I've never seen a star in domestic entertainment so eager to enter marriage...
After Yang said this, many people must have his name in their minds, Zhang Yunlong.
When interviewing his ideals, he was even more blunt about wanting to get married and have children.
A while ago, he went to the sixth season of "Wife's Romantic Trip" as a guest, and when asked why, he replied again that he was of marriageable age and yearned for a life with a wife.
Seeing that he said that he wanted to get married at the marriageable age (34), the sheep thought of a documentary nominated for an Oscar for Best Feature Film this year, "Children in the Mist".
The child in the film is only 14 years old and is about to be urged to get married, no, to be precise, it is a marriage robbery, and in the most cruel way, he was kidnapped and forced to marry on the day of Chinese New Year's Eve night...
This is not a movie plot, it is a story that is happening in reality.
Marriage of the Hermon
It's just a real version of the family
In a mountainous area in Vietnam, children are happily playing at home, watching this scene of laughter and play, and those who originally watched should feel the innocence and cuteness of the children.
But listening closely, it is creepy, the game they play is marriage robbery, and the story of catching the bride is really played out in life.
For marriage robbery, men stand in the position of vested interests, they do not think that there is any problem with such behavior, and have long regarded marriage robbery as a custom.
After the wedding ceremony, everything was as usual, and the men gathered together to dance, laugh and celebrate the couple's marriage.
When toasting the couple, Qi's father laughed and teased, you can't flirt with other girls when you get married, you can only make do with your wife.
The other men at the scene also echoed, completely unaware that such words were very disrespectful to the two newcomers.
And the women gather together to introduce the local wedding robbery customs to the female director Jane while working, and they say the most terrifying things in a flat tone, and men may kidnap other women when they are drunk.
After she finished speaking, she realized that the director was not a local person, and lowered her head and added, anyway, you are not a Hmong tribe, they can't force you, the tone is envy, but also a helpless sigh of their fate.
In the conversation with director Jane, I found that although Qi's mother also came to the current family because of marriage robbery, she seems to be accustomed to marriage robbery in the village.
Lian Qi had the same attitude when she told her sister about being robbed of marriage.
On New Year's Day, my mother was drunk and did not see her sister, and my sister thought she was going to stay, but my sister was robbed of marriage on the same day.
Her sister's childhood was caught off guard and forced to end, and she laughed and told the story of her sister's marriage robbery, while slowly and methodically pulling her hair, as if telling an irrelevant story.
At that time, she did not know the cruelty of marriage robbery, as if all this was far away from her, until she herself became the next person to be robbed.
Chinese New Year's Eve night of marriage robbery
New Year's nightmare
Qi is not the kind of ignorant girl who does not know the world and does not understand the affairs of men and women.
Before being robbed of marriage, she used to count how many exes she had to the camera, and when she said that the other party found another girl when she was with her, she would not be sad, let alone entangled, but felt free.
Soon, she meets a new boy, Wang.
Although the two met for the first time, they were not too restrained, they took selfies with the camera and watched the children play on the swing together.
As soon as the camera turned, Qi happily held hands with Wang, and the two were like a little couple, but the director knew the local wedding robbery customs and couldn't help but worry about Qi.
Seeing that the director has been following him, the boy turns back and promises that he is very decent and will never kidnap Qi.
And at home, Qi's mother was worried about crying, and called Qi to tell her to sleep in his sister's bed, but if it didn't work, you would sit next to the fireplace and try to stay awake.
She was afraid that Qi would step into marriage like this, and the family's farm work and pig feeding would fall on her again.
Her husband is drunk every day, and after that, the burden of the family can only be carried by herself, and she hopes that Qi will not be robbed of marriage and return home to be with her.
But she knew better than anyone the meaning of Qi's stay this night, because she herself was exploited by the man and had to marry.
When she learned that her daughter could not return, she had to accept this fact and began to inquire about the other party's family situation.
"How many children?" "Are both parents alive?" "Is there money in the family?"
They went to the man's house to pick up Qi, and Qi's attitude was very firm, that is, not to get married.
However, the other party firmly believes that after going through the "process", everything will return to normal, and marriage robbery is nothing more than a catalyst to promote marriage, just do it.
Wang's seven aunts and eight aunts came to help, pulling Qi, wanting to take her back to Wang's home.
This form of marriage robbery is brutal and rude, most girls can't resist, don't have the strength to get rid of, or even if they stay at home and don't see the future, they half push and half get from each other.
But Qi has always been firm in her own ideas, Wang is good and will be a good husband, but I don't want to get married yet, I'm not ready.
What a blunt refusal, in the eyes of the marriage robbers are empty words, they only know that as long as the girl is snatched, the man has a daughter-in-law and establishes his own new family, just like everyone.
