At the beginning of 2023, the warmest thing in domestic entertainment may be that Pan Yueming and Dong Jie, who have been divorced for 11 years, chose the "Great Reconciliation of the Century".
The cause of the incident: their son Dingding celebrated his 14th birthday on February 5, and they would have celebrated the child in their own way, but this time they chose to put Mustard aside and focus on each other again.
This move sparked heated discussions among netizens, and some people even picked up leek boxes that they had shared once before, so they were suspected of getting back together.
But in fact?
Can they go back in time?
1. A one-man wedding
Before the outbreak of the "divorce war" with Pan Yueming, Dong Jie has always been the "white moonlight" in the hearts of the audience.
Born in Dalian, Liaoning Province, she was already versatile by the age of 10 and was admitted to the military to study dance.
And Pan Yueming, who is 6 years older than her, is an authentic Beijing child, who began to serve as the host of Beijing Satellite TV's children's program "Seven Colors of Light" early, which can be regarded as a child star debut.
Dong Jie shot his first advertisement at the age of 15, and the following year he appeared on the Spring Festival Gala for several consecutive years;
In the same year, Pan Yueming missed the art examination due to filming, and because his cultural course results were not up to standard, he missed Beiying and Chinese opera, and had to enter the art department of Beijing Normal University the following year.
The lives of the two can be said to have intersected at this point - they are both preparing to become actors.
Their road to fame seems to be smooth:
Pan Yueming became famous in 1999 for participating in the movie "Very Summer"; Dong Jie was also selected by Zhang Yimou for her outstanding performance in the Spring Festival Gala, and stood out from more than 50,000 competitors and entered the filming of the crew of "Happy Time".
It is such a pair of men and women who stand together and look like they are made in heaven, and met on the set of the period drama "Red Clothes Place".
Although they are all "old actors" who have debuted for a few years, it is said that Dong Jie made more than 20 mistakes in a row because of nervousness when filming his first scene.
Rival actor Pan Yueming not only did not get angry, but also developed an extra affection for her: "This girl is too simple!" ”
After that, the two spent an unforgettable time in the crew for more than 3 months, and the relationship gradually warmed up, and finally a scandal came out.
But for nearly two years, their relationship has always been "seeing flowers in the fog" in the eyes of the outside world, and later an insider broke the news that it was because Dong Jie was at the peak of her career and had always been a "jade girl" image, so there was no official announcement of the relationship.
But after they got married, they have been on talk shows together more than once, revealing that the bits and pieces of love are all sweet.
After separating from the crew of "Red Clothes Place", the two used text messages to exchange heartfelt complaints every day, and Dong Jie was reluctant to delete the text messages, just after the mobile phone memory was full, he changed to a new mobile phone, and copied the sweet words into the book.
In September 2008, a man and a woman who had been in love for 3 years finally decided to enter marriage, and at this time, Dong Jie was more than 5 months pregnant.
Before this, the relationship between the two had also been impacted, which seemed to have laid a shadow for this marriage.
Before getting married, Dong Jie had a scandal, and the other party was male star Tony Leung.
The two met in 2003, when she signed with Wong Kar-wai's company, and later worked together several times, and it was rumored to be ambiguous.
Even during a relationship with Pan Yueming in 2007, Dong Jie was photographed flying to Hong Kong to celebrate Tony Leung's birthday.
Later, Tony Leung also went to the gold store to buy a bracelet for Dong Jie, and when the news was raging, Pan Yueming came forward to support his girlfriend: "If something is coming at me, don't point fingers at Dong Jie behind your back." ”
At the beginning of the following year, he finally proposed to Dong Jie, but it is said that the proposal scene was quite perfunctory, Pan Yueming wore a vest and casual pants.
After seeing Dong Jie, he took out the ring he had just bought and only said a few words to her: "This is quite expensive, give it to you." ”
After getting Dong Jie's "yes", he went out filming non-stop, and Dong Jie, who was already pregnant, had to handle the wedding by himself throughout the process.
It was not until the wedding day that Pan Yueming rushed back from the crew, and after lighting up a face, he returned to the crew non-stop and continued to work.
The whole wedding is also very simple, compared to other stars, it can even be said to be shabby, only 17 relatives and friends came to the scene to bless.
Despite this, Dong Jie happily married.
2. From "Jade Girl" to "Lust Girl"
Years later, Yang Lan asked her on the show if she would complain about her husband when she was preparing for the wedding with a big belly, but she just said no, because he was working.
Even if she is 8 or 9 months pregnant, her husband is still filming outside without company.
But in fact, Dong Jie at that time was only 28 years old, at the best stage of his career.
I thought that life would be like this, the male protagonist was outside, and the female protagonist was living in the mainland, but what I didn't expect was that when my son was 3 months old, Pan Yueming had an accident during the filming process.
There is a shot to avoid a mudslide, but the car accidentally almost loses its life.
Dong Jie, who had just been out of confinement, came to the hospital as soon as possible, took care of her for 3 months, and "robbed" her husband who was issued a critical illness notice several times.
After that, Pan Yueming and Dong Jie recorded "Lu Yu Has an Appointment" together, in which he said affectionately: "I married the best wife." ”
After that, the couple once became a "model" in the internal entertainment circle, but suddenly there was a divorce in 2012, and Dong Jie also preemptively announced the breakup.
Not only that, she also exposed various bloody problems encountered in her marriage through her agent, including Pan Yueming's "gambling addiction and rudeness."
