It's Valentine's Day again, is the TA around you the same as before?
Life is made up of successive accidents and regrets, and the mysterious thing of love is even more unexpected. Someone came at the wrong time, someone went to the wrong room, someone was washed away by time to wash away yesterday's tenderness, and some people stood in place but couldn't wait for the look ahead...
Reliving old dreams is a luxury, but sometimes singing "It's a pity it's not you" many times cannot change the fact that "some people are not there once they miss it".
On this special day, let's take a plate of those old couples who loved but could not be together in the end, use gossip as a mirror to see the impermanence of the world, and also use the stories of others to shallowly recall those years and deceased people who never returned.
Good times of youth | Huang Yi & Nie Yuan
A few years ago, "Yanxi Raiders" gave Nie Yuan, who has not been a big hit, taste the taste of middle-aged popularity, and Huang Yi, who finally jumped out of the quagmire of marriage, also shined on the wind of fire variety shows and live broadcasts, it can't be said that the second spring of his career, at least the state is back.
After many twists and turns, it is also a kind of consummation for this former couple to have a quiet and good time.
But because Li Yuhu Qi Tianlei in "On the Wrong Flower Palanquin Married to Lang" is too deeply rooted in the hearts of the people to a pair of Chinese drama CPs, a generation of TV children can't help but think - how good it would be if the two of them in reality could usher in a happy ending like a TV series!
When the two fell in love, they were still young lads and girls who did not know the height of the sky, in their early 20s, with high spirits and full of ambition, and they both felt that they were unique existences and would definitely be able to make great achievements to shock the world.
So they are very proud and willful, everyone is not convinced by whom, no one is willing to accommodate anyone, quarrels at every turn, or the kind that gets started.
When filming "On the Wrong Flower Sedan and Marrying Lang" together, they were so angry that they pulled each other's hoods on the set, which can be said to be a frightening barbaric block.
So eloquent, as if telling someone else's story
But good times are also good.
Huang Yi himself is a Shanghainese, and it was because of his relationship with Nie Yuan that he came into contact with Guizhou cuisine and fell in love with spicy food. It's not just a change in the taste of eating, but falling in love has opened a door to her more authentic self.
Some people are born in the wrong place, how can a girl like Huang Yi not eat spicy? She just needs the "dialing" of nobles to find the hometown of her heart, and Nie Yuan is undoubtedly her nobleman.
In addition, the two children have times when they fight, and there are times when they depend on each other. At that time, the play "On the Wrong Flower Palanquin Married to Lang" was first selected by Huang Yi to play Li Yuhu, and finished Nie Yuan, who Huang Yi recommended to the director.
It's not completely insightful, she has her own selfishness - "If I can play a couple, wouldn't there be no need to run in?" ”
It turns out that this true couple played the flirting between Li Yuhu and Qi Tianlei really naturally. And at that time, the whole crew did not know their real relationship, and the big guy still wondered: How can these two have such a tacit understanding and play so well?
Young people are like this, on the one hand, they are angular and unwilling to compromise easily, on the other hand, they are inevitably afraid and unconfident in the face of this strange and vast world, and they need to have a companion on the way forward.
From this point of view, both of them are lucky, there is someone who can accompany you to quarrel, but also take you to a career and walk at night, neither in vain this good time of youth, nor in vain to meet each other.
Years later, the reporter of the good thing took the video of Huang Yi talking about his relationship to Nie Yuan, who was filming on the set.
When he saw that Huang Yi said that "I was not stable enough, I didn't know how to cherish it, I kept arguing, and when I lost my feelings, I found that the three years were actually quite good memories", Nie Yuan suddenly choked and tried to bite his teeth before gradually calming his emotions.
After that, the reporter kept asking the reason for the breakup, he first explained the circle seriously and rationally, and then seemed to realize the root of the problem, and came to a heart-warming sentence summary: "The main reason is... Gone. ”
yes, it's gone.
