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18 things you want to stop doing to yourself from now on

18 things you want to stop doing to yourself from now on

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Mr. Lu Xun once said:

"The premise of a person's luck is actually that he has the ability to change himself."

Life is short, energy is limited, and changing yourself starts with changing your life state.

In a good life, you must not only know what you can do, but also know what you can't do.

Timely stop loss is the wisest choice.

Today I will make a "life stop list" for you who want to become better.

About family

No matter how far we go, we can't get out of the family's care.

If you want family happiness, start by stopping envy, valuing your family, and giving your heart.

1. Don't neglect the little happiness around you

When you feel that life is not good, first check whether you are "short-sighted" and ignore the small happiness around you.

Waking up in the morning, the smell of food wafting from the kitchen; The heat is unbearable, cool after a heavy rain;

A warm hug when tired; When you return late, someone is waiting for you to come home...

There are many ordinary happy moments in life, which you need to experience with your heart.

Bian Zhilin said:

"You stand on the bridge and look at the view, and the people watching the view watch you from upstairs."

When you envy others, you are also the envy of others.

2. Don't put your family second

Family and outsiders are never a parallel line.

Family members are the parents who give us life, brothers and sisters who are connected by blood.

There are many people who share your joy.

With you through thick and thin, only your family is infinitely inclusive.

Don't think of relying on behind you when you need help; When I was sad, I knew to go home to heal my injuries.

Home is not a hotel along the way, but the destination of your life.

3. Throwing tantrums casually with those closest to you

In life, do not solve problems with emotions, emotions will only increase the problem.

Don't leave your good temper to outsiders and your bad mood to your loved ones.

They know your hardships and understand that you are not easy, because they love you, they will put up with you and let you.

But over time, they will also be disappointed and injured.

Let the gentle and humble self stand by the side of the family, and be kind to others starts from being kind to the people around us.

18 things you want to stop doing to yourself from now on

 About feelings

Feelings are beautiful and fragile, and it is not easy to know each other, and they can be done and cherished.

If you want to have a long-term relationship, start with careful care and brave pursuit.

4. Don't lose the courage to love someone

We all long to be loved and warmed.

However, the sea of people is vast, and the probability of meeting the right person at one time is very low.

Some people are just a guest in your life.

Do not neglect the thousands of flowers in front of you for the sake of a tree that does not bloom.

Don't close your feelings because of an unworthy person.

You know, those who believe in love will reap true love.

5. Don't forget love in marriage

Love in marriage may lack the fragrance of roses, but it has the warmth of three meals a day.

The relationship has not gone far, but in a different way.

There are some small frictions between two people together, and small conflicts are inevitable.

Just because the other party did not do well once, you can't deny all the good.

Don't walk and forget it, love and love and get tired.

Don't wait for someone to go far before you understand the value of the other person.

About interpersonal communication

Good friendship is not waiting, and good friends are not sought.

If you want to get along with people, start by choosing friends and managing relationships.

6. People who don't like you, don't have to please

Yishu once said:

"Life is just a few decades, and the most important thing is to satisfy yourself, not to please others."

People who like you will narrow down your shortcomings;

People who don't like you will magnify your shortcomings.

Not having to go to great lengths to please people who don't like you means nothing but wasting time.

Don't let your sincerity become cheap.

Instead of "seeking the near and far", it is better to cherish the people in front of you.

7. Stop over-consuming human favors and store feelings often

The relationship between people is like two ends of a seesaw.

To maintain balance, the two sides must be evenly matched.

People in high places must know how to press down, let each other go up, and the high and low can constantly experience the fun of the game.

In the adult world, mutual benefit is what makes everyone happy.

A truly comfortable relationship is not a consumption, but a long time without fatigue and no burden.

Stephen Covey said:

"You have to see every interpersonal interaction as an opportunity to deposit money in someone else's emotional account."

You know, favors are more expensive than money.

In the emotional account, deposit more, consume less, carry the small things yourself, and help each other in the big things.

18 things you want to stop doing to yourself from now on

8. Do not skimp on praise for others

Saying goes:

"Good words are warm in winter, and evil words hurt people in June."

The power of language should not be underestimated.

Praise is the best lubricant in interpersonal communication.

To praise others for pleasing themselves, a good life needs to be created by oneself.

If you see others as demons, you will live in hell;

If you see others as angels, you will live in heaven.

When you want to compliment someone, say it out loud and don't skimp on it.

Good interpersonal relationships can make your life go more smoothly.

About healthy living

If life doesn't spoil you, you have to be kind to yourself.

If you want to live this life well, start by stopping consumption, adjusting your mentality, and valuing life.

9. Do not indulge yourself and live in moderation

 Zweig said:

"When a person is young, he always thinks that illness and death will only patronize others."

I usually think that I am not bad, and when you are sick, you will know that health cannot withstand squandering.

Good living habits need to be cultivated slowly.

We can relax, but we must not indulge.