Ki screamed and cried from beginning to end, constantly kicking and beating the other party, she tried her best to break free, but she was outnumbered.
They lifted her directly, even though her pants were ripped off, and Kiki didn't care about face, just wanted to escape this nightmare moment.
Qi saw that her parents were conniving at each other to kidnap her, she could only ask the director for help, tearing her heart to the camera for help, "Jane, save me." ”
Normally, the director should not interfere with the life of the subject, but she couldn't bear to watch Qi being dragged away to get married like a lamb to be slaughtered, and the director stepped forward to help stop this crazy marriage robbery.
The parents of both sides looked at Qi with a resolute attitude, let the two go and drink the breakup wine, and there will be no emotional connection after that.
The spirit was like cutting her throat, but as soon as Qi drank it, she couldn't help but vomit after drinking, and then quickly ran away.
Fortunately, Qi was able to escape this marriage robbery, but how many women lost their freedom under such a vulgarity and were forced to become brides.
What is even more chilling and frightening is that marriage robbery is undoubtedly the objectification of women and the deprivation of their personal freedom, but whenever marriage robbery occurs, other women will always appear on the side who help drag.
Even they used to be the heroes who cried out not to marry.
From victim to perpetrator
Inheritors of vulgar culture
When watching this documentary, what makes the sheep shudder the most is the reaction of two female immediate family members in the family.
Knowing that Qi stayed at the man's house, director Jane cried worriedly.
She feared that this girl who had a bright future as a flag raiser at school would lose her life at school, replicating the same traditions as thousands of women in the village and not escaping fate.
Compared with the director, Qi's mother is much calmer, and comforts the director not to cry, anyway, this is the path her daughter chooses.
Qi's mother, as a victim of marriage robbery, knows what it is like to enter such a dark marriage, her husband is often drunk, and the big things and small things at home are almost all arranged by women.
After having children, you can relax a little, also because there are daughters to share.
Thinking of this, my mother began to reluctantly marry Qi, because after she got married, the work in the family would have to be done by herself.
Although there was a younger brother in the family, my mother did not want other men to share her suffering.
Such thoughts are also attached to the older generation, during the marriage robbery, the female director Jane wanted to help, but was directly stopped by her grandmother and cursed, get away, leave her alone.
In fact, whether it is a mother or a grandmother, they are all victims of marriage robbery.
However, after they entered the procedure of getting married and having children after being robbed of marriage, they automatically changed their identities.
Even if the marriage is unhappy, it will still allow the younger generation of women to continue their own path, and they will involuntarily submit to and assimilate to men after entering marriage.
This cycle of bad habits passed down from generation to generation is difficult to break, which leads Ki to treat marriage robbery as a game before she has personally experienced it.
Even if her own sister had to conceive a second child at the age of 17 because of marriage robbery, she could smile and say this fact full of blood and tears.
And what about the attitude of other men?
As a beneficiary of the marriage robbery, Qi's father will also joke to the director with a smile on his face, can I help my son kidnap you?
Young men will continue to marry wives in the form of marriage robbery, just like their fathers.
When he sat down and thought about it, he only felt that he was just a child, and he didn't understand what kidnapping and robbing really meant.
He thinks that it is good if the woman agrees to marry him, but it will be sad if she is rejected, and this sadness comes from confusion about the future.
Qi's refusal to rob the marriage this time was successful, she continued to study at school, at home, she had secretly determined that she must keep studying, and then find a job, and when she grew up, she would be able to take her mother to see places she had not been to and make up for everything she missed for her mother.
This is the meaning of reading, letting her know that there is a wider world waiting for her outside.
At the end of the film, Qi slowly walks towards the mountain, and her figure is getting smaller and smaller.
After a few years, what is the current situation of Qi? All the audience cares about this girl who is struggling to break free from the custom of marriage robbery to study.
The director once replied at an event that Qi returned to school at that time and was admitted to a university that could be attended for free, but because of the epidemic, she was unable to go to school, returned to her hometown to get married and have children, and the director could not contact her after that.
After seeing this news, the sheep's mind was all about her standing in the classroom and reading aloud "Have strong mental talents, overcome danger, and not be tempted." ”
Qi's dream did not come true, and there were many girls like her in the village who had to give up their dreams because they entered marriage too early.
Fortunately, the director filmed this part of the women, so that more people could see their lives full of blood and tears and kidnapping.
The three-year documentary was nominated for this year's Oscars because everyone who saw it was stung by its true cruelty.
Fortunately, there is such a director who is willing to focus the lens on this unknown group, and thank her for bravely presenting the work in its entirety.
Perhaps this one prying point will affect the entire world of women.