Ha? Tian Pujun actually started a class?
A blogger named Jiu Gu had a curiosity about how to get along with old men, and specially signed up to learn.
As a result, I found that my past prejudice against Tian Pujun was completely consistent with my impression after meeting her at the scene.
Tian Pujun is a very screwed person, and the title of her book is "Be Cruel to Yourself", but the books are all about their own lifestyle.
"Eating Japanese food instead of tempura, I will take all new employees to do medical beauty."
Aunt Jiu wanted to learn some social etiquette, but Tian Pujun was showing off her connections the whole time.
For example, her social circle has Churchill's granddaughter, and when she mentions this, she will pause the PPT of the speech and tell everyone the details in detail.
But Aunt Jiu still learned a little from Tian Pujun, you must dare to show yourself, maybe you will meet someone who likes her own.
Although her purpose in going to this meeting is to learn how to get along with old men, in reality, Aunt Jiu has had a loving confrontation with old men.
She has had an ex of 61 years, and a while ago she participated in a blind date variety show, dating a man who was a year older than her father...
The 61-year-old prototype of Lao Wu of "Love Myth"
The undercurrent of a blind date with a 28-year-old girl is surging
There are almost no splashes in this blind date variety show, but it has attracted a lot of attention just because of Aunt Jiu's cut.
There were more than 3w noises in the comment area, some said that she was ugly, and some had different attitudes towards her views...
The topic is high, and it is expected that it will cause heated discussions after the broadcast.
First of all, a girl who is less than 30 years old is actually on a blind date with a man with gray hair who has received a two-month pension, and this age difference is gimmicky enough.
Secondly, the two of them discussed the topic of women's rights in the show, and the collision of the two views also made the audience watch with relish, which filled the program with effect.
(Inserted here, this man is the prototype of Lao Wu in "Love Myth")
Men take the initiative to throw questions, do you think women should be independent?
Asked Aunt Jiu's opinion on women's independence, she cleverly asked back, what is independence?
Behind this question is actually a rhetorical question, how do you think women can be considered independent.
The other party did not answer her question, and asked her if she had seen "The Second Sex", and Aunt Jiu said very frankly that she thought it was very obscure, and she didn't read it when she saw the second page.
The man begins to tell his impressions, and the content of the book is to experiment with how to turn women into the first sex.
Aunt Jiu's face was full of disagreement, and her answer also left him helpless.
Aunt Jiu believed that Beauvoir did not understand more than herself on the topic of women's rights, but she did not understand better than Beauvoir.
Many people quarreled about this conversation, some netizens thought that the man's question was ridiculous, and some thought that Jiu Gu's answer was too conceited.
What she meant by saying this was that de Beauvoir, as a feminist in a certain environment in the West in the last century, was not able to solve the problem of the current gender dilemma in China.
At the same time, neither her own nor Beauvoir's statements speak for all women.
The following man's sentence can see the difference in thinking and gender identity between the two sides.
The man believes that without Beauvoir, women all over the world have not been awakened.
Aunt Jiu smiled and said that there are superb women everywhere in the world, such as Qiu Jin.
In fact, there are many such women, but they need to reach a certain height to be seen.
The dialogue between the two of them has no spark of love, but it can be seen through the reflection of girls that some women's views on love will now pay more attention to each other's thoughts, and age and appearance are not the main options.
But does the broadening of acceptance represent a certain degree of "not picking"? You can take a look at Aunt Jiu's answer to this.
There were 61 years of ex
Fall in love with an American homeless man
Blind date with someone older than his father, what is even more eye-opening is that Aunt Jiu once had two ex-exes who made people's jaws drop.
She also did not shy away from this, and did not think that because she was younger, she would be on the side of the relationship.
Why?
Of course, she is not trying to get the other party old, but more of a yearning for personality charm, so love is not a way of value exchange in her eyes.
As she said, her 61-year ex and homeless man is not that she doesn't pick, but that she values each other's ideas more than her youth and nationality in getting along with people.
Her 61-year-old predecessor was the organizer of events in the Burning Man area, and getting along with him taught her that mature relationships don't need to quarrel.
Another former she calls a homeless man is an artist and blockchain worker who studied under the Beat generation of poet Gary.
But she did not use more eyes to limit the other party's thoughts, but hoped to be able to get emotional nourishment in an equal environment.
Despite the propaganda on the Internet that wise people do not fall in love, Aunt Jiu dares to admit that she is a little fool who loves bathing and likes to indulge in the feelings that love brings to her.
At the same time, different voices appeared in the view of love for Aunt Jiu.
"Aren't you an independent woman? Are you still in love? ”
"It's funny to say that you are an independent woman, turn your head and woo with you."
These comments validate the stereotype of independent women as "love has nothing to do with me, lying depressed on money every day," rather than fanfare courtship and being tied to love.
Jiu Gu is the epitome of a part of modern women
Independence and the need for love do not conflict
Aunt Jiu is the epitome of some modern women, who are keen on love and have a clear mind, and do not want to step into a relationship in a vague way.
Those comments questioned, isn't she an independent woman? Why do you want to be in love so much and go on a blind date?
But being an independent woman does not mean that you will lose some choices.
Independent women shouldn't just be a multiple-choice question, as they are on TV.
And the public uses this word to bind her, which is nothing more than her state in the relationship, breaking these people's recognition and acceptance of traditional women's love fantasies.
Aunt Jiu is a humorous and funny stand-up comedian by profession, and she is also doing marketing projects for brand creativity, and has previously organized many women's events.
And her desire for love has made some netizens discount the label of independent women.
Coincidentally, when the Taiwanese drama "I May Not Love You" was a hit, the heroine Cheng Youqing was fierce in her career, and she was the head of the sales area that everyone admired, and she was labeled as a sober heroine with frequent golden sentences.
Later, because she fell into an unhealthy relationship, her hesitation and "love brain" were exposed, and her reputation was completely reversed.
Because of the emotional entanglement with her ex-boyfriend Ding Liwei, the audience judged that she could not become an independent woman, but her experience of being entangled and unable to be consistent also expressed the transformation process of an independent woman trapped in traditional culture.
Especially in the ending of the Taiwanese drama "The Cultivation of a Common Girl 2", the most fierce scolded by netizens is the period when Chen Jialing got married and had children, thinking that she pursues freedom so much and people with independent thinking should not fall into the cliché.
But can't independent women have the right to choose to have a happy family?
It seems that in the eyes of these people, independent women are at odds with the desire to fall in love and get married and have children.
But the sheep wants to say, if various frameworks are used to limit women's independence, isn't it moving back into another new yoke?
Nowadays, there is a lot of rhetoric and labels about the definition of an independent woman, but don't forget that the right to define it should be in their own hands.