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Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

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Recently, Yang Di revealed in the live broadcast that he broke up peacefully with his girlfriend who has been talking for more than ten years.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

Yang Di repeatedly explained that the two people were "calm, not miserable, they are very happy, and they have no plans to fall in love and get married for the time being."

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then
Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then
Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

But netizens didn't buy it.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then
Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

The war spread to Yang Di's relatives, and netizens attacked her mother indiscriminately.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

Even PO Zhang Quanjia Portrait has been speculated that the woman who was mosaicked may be his new girlfriend.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

Yang Di had to post an article, explaining again that there was no slag of "the first sword on the shore, the first to cut the person in the heart". It is important to explain that the young woman in the family portrait is her own sister.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

At the same time, he posted a WeChat chat record with his ex-girlfriend, saying that there were no victims and no debts to both parties to the breakup, and the relationship between the two was like a relative.

"The story has a good process, the ending is not as expected, but it is the best way for both of us."

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

Yang Di is not a popular star, and the point of this matter that is constantly on the hot search is that it has triggered a kind of "conceptual controversy" among the whole people.

Most netizens chased and called Yang Di a "scumbag" and questioned him for four reasons.

First, they have been in love for a long time, up to more than ten years, and they are living together, as Yang Di said, they are not married, but they are like husband and wife. Yang Di is 36 years old this year, and the woman is logically not young, but Yang Di never mentioned marriage, which consumed the woman's youth, time and energy.

The second is that Yang Di lightly admitted to breaking up in the live broadcast, which seemed cold and heartless in the eyes of netizens.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then
Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

The third is Yang Di before, has been selling "affectionate personalities", for the breakup, Yang Di once shared that lost love will cry all night, and in many variety shows, openly admitted that his girlfriend is his college classmate, sophomore year fell in love together, although he is an amateur, but he has never abandoned him, and he has not changed his heart even if he is now hot.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

Fourth, and most importantly, when he recorded "Flowers and Everything 2" as early as 2019, he boasted that Haikou said in front of hundreds of millions of viewers that he would definitely marry his girlfriend, and would never not marry, swearing that he could not do without her.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then
Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

After Yang Di's farce came out, the first person I thought of was Shen Teng.

The former Shen Teng and the current wife Wang Qi are also college lovers, the two met in Wei Shi, and they also loved each other funny, when rehearsing the sketch "Xunfu", they scolded each other, Shen Teng said Wang Qi "You act when you act, what kind of ass?" Take it back. Wang Qi replied: "My butt is naturally so upturned." ”

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

The two overcame many difficulties, and after graduation, Shen Teng performed in the then little-known happy twist performance, life was difficult to maintain, and he was addicted to games; At that time, Wang Qi had already won a lot of contracts with the role of Lani in "Railway Guerrilla".

In 2007, a year after graduation, Wang Qi proposed to break up, and Shen Teng finally realized that he needed to grow, get back together in various ways, and win the return of beauty.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

In 2012, Happy Twist Troupe finally ushered in spring, and Shen Teng's career took a big step forward. In the following three years, the "Shen Ma Group" shined on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala every year, and the golden pair was popular all over the country.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

In 2015, after "Charlotte Troubles", Shen Teng detonated the entire film circle.

But it was also that year, the 12th year of Shen Teng and Wang Qi's love, on a variety show "The son-in-law came to the door", and everyone realized that Shen Teng escaped marriage.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

Shen Teng explained that the time was not ripe and he was not yet capable.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

The tipping point of this incident was that on the stage of an issue of "Happy Comedian", the host invited Wang Qi to the stage to celebrate Shen Teng.

At that time, everyone was coaxing Shen Teng to kiss his girlfriend, but he didn't expect that Wang Qi's words made the scene embarrassed.

"He just kissed Ma Li, and he has to wash his mouth when he goes back."

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

Public opinion turned upside down, on the one hand, the screen audience who supported Shen Ma's group, and on the other hand, the audience who questioned Shen Teng's treachery of not marrying Wang Qi for 12 years.

Shen Teng is very clear about his situation, if I don't marry Wang Qi, I will be a sinner.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

When proposing, Wang Qi and her whole family cried bitterly, because marrying Shen Teng was her and her family's biggest wish.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

Her crying was more like a catharsis that she had endured for a long time and finally got what she wanted.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then
Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

Shen Teng's face was not very happy.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then
Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

The difficult thing about campus relationships is that it is an ignorant, unlinked to reality, and a man has no experience and trade-offs, but when a man can really deal with emotional problems maturely, his way of choosing his wife is almost entirely based on "reality".

This "reality" is your average score for his "sexual attraction", "family attractiveness", and "ability (or personality) attraction" in his current social status.