Of course, the love of youth is turbulent, but no matter how hot love is, it also cools down, and frequent angry eyes will consume the initial passion and love.
When the cooling wears down to a certain node, there is no more, if you can't go back, you can't go back, everyone can only be polite to be friends, support each other, and silently bless.
Sugar over-turning arsenic | Pan Yueming & Dong Jie
As we all know, not long ago, Pan Yueming and Dong Jie, a former couple who had been in trouble for many years, ushered in the dawn of "world reconciliation".
In previous years, his son celebrated his birthday, and Pan Yueming silently posted Weibo by himself. This year, he suddenly wasn't lonely, not only posted a video of fireworks on the top, but also @ his ex-wife Dong Jie. On the other hand, Dong Jie not only replied, but also added Pan Yueming back to the watchlist.
For a time, rumors of the two getting back together flew all over the world.
I wanted to say at the time, is everyone so obsessed with the reunion of the broken mirror? Don't you remember how fierce they were back then?
Eleven years ago, they divorced, not only is it not peaceful, but it can also be said that it is a short encounter, sword and shadow, and the battle situation is so tragic that it can splash your blood even close.
First, Dong Jiefang released the reason for the divorce - Pan Yueming was addicted to gambling, rude and rude (suspected of domestic violence), and owed a huge amount of gambling debts. After that, all kinds of small materials that did not know the truth or fakes also blackened the originally innocent and handsome national students.
The rumors are true after a long time, and Pan Yueming's reputation and career have suddenly fallen to the bottom.
Who would have thought that about two years later, this divorce event ushered in a 180-degree reversal - Zhuo Wei exposed the video of Dong Jie Wang Dazhi's kiss, and the woman's cheating in marriage was basically solid.
Subsequently, the result of Pan Yueming's case against Dong Jie's brokerage team for rumors and defamation also came out - Pan Yueming won the case, but with the naked eye, the blow to his heart and career was irreparable.
At this point, the hat of "femme fatale dressed as a pig and eating a tiger" was buttoned on Dong Jie's head, and the generation of pure little flowers who played the cold autumn never returned and plummeted. Pan Yueming's comeback is also the image of a rough uncle in online dramas many years later.
A divorce, both lose.
Just the smoke that permeated the whole network back then, the battle that did not kill the other party and did not stop, was not at all inferior to today's Wang Xiaofei.
But as the saying goes, the depth of hatred stems from love.
The two of them did not sprinkle sugar openly back then. Especially Pan Yueming, acting very in love, when they had not yet established a relationship, people asked about the scandal, he directly replied resentfully: Hey, if only it were true, but unfortunately it was not the truth.
After being together, Weibo is even more inseparable from Xiao Dong in eight out of ten.
For example, "I know that you didn't think about me when you concentrated on work, but I didn't work when I concentrated on you", and then "Don't talk about the past life, don't talk about the next life, we only have this generation, no matter what others think, it's right to take care of each other with an iron heart."
The deeds of the two show affection are also high-sweet warnings:
Filming together in the crew requires hand in hand; The woman will insist on getting up early to prepare breakfast for the man; The man said that he wanted a daughter, so that he could have a little Dong Jie, but Dong Jie said that it was good to have a son, because like Pan Yueming...
Ah, what a fuss!
Presumably, when the two were in love, they were thinking about the sky for a long time instead of tearing each other apart.
However, love is easy and marriage is not easy, long-term stable intimacy is not enough to be maintained by a few love words, but also requires compromise, tolerance, understanding and many other wisdom to get along.
But it doesn't hurt to go to the end, at least you can leave some memories and expose some problems, as Pan Yueming summed up afterwards: if there is a problem with the marriage, both parties must be at fault, and it must not be unilateral.
There are no absolute innocents, and there are no absolute perpetrators. As for the details, I strongly recommend that they say it themselves on "Goodbye Lover", and the broadcast rate is absolutely explosive.
