He Suohuan, a writer of sexual affective psychology, writes love stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
Is a breakup a sign that an adult ends a relationship?
Not.
In reality, a considerable number of couples break up because of "gambling";
There are also couples who love each other but have to break up due to some practical problems.
Even if you are separated, I still love you.
A consulting case comes to mind.
The boy and his girlfriend were in love for 6 years, and finally they were forced to separate because the woman's parents did not agree.
What are the reasons for the breakup?
His family is poor and cannot afford to buy a house in the city where the girl lives.
Now that it has been 8 years since the breakup, the boy can finally afford to buy a house, and the girl has long been married and has children.
The boy is still single.
In the boy's heart, if he meets true love, he also needs to spend his life to forget.
How can you tell if a guy loves you after a breakup?
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There are still strong "mood swings"
From a psychological point of view:
One of the factors that make up love is the violent mood swings.
Simply put: when you are with someone of the opposite sex, he can fully mobilize your emotions.
He is by your side, you are at ease, happy, very down-to-earth;
He is not by your side, you are lost, lonely, missed;
When he is happy, you are happier than him;
When he is sad, your good mood disappears.
Love someone, emotions are very contagious.
Judge whether the boy loves you after the breakup, depending on whether he still has mood swings for you.
See a post:
The boy broke up with his girlfriend for 1 year and has not deleted WeChat.
In the middle of the night, the boy saw that the girl posted a circle of friends "injecting".
The boy drove dozens of kilometers overnight and rushed to the girl, just to see her.
In the end, there was no reunion, no abuse, and some were just unwillingness and regret for each other's feelings.
In fact, a boy who loves you deeply cannot be at peace as long as he hears your name.
Not loving someone is indifference;
To love someone is passion and attention.
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When a girl encounters difficulties, he will appear first
There is a sentiment like this:
"Even if we separate, I will appear in front of you the first time when I know that you are in trouble."
And this is exactly the performance of the guy still loving you.
He will always pay attention to your social platforms, pay attention to your life status, and pay attention to your feelings.
He doesn't bother you, just silently watches your life.
You have a good time, he will not appear;
You have a bad life, he feels sorry for you;
You are in trouble, and he is the first to come to help you.
This is because he has made it a habit to be "nice to you".
Even after separation, he still can't change this subconscious habit.
What is it like to a guy who doesn't love you?
After breaking up, I don't want to have anything to do with you again.
Even if you ask him for help, he will ignore it.
The opposite of love is not hate, but undisguised indifference.
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Willing to work hard for your "compounding"
The writer Fromm wrote this sentence:
"Love has never been just an emotion, but also a decision, a commitment, a judgment."
When a boy still loves you, he will not let you go easily.
In the bones of boys, there is a strong desire to win and conquer.
After the breakup, he will make some changes to prepare for your reunion.
Like what:
He will change his mood and let you see his emotionally stable side;
He will work hard to make a career so that you can see that you can have a good life after being with him;
He will keep in touch with your friends and know how you are doing.
Making efforts and changes for love is the attitude that boys still love you.
In the book Five Languages of Love, the author mentions that two people who truly love each other often give these things to each other:
"Words of affirmation, actions of service, physical contact, elaborate moments, mutual giving."
When getting along with each other, you can judge the degree of relationship between you through these directions.
The difference between boys' and girls' love thinking is:
After the breakup, the boys are more and more unable to come out, and over time, the more obsessions the boys have with girls;
The girl was sad at first, but soon, the girl was able to let go and start a new relationship.
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Will you still miss after you are separated from your ex?
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