone said to Ge Shuzhen, in fact, you don't have to work so hard, isn't there an ex-husband Zhao Benshan? Still afraid of running out of food?
Zhao Benshan also advised Ge Shuzhen: Don't do it, you are too real to make money.
Ge Shuzhen didn't believe it, since he had no relationship with Zhao Benshan, why did he rely on him to live?
Besides, if he didn't make some appearances, others would look down on Zhao Benshan.
Gradually, the popularity of the small restaurant increased, slowly reversed the loss-making situation, and in the end, the annual revenue reached nearly one million.
Divorced for more than thirty years, Ge Shuzhen has never relied on Zhao Benshan, let alone belittled him.
And in 2009, Zhao Benshan was hospitalized due to cerebral hemorrhage, and Ge Shuzhen also went to take care of it for the first time, even if her ex-husband had hurt herself, she always treated it with her heart.
The world kissed me, but I sang in return.
Today, Ge Shuzhen is no longer the backward-minded rural woman, and she does not need the sympathy of outsiders.
Finally, I wish this woman who has worked hard, the business is getting more and more prosperous, and she enjoys her old age in peace.