Friends after all | Hu Bing & Qu Ying
God knows how many post-80/90s children's urban fashion enlightenment was given by Hu Bing Quying in "True Love Confession".
Handsome men and beautiful women, urban white-collar workers, two supermodels walking side by side in the middle of high-rise buildings and traffic, simply not too eye-catching, too dengy!
In reality, however, they have never been together and have been known as friends for 20 years. Others can still have some sweet pasts, but they only have regrets here, and they can't even tell the story.
The explanation given by Hu Bing is - the timing is always wrong, he has an object when she is alone, and when he is alone, she is always in love non-stop, Luo Zhongxu for a while, Li Yapeng for a while, anyway, he has never been able to get his turn Hu Bing.
But a very subtle point is that Hu Bing is a male girlfriend for Qu Ying. He was no ordinary friend, and he was often the first person she could think of when she was vulnerable and sad and needed comfort and help.
When she broke up with Li Yapeng, the heartbroken Qu Ying directly spent 2,000 yuan to take a taxi from Zhejiang to Shanghai Hu Bing's home to cry, which is a sense of security that is difficult for ordinary female girlfriends to give, right?
Qu Ying would also take Hu Bing to buy clothes, and when Hu Bing thought it was for himself, the ruthless fact immediately woke him up - it turned out that his task today was only to try on clothes.
Hu Bing has expressed his love for Qu Ying more than once, and many years later, he even confessed his true feelings to Qu Ying directly on the plane, not for the result, but he didn't want to hold it.
Of course, in the end, there really is no final result that we want to see.
The theme song of "True Confession" is called "Not Just Friends", but the hero and heroine in reality can only be friends, and if there is no accident, they will still be friends in the future, always friends.
This case vividly tells us that it is really difficult for men and women to have a so-called pure friendship. If it seems that there are, there are probably two possibilities - first, at least one party is not interested in the opposite sex; Second, one party is unrequited and the other does not call.
Hu Bing Qu Ying obviously belongs to the second type.
If Hu Bing did not have love, he could not be willing to be the woman's emotional trash can and warm haven; If Qu Ying also happens to like it, they are going in both directions, how can there be so many missed opportunities? Is there really no time gap in 20 years that happens to be single?
If you want to, talk about it early.
Qu Ying in "Have Something to Say"
What timing, what family and brothers, are all excuses that the woman uses to paralyze me. She hopes to enjoy this care and care, but does not want to fall in love with it and cannot give people corresponding feedback.
What's the whole thing? She has to brainwash herself and reconcile her cognition—"We are good buddies, he treats me as a good friend, then I also treat him as a good friend." ”
Then she will subconsciously behave sluggish and busy, maintain her inner order by avoiding facts, and reduce her sense of indebtedness.
So ah, where there are ifs, there is only cause and effect. What you think is difficult is actually the best ending that people want.
However, the unfinished can often be preserved, and if they are really together, what we will be left with may be another kind of lament.
It's hard to hold hands from afar | Lin Zhiling & Yan Chengxu
This pair of golden children and jade girls have a similar appearance and are very eye-catching, but their family circumstances can be said to be very different:
Yan Chengxu is a poor boy, so poor that his family has no money to see a doctor, he has to go up the mountain to collect medicine, he is so poor that he can only wear a yellow-washed school uniform, and he has to shoulder the burden of supporting his family at a young age and see the white eyes of the world.
Although I later had luck to become a big star and turn over salted fish, the sensitive inferiority formed by playing small has penetrated deep into the bone marrow.
Lin Chi-ling, the daughter of a manufacturing tycoon in Taiwan Province, also went to Canada to study, studied economics and art, was knowledgeable, well-cultivated, and a proper lady.
The combination of poor boy and eldest lady is not right.
But they all entered the entertainment industry more than 20 years ago without asking the origin of the hero, the two started as models, knew each other, supported each other, loved each other, and then merged and constantly entangled, and finally still had a fate.