But men will not admit this, after all, men are best at avoiding problems, such as Yang Di.

In an earlier interview, Yang Di had already made it clear that he had been with friends for more than ten years, but recently something had gone wrong, and the two did not know how to go on, and in the end they were not sure at all.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then
Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

After Yang Di finished speaking, Aya asked, "Is she the one you want to keep going?" Yang Di did not answer this question head-on, but said, "I can't imagine life without her."

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then
Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

Aya persuaded Yang Di to act early, and Yang Di began to shirk, not because he didn't want to, but because he was too busy with work and didn't have the opportunity to meet.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

In the end, Aya gently "knocked" Yang Di: So if you don't act again, if you still separate the two places like this, you just use time to let her go.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

The problem of two people, in the final analysis, is the privacy of two people, and outsiders can only speculate through limited information. Of course, I can't feel what the "contradiction" is, but in an interview, the mode of getting along between the two people was revealed, and money was also a point that Yang Di could not avoid.

He said that when he was not popular, he was taken to New York to go shopping, and he did not dare to enter the brand's jewelry store, pretending to find a coffee shop to rest.

Before I sat down, I received a deduction message, and my ex-girlfriend bought expensive diamond earrings.

When Xiao S jokingly asked if the other party saw his money, he waved his hand again and again, but Xiao S insisted that "this is how you just said the whole paragraph."

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then
Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then
Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

Yang Di also admitted to Xiao S that his ex-girlfriend spent more money on himself than his family.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then
Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

Xiao S pressed further, "Does your mom know she's been spending your money?" Yang Di's expression was almost suffocated, and he replied, "I probably don't know that the amount is so large." ”

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then
Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

In my opinion, this interview is translated as, cruelly, "Yang Di used some kind of flower in place to make up for the moral guilt in his heart, and the cruel truth of the essence: the other party is not the person he willingly marries." ”

Didn't Shen Teng overturn the car? There was.

At that time, when Shen Teng won the championship in "Happy Comedian", Wu Xiubo asked him: "How did you do it after 12 years of dating and not getting married?" Shen Teng replied jokingly: "You are insisting." ”

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then
Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

This became Shen Teng's biggest black spot, and at that time, he was also chased and scolded as a "scumbag" like Yang Di today.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

Whether it is Yang Di or Shen Teng, I am actually not so interested in the right and wrong of individual private feelings.

Especially today, the emotional version of modern men and women has too many choices, you and I will, is the best result, sometimes, really not marriage and children.

In my opinion, the best attitude and most mature attitude of modern men and women to feelings in private is first of all to admit the needs of feelings - feelings are put to point, one person breaks free and one person picks it up, men don't have to be incomprehensible, women really don't need to be pitiful.

It is not that there is no willingness to wrap around the fingers, but the dry reality of modern society has become more and more unsuitable for "love", a delicate and perishable species that needs too much care.

But ordinary people can, entertainers cannot.

Because of the artist's special status, the moral standards he \ she bears have always existed as the guidance of a certain social atmosphere.

The physiological differences between men and women (birth age limit), the patriarchal "white and thin" aesthetic that pervades East Asia, the unfriendliness of society to women's employment, and the final result is indeed - in a long relationship, the loss is greater for women, and the scope of her choices has been seriously narrowed.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

Yang Di can't be unclear about this, can make the ex-girlfriend so cooperative, shut up, in addition to more than ten years of relationship foundation, the sentence "no different from divorce, will take care of each other to a certain extent forever", the subtext behind should be monetary compensation.

Yang Di's essential problem is not breaking up, but not realizing that his traffic contains the "affectionate personality" established, and traffic, for artists, is simply money itself.

Relying on affectionate character to win popularity on the road, and now being eaten back, questioned, and speculated maliciously, is the "fruit" that he should swallow, and he can't want it both and want it as a person.

Yang Di's mistake, Shen Teng almost made it back then

And Shen Teng can see much more clearly than him, which is also the reason why Shen Teng is successful enough, success is patience and trade-offs, it doesn't matter who you love the most in private, the important thing is that you take responsibility.

Many times, responsibility is not what you want to do, but what you have to do.

I want to remind all artists, especially male artists, to carefully establish affectionate characters, because the price behind is very large, there is no shortcut in the essence of this world, those easy to come traffic, the price has long been marked behind it, and the water can carry the boat and overturn the boat.

There is a saying that goes well, "The best actors must keep the mystery and don't let everyone know the color of your socks today." ”

This requirement is too difficult for today's actors, but those who can reach the top and succeed have anti-human endurance, self-correction, and recognition of the cost, abstinence.

Finally, I believe in this ancient truth that personality is all, and destiny is the manifestation of personality.

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