But unexpectedly, just a few months later, the video of Dong Jie and actor Wang Dazhi kissing was exposed.
The "jade girl", who has always appeared in the image of "white moonlight", suddenly became a "dang woman" that everyone shouted at.
Public opinion also began to reverse, Pan Yueming became a Beijing master who did nothing wrong, and Dong Jie was nailed to the pillar of shame alone, which is still impossible to let go.
But when 10 years later, when I delve into this marriage, the unspeakable "scars" behind it are gradually clear.
I remember that before Dong Jie was divorced, when she was recording a program, she suddenly received a bouquet of flowers from her husband to the program group, and she cried immediately.
The reason is that after the two got married, Pan Yueming never played romance, and did not take the initiative to buy any chocolates and flowers for his wife, feeling that it was not real enough.
But as a woman, Dong Jie may pay more attention to these seemingly unreal rituals, which stems from her growing up environment.
She began drifting north when she was 10 years old, not to get better, but to leave home quickly—because her father was too busy, her mother was too fierce, and she wanted to escape.
It is said that during her years in the military, she hardly called home.
But after having her own small home, Dong Jie began to yearn for emotional stability and security, and also hoped for a better life.
But Pan Yueming, who grew up in an alley, seems to be unable to understand - compared to his wife's sensitivity, he opened up and closed, especially after a car accident, it was more like looking down on fame and fortune.
In desperation, Dong Jie began to make a comeback after giving birth, and entered the crew of "Please Forgive Me" under the arrangement of the agent, so he met his ugly Wang Dazhi.
Although Wang Dazhi can't compare with Pan Yueming in terms of appearance, he is a veteran of the love scene, chasing nurseries and prodding Yuan Quan in his early years, and his emotional intelligence is not low, and he knows how to please women.
Perhaps "snubbed" by Pan Yueming's straight male personality for too long, Dong Jie completely "sank" after several collaborations with him.
At that time, because of the gap in appearance and fame, this disgraceful relationship caused huge discussion after it was exposed, and also made Dong Jie bear a heavy negative public opinion.
3. Only reconcile, don't get back together
In 2013, Pan Yueming, who had experienced a huge storm, appeared on "Every Day Up", talking about his son tears on the spot.
Since then, every time he talks about this marriage in an interview, the topic is always "Dong Jie won't let him see the children."
It is precisely because of this that Pan Yueming sent blessings on his son's birthday for N consecutive years, until the relationship between the two exes began to break the ice this year.
Some people deduce based on the location of the two, the launch time, and the leek box sent out together mentioned above, that they may want to get back together.
But in fact, Pan Yueming has a girlfriend who has lived together for many years, and the two met when they collaborated on "White Night Chasing", the girl's name is Yin Shuyi, who is 10 years younger than him.
Not long ago, Dong Jie was also photographed dating a mysterious man, and it is suspected that he has a new dynamic in his relationship.
Some people also speculate that the two chose to reconcile after 10 years of relationship breakdown, which may be related to their son's top top, and some people even think that it may be the top that has grown up and is ready to debut, so his parents work together to help him.
If so, it may be the best ending.
Looking at the emotional pull between Pan and Dong, there is no difference from ordinary marriage - it's just that men are too busy to understand romance, women pay but don't get what they want in return, and a big mistake is made by a thought.
And the former couple of Jia Nailiang and Li Xiaolu, who showed their affection in public that year, are in a similar situation to them.
Before Li Xiaolu did not "do her hair", she revealed herself on the show more than once that she got married when she was 6 months pregnant, but her husband went out to film the next day:
"When I got married, the cave house wasn't in trouble! On the second day of the wedding, Liang Liang was called over to film. I was quite aggrieved, and then I cried in bed holding my stomach. ”
A long time later, she also revealed the situation after the two got married:
"There used to be a year or two, almost half a year to be together, maybe only once a month, or even two months to see each other."
Especially after giving birth to their daughter Tian Xin, the three have been on parent-child variety shows together, and it can be clearly seen in the show that the child and the mother are very close, and Jia Nailiang can't even change diapers.
Later, Li Xiaolu said bluntly in an interview: "When he loved you at that time, it was a kind of attachment that he couldn't get, but after he got it, he began to stop expressing it..."
The meaning of the words could not be more obvious, so she and her "brother" PGone later had a hair incident, destroying her star path overnight.
After that, the two were not as tense as Dong Jie and Pan Yueming, and they were often photographed together to accompany their children to grow up.
However, in the face of netizens speculating that "the two have got back together", Li Xiaolu was suspected of being in love with hip-hop singer Zhao Tao, and was also found to still wear the same style as PGone.
And the same celebrities who go out to work after getting married or having children are also there:
For example, Ying'er, who still maintains the AA system with her husband, also runs the wedding by herself, and rushes to film on the second day of her wedding.
There are also Tang Yan, Lin Xinru, etc., all of whom "took time" to get married, and then quickly returned to the set and continued to work.
Perhaps as an actor, the nature of work is like this, but good feelings need to be managed with heart.
There is no intention of washing Dong Jie at all, but looking at it again after 10 years, the two seem to be inappropriate except for their good looks.
Today's so-called "Great Reconciliation of the Century" may be for children, whatever its purpose.
Just like Li Xiaolu and Jia Nailiang, although they chose to divorce for various bloody reasons.
But as long as they are in front of their daughters, they should be fathers and mothers, there is no war, and they do not have to continue to be tied together for the eyes of the public, which is good.
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