Yan Chengxu's problem seems to be bigger.
His sensitive and fragile personality always makes him unable to open himself, and he is always worried about feelings and not brave enough. Today, more than forty people are still like a big boy who needs to be carefully cared for.
When asked about relationships, he also always reflected on himself: I am not good enough, I am bad myself, and I am not able to give people a sense of security.
Alas, I really want to ask: what is it to be competent? When will it be capable?
Children with low self-esteem will always be particularly demanding on themselves, always feel that they must be very good and perfect in order to have certain qualifications, such as the qualification to make friends with others, the qualification to be loved, otherwise, they will always watch in place, waiting for the moment of 100% preparation.
But as everyone knows, the ability to love is precisely the belief and courage to believe that you are worthy of love and can bring warmth to others, no matter what kind of bear you are now. The loved one must be resolute and calm enough, rather than constantly hesitating and suffering from time to time.
Yan Chengxu always says that he is a big boy, but boys can't live a life, women have no obligation to wait for you to grow from a boy to a man, and you can't afford to wait.
And Sister Zhiling's side seems to have been a mature big woman for a long time, and she has always been very appropriate in her words and actions, and she is impeccable in how she looks at it.
So why is she so smart and sleek, so fond of the inferiority Yan Chengxu?
This may be the little rebellion that she rarely has.
Lin Zhiling's family and profession have very strict disciplines for her, such as "to be a lady show" and "to be an otaku goddess", she needs to be sweet, sensible, keep smiling, but also smart not sharp, beautiful not dull.
Such a meticulous life also needs some indecency to give her some breathing space.
In some ways, Yan Chengxu is her opposite, she is notoriously watertight and high emotional intelligence, while Seung-wook is notoriously emotional and stupid-mouthed, silent, sensitive, and melancholy, which has not changed since his debut.
Perhaps she just needs to see a possibility in Yan Chengxu - in fact, people do not have to live decently, and showing a sense of vulnerability can also make people very attractive.
The seemingly bad Yan Chengxu is probably the outlet-of-control outlet under Lin Zhiling's strong control, and his emotions hide some kind of self-release ideal, which of course can also arouse her motherly desire for protection.
For this reason, she has been under great pressure, and Lin Zhiling's parents will also urge marriage, and also hope that she will marry a husband who is in charge.
After breaking up with Yan Chengxu in the middle, she also tried to associate with the young rich Qiu Shikai and make the road of love more tangential, but it ended in failure.
In the face of fate, effort is often not worth mentioning.
Later, presumably Sister Zhiling passed the hurdle in her heart and found a warm man who was said to be very emotionally stable, who could listen to her on the other end of the phone, even if she slept, the other party could still send a solid "I am".
I remember Professor Xue Zhaofeng once said that people have to do difficult work and talk about easy love. I think so, so when a person can jump out of the obsession to pursue a simple and comfortable emotional relationship and no longer compete with himself, it is probably a sign of further maturity.
When will Chengxu's "further step" come?
Summary
After listening to these four stories related to regret, do you think there is nothing to regret?
The reason why it is difficult to settle is because we always have too much intolerance for separation and too much expectation of completion.
But in fact, the star responsible for creating fantasy is also a member of all living beings, including celebrities, everyone must face one thing - the road of life must eventually be walked by themselves, and only they can always be with themselves.
Isn't it sung very well in the song - "Sometimes, when you get together and leave, nothing will last forever".
But at the same time, separation does not mean unfulfilled, and short companionship can be meaningful.
It can make a certain part of your clip wonderful without being blank, it can let you see your more real appearance in the continuous collision and running-in, it can build a warm harbor for you to resist the cold wind...
Therefore, in the end, hatred and pain will be diluted by time, and all that is really left is to look at each other and smile, and everything is indifferent in silence.
A still from "Dream of the Covered Bridge"
Author: Miss Bovary
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