In the second half of life, drink less, quit staying up late, eat healthily, work regularly, and don't let the people who love you worry about you.

10. Do not blindly compare, life has a rhythm

I have seen this passage:

"Don't be anxious, people have different rhythms of life.

Some people make instant noodles for three minutes, and some people make soup for three hours; Someone has delivered takeaway, and someone has just cut the dish. ”

If there are a thousand kinds of people in the world, there are a thousand ways to live, do not measure your own life with someone else's ruler.

Live at your own pace, you don't have to disrupt yourself to catch up with whom.

You just have to mix the tone of your life, you don't have to live like someone else.

11. Don't be picky at will, life is warm

No matter how turbid the water is, it will become clear after time precipitation;

No matter how bad your life is, as long as you work hard enough, you can live well.

Life is a long journey, some people win at the beginning, and some win at the end.

Fate is never partial, and luck only befalls those who live seriously.

What is sad and happy is life, and what is bitter and sweet is life.

Don't accuse, don't be picky, don't let yourself live in the shadows.

Look at the positive aspects of life, be a sunflower to the sun, and bear the fruits of your own life.

12. Not greedy for cheapness, quality of life

Spending 50 yuan to buy a piece of clothing to wear for a year is more cost-effective than spending 100 yuan to buy a dress to wear for 3 years.

You get what you pay for, and if you can ask for the best, don't retreat to the second.

When you are busy and forget to enjoy life, your life is also discounted.

Making money is not about becoming rich, it's about being able to afford what you like and go where you want to go.

Within your own means, spend your own money and live a quality of life.

13. Do not live and live, life has a sense of ritual

How long have you not cooked a meal for your parents?

How long has it been since you bought a bouquet of flowers for your lover?

How long has it been since you dressed up for a friend's party?

Life without a sense of ritual is like a desert without greenery, lacking a trace of life.

The Little Prince says:

"Ritual is to make a certain day different from others, to make a moment different from others."

Life is good, don't get by.

Don't let life become survival, after all, in addition to the immediate situation, there are poems and distant places worth pursuing.

The life is your own, and you must live well in this life.

About self-growth

As the old saying goes, living to be old, learning to be old, and growing up is a lifetime thing.

If you want to progress quickly, start by stopping your fantasies and enriching yourself.

14. Do not do nothing, go and open up new horizons of yourself

Someone once asked, "What is the fastest way to destroy someone?" ”

The answer is: "Let him be idle for a long time." ”

The knife does not need to rust, and the person does not move and get sick.

People who have been staying in their comfort zone and stagnating are like caged birds and fish in a pond, losing the joy of life.

There is no such thing as unearned gain, only harvest by hard work.

Don't stop at the age of struggle, don't let your future self regret this moment.

15. Stop fantasizing and step by step towards your goal

After so many years in society, you will eventually understand:

The ideal is plump, the reality is skinny.

From now on, stop unrealistic fantasies.

Ten thousand tall buildings rise from the ground, and one step to the sky is empty.

Those who can't do the small things in front of them can hardly achieve big things.

If there is a shortcut in the world, it is the effort to lean down!

Maybe we'll be ordinary all our lives, but we can try to live less mediocre.

16. Don't waste energy and use your 24 hours well

"Tomorrow after tomorrow, how many tomorrows? I was born for tomorrow, and everything will be done. ”

People who are used to putting things off until tomorrow can't live well today.

Time is fair for everyone, twenty-four hours a day,

Some people, relaxed and measured, live their days into a poem;

Some people, muddled, mixed up the days into chicken feathers.

How you use your time each day determines who you become.

Remember that you are willing to wait for time, and time is not waiting for you.

Not wasting time is the greatest respect for life.

17. Don't be afraid of failure, it's a big deal to start all over again

Opportunities are reserved for those who are prepared, and even more so for those who dare to try.

Don't be afraid to back off if you don't do well.

Life is already nothing, so why fear losing everything.

The perfect first step is to finish, and the first step to arrive is to set off.

Mu Xin said:

"The so-called bottomless abyss, going down, is also a thousand miles ahead."

The journey of life is to break through the barriers of life and open up a new world with courage.

18. Don't stop learning, always update your brain

Book Mountain has a road to diligent, and there is a way to seek knowledge;

There is no end to learning the sea, and there is no end to learning.

Times are evolving, knowledge is being updated.

Your academic qualifications represent the past, and your learning ability represents the future.

Those who can have the last laugh must be those who can continue to learn.

If you don't want to be eliminated by society, you can update your brain through learning.

Only knowledge can face the future.

18 things you want to stop doing to yourself from now on

Life begins as a blank piece of paper, colored with kindness and coloring with experience.

If you want the picture to be beautiful, the random graffiti obviously does not achieve the desired effect.

It is better to carefully layout and plan, remove life impurities, and leave the most beautiful color.

Life needs to move forward, and it needs to be well designed.

From now on, stop meaningless consumption and spend time on important